going down on a woman

[And1]

in a few days ill be goin down on my gf for the first time...hopefully. i read every story in the how to section about this and i was wondering if anybody had any other tips.

 

[huskie]

in a few days ill be goin down on my gf for the first time...hopefully. i read every story in the how to section about this and i was wondering if anybody had any other tips.

simply keep easy pressure on her clit and listen carefully to her moans as to know when your doing it right or when your doing it wrong........ it's a learning process for each women you are with cause they will all differ some.

huskie

 

[Camilla]

Tease Tease Tease

Don't go directly for her clit and start lapping away. Make her really want it. Work up to it gradully with soft kisses on her inner thighs, her mons pubis, her lower abdomen. She'll never be quite sure of when you are going to take the plunge.

Anticipation can be sooooo good!

Once you've become familiar with each other more, you might want to try one of my favorites: Flip her over on her belly and go down on her that way. Part of the appeal of this position is not being able to see what is going on. She'll be staring at the headboard, gripping the sheets, and begging for mercy.

 

[CoolidgEffect]

Re: Tease Tease Tease

Don't go directly for her clit and start lapping away. Make her really want it. Work up to it gradully with soft kisses on her inner thighs, her mons pubis, her lower abdomen. She'll never be quite sure of when you are going to take the plunge.

Anticipation can be sooooo good!

Once you've become familiar with each other more, you might want to try one of my favorites: Flip her over on her belly and go down on her that way. Part of the appeal of this position is not being able to see what is going on. She'll be staring at the headboard, gripping the sheets, and begging for mercy.

I think the "don't go right for the clit" is an excellent point. Also, don't just lick her clit. There is a whole new world to explore down there. With your lips and tongue play, kiss, lick and suck on her lips. Plunge your tongue into her vagina and drag it up her lips and push it under the hood covering her clit. You can repeat this. Suck on her lips while rubing your tongue along her lips and clitoris. Pinch her clitoris with your lips and tongue or suck it. Use your fingers too. Holding her pussy open for your mouth or plunging your finger into her to feel how hot she is getting. Don't just do any one thing for too long. Don't just do one thing. Listen to her carefully and judge her responses. You can driver her crazy by teasing her, bringing her close and moveing away from her clit or pussy entirely. Then come back and build her up again.

Have fun, it can be a wonderful tiime for both of you.

 

[huskie]

one more thing!

I forgot to mention! Some women REALLY enjoy the Humming effect!! Again, as you gently suck on her clit, Humm.. the vibration of this drives them over the edge!!!
and never beardown hard UNLESS she pulls your head down hard on her.

 

[MsTerious]

Re: Re: Tease Tease Tease

I think the "don't go right for the clit" is an excellent point. Also, don't just lick her clit. There is a whole new world to explore down there. With your lips and tongue play, kiss, lick and suck on her lips. Plunge your tongue into her vagina and drag it up her lips and push it under the hood covering her clit. You can repeat this. Suck on her lips while rubing your tongue along her lips and clitoris. Pinch her clitoris with your lips and tongue or suck it. Use your fingers too. Holding her pussy open for your mouth or plunging your finger into her to feel how hot she is getting. Don't just do any one thing for too long. Don't just do one thing. Listen to her carefully and judge her responses. You can driver her crazy by teasing her, bringing her close and moveing away from her clit or pussy entirely. Then come back and build her up again.

Have fun, it can be a wonderful tiime for both of you.

Phew, I've gotta fan myself off after that!

 

[DéjàNu]

Read that

Oral Sex: What Do Women Like?

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

pay attention....

listen carefully to her moans as to know when your doing it right or when your doing it wrong........ it's a learning process for each women you are with cause they will all differ some.

huskie

What huskie said is right...if you pay attention to her...the way she moves..the way she moans..the way she pushes her body up against your mouth....you will do just fine...it really is a personal experience..what works for one woman may not work for the next...so...be watch..listen...move with her...she will lead the way....

 

[BlueyedTexan2]

No right way or wrong way

If you pay attention to her body and how she responds and just remember what you