going down on ladies?

[CreamCow]

I personally don't like it, but I know my GF LOVES it, so I do it for her every now and then. I was wondering if anybody has any ideas as to making it better for me? It's the taste/smell that throws me off, and I don't like getting my face "wet" if you will.

Do i need to just get over it and go in for it?
Should I ask her to clean up before I go downtown?
does it taste/smell better if I have a mint or a hard candy in my mouth?


idea's here?

 

[EJFan]

well... the only thing that comes to mind for me is to try a dental dam or saran wrap or some kind of barrier between you the vagina in question.

in any event, kudos to you for doing something you're not thrilled with just because she likes it. i suspect that if you keep at it you won't be hesitant as time passes.

 

[Eilan]

Take a shower or a bath together. Man junk doesn't always smell springtime fresh, either, ya know.

 

[CreamCow]

I'd feel bad putting something overtop of her vagina to do it. She deserves better than that, I'm just seeing if there are any options for me...

There have been times when I didn't mind doing it. Once it even tasted good, but that was once in the year I've been with her.

 

[CreamCow]

Take a shower or a bath together. Man junk doesn't always smell springtime fresh, either, ya know.

I'm aware of that, but if I'm expecting oral from her, i usually shower no less than two hours before she comes over so it's not so bad for her. If I can't shower, I'll even hop in the bathroom real fast with a wash cloth to clean it up just incase... I don't want to ask her to do that... she gets offended if I tell her she's not the freshest smelling and I don't want to go down on her, even if I say it nicely.


Like I said, though, one of the problems is that I don't like getting vagina juice on my face... is there a better position than just putting my face between her legs while she's on her back so I don't get all wet in the face?

 

[EJFan]

I'd feel bad putting something overtop of her vagina to do it. She deserves better than that, I'm just seeing if there are any options for me...

There have been times when I didn't mind doing it. Once it even tasted good, but that was once in the year I've been with her.

yeah. i understand that.

eilan makes a good point... the shower can maybe quell some of your concerns and it's just damn fun.

 

[CreamCow]

I'll try the shower thing. We do that sometimes but I don't usually go down on her right after a shower 'cause if she's expecting that, she'll usually rape me right when we/she gets out.

 

[kiwichyck]

I did hear somewhere recently that for some people this is an aquired taste. Hopefully, if you are happy to continue doing it, it will grow on you until you come to like it.

If it really is very unpleasant for you then yeah, go with the flavour changing ideas. Suck on a mint, use a barrier, something like that. Just be a little careful about what food products you introduce into that area. Try to avoid flavours that have the potential to burn sensitive skin or sugary things that encourage yeast infections. Flavoured lube may be the way to go.

Otherwise, good on you! It's nice to hear that you are really trying to make her happy.

 

[Eilan]

I'm aware of that, but if I'm expecting oral from her, i usually shower no less than two hours before she comes over so it's not so bad for her.

You expect it from her but you only return the favor every so often?

I stand by what I said. Take a shower or bath together. If the smell/taste isn't to your liking after that, then you might want to suggest to her that she get checked out by her doc because she might have an infection.

Some women, however, just naturally have a stronger taste/smell than others.

 

[dcraz]

I personally don't like it, but I know my GF LOVES it, so I do it for her every now and then. I was wondering if anybody has any ideas as to making it better for me? It's the taste/smell that throws me off, and I don't like getting my face "wet" if you will.

Do i need to just get over it and go in for it?
Should I ask her to clean up before I go downtown?
does it taste/smell better if I have a mint or a hard candy in my mouth?


idea's here?

Well I suppose some people have different preferences here. I for one, don't understand the question. Meaning I don't understand how could you NOT like it.

First and foremost, my greatest pleasure is in pleasing my woman. Even above my own pleasure or release. So I can stay down there indefinitiely, often just playing. Pleasing her in a feel good sense for an extended period (vs. going straight for he "O" as fast as possible).

Second, I for one, find the natural scent and aroma of an aroused woman truly intoxicating. I can't get enough. It fuels my fire like nothing else. Sure she should be 'clean' or 'fresh' but she doesn't have to be scoured with abrasive cleansers.

Finally, I absolutely LOVE having her wetness smeared ALL OVER my face! The wetter, the better. Makes me lap at her like a dog on a hot summer afternoon. Especially if I am down there for awhile and it soaks into my mustache and goatee. Then one long, deep breath and I can smell her all night long and even the next morning. Nothing better. At least for me.

But you need to be careful with mints and candies. Sugar can be a major problem for her down there as it creates a major breeding ground for infections and such.

Nothing better than rubbing my sore ears after a long night of diving!

OK so enough about me, you asked for suggestions. Not sure about it being an 'acquired' taste if you will. But you might find, themore you do it, the more you like it. Or you might begin responding more positively to HER reaction if you go down on her a little more frequently.

And yes, showers can be a big help. Both for cleaning her up a bit but also for a little soapy, wet foreplay too.

 

[CreamCow]

You expect it from her but you only return the favor every so often?

I stand by what I said. Take a shower or bath together. If the smell/taste isn't to your liking after that, then you might want to suggest to her that she get checked out by her doc because she might have an infection.

Some women, however, just naturally have a stronger taste/smell than others.

whoa there, don't make me sound like an asshole, here. I don't expect it, but if she does decide she wants to do it, I like to make sure it smells ok for HER. I don't go without returning the favor in some way or another that's just for her.

 

[Eilan]

whoa there, don't make me sound like an asshole, here. I don't expect it, but if she does decide she wants to do it, I like to make sure it smells ok for HER. I don't go without returning the favor in some way or another that's just for her.

Hey, I was just quoting you. *shrug*

 

[CreamCow]

And I thought this forum was full of people who didn't judge others. *shrug*

I'll try to be nice about it, but please don't accuse people of things you don't have all the facts on. It doesn't feel good.

 

[dcraz]

And I thought this forum was full of people who didn't judge others. *shrug*

I'll try to be nice about it, but please don't accuse people of things you don't have all the facts on. It doesn't feel good.

Relax. I don't think anyone was being overly judgemental on you here. It's just that this is a subject about which people tend to have very strong feelings.

Obviously I do. But I was not trying to be critical so much as describe my enthusiasm. As I suggested, it might not be an acquired taste so much as something you begin enjoying more and more. Especially if she responds well to it and her reaction further increases your enthusiasm.

Regarding the smell and taste... A shower is a great idea. But this will only clean the outer area. Granted this is the area most prone to being a little dirty if you will. But if you really get after it like many of us enjoy, then you will be reaching her inside flavor which may very well have a distinctive taste. And this will certainly not be cleaned or masked with a simple shower. I happen to enjoy that taste, but you may not.

 

[Straight-8]

And I thought this forum was full of people who didn't judge others. *shrug*

Wow, you are new to this aren't you!

I have to echo the advice you've been given. Practice makes perfect.

Eat oysters - raw -good ones! I know it sounds cliched but there is a similarity and if you can associate the taste of pussy with something great like the taste of oysters you'll enjoy it even more .

Sounds to me like you've got a bit of a hang-up about pussy juice on your face. Next time try watching porn or doing whatever makes you want to get down and dirty; do the shower thing; toy with her pussy - use your fingers in her and focus your licking on her clit (don't need to get your face quite so 'in there' ). Don't push yourself too hard but see if you can get into it. It should be fun for you too. Might take a while but I'm guessing your girlfriend won't mind you practicing.

If you can get yourself into it, having her ride your face can be a great turn on! Have a face cloth near by for afterwards - you won't notice the wet-face while you are doing it.

 

[goon]

this may sound kinda wierd but for some reason ive noticed that when
my girlfriend has been drinking a bit she tends not to get as wet down
there and that there is not really any noticable smell

then again that could be just her

 

[EJFan]

that's because alcohol dehydrates you.

 

[christian1971]

Is she shaved?

I notice that when I have a woman that is shaved the musk order is much less, although wetter.

So if your G/F is not shaved see if she will shave for you, there is also lotions that is made for oral sex that improves on the taste? Hope that works out for you?

 

[CreamCow]

yeah, she's shaved, so that's not an issue.

I don't like the feeling of being forced to do anything either. We've done the whole 69 thing and that was ok. That's the time I'm referring to when it tasted good, but it wasn't wet when it started out, either... I think part of the problem is that I get her so excited before I go downtown that she gets wet before I get there, and I don't like all the excess fluid.

Also, when you're talking about getting it in your mustache and goatee, I have a goatee also and I don't like the feeling of it getting in there, which is why I don't like to get my face wet with it all...


She's gone to Florida for spring break and I'm still at home, so I won't have seen her for a week when we do see eachother again, so I'm anticipating a pretty crazy night the first night. She also started her period a few days before she left so we didn't get to have any goodbye nothin. I know she's ready for me ('cause she's been saying so on the phone). Hopefully we can both control ourselves when we see eachother and take a shower without going too far before going back to the bedroom to do a little more foreplay. Maybe then I can eat her out and enjoy it 'cause I miss her so much, pleasing her is my first priority if we get things started (which most likely will).

The advice so far is good, thanks everyone. I won't be trying the oyster idea... not a big seafood fan, but the idea about the rag sounds great. Just get a wet washcloth for afterwords... We live in the dorms so it's hard to get to the bathroom with a face full of pussy and not being noticed.

 

[anony13]

Here's a cheap trick I use....

Burry your nose into her pelvic bone are skin... and breathe through your mouth. It always works for me

 

[kiwichyck]

Sorry guys but that's pretty sad.

I now have SOOOO much more appreciation for my dear husband.

Carry on.

 

[Hisbabydoll26]

I personally don't like it, but I know my GF LOVES it, so I do it for her every now and then. I was wondering if anybody has any ideas as to making it better for me? It's the taste/smell that throws me off, and I don't like getting my face "wet" if you will.

Do i need to just get over it and go in for it?
Should I ask her to clean up before I go downtown?
does it taste/smell better if I have a mint or a hard candy in my mouth?


idea's here?

So glad my hubby isn't like this.....*gives you a hug* for trying at least

 

[Cathleen]

I don't think anyone should feel forced to do anything they don't want. Sexual or not... we can't all like everything.

I'm remembering on a Talk Sex with Sue episode a caller talked about excessive wetness. She is so practical -- she said keep a wet cloth or towel at hand and use it to sop up the wetness. Seems so simple you know?

I do think you'll want to talk with her about your likes and dislikes. You're in an intimate, very personal relationship and while I know that makes it more difficult to talk about it behooves us to do our best. Let her know it's hard to talk about - I'd be nervous and being honest is the best way to go.

That conversation should be outside of the bedroom, in my opinion.

Welcome to Lit - it is a nice place, just sometimes one dimentional words don't come across as intended, I hope you'll keep participating.

Here is the link to Sue Johanson's site.


http://talksexwithsue.com/

 

[Norajane]

I personally don't like it, but I know my GF LOVES it, so I do it for her every now and then. I was wondering if anybody has any ideas as to making it better for me? It's the taste/smell that throws me off, and I don't like getting my face "wet" if you will.

Do i need to just get over it and go in for it?
Should I ask her to clean up before I go downtown?
does it taste/smell better if I have a mint or a hard candy in my mouth?


idea's here?

Is it just her smell/taste/wetness that you don't like, or do you not like going down on any women?

If you just don't like eating pussy, then you have a bigger problem than if it's just that your girlfriend sometimes hasn't showered recently.

 

[CreamCow]

She's my first girlfriend, so the first girl I've ever gone down on or done anything with, even kissing... That might put some perspective into things.

I don't mind going down on her when it smells good, but I've only experienced it once where it didn't smell at all. Doesn't mean she smells all the time... just when I feel like going down on her. And even sometimes it's not so bad, I can stand it for a little while, but I have trouble getting into it.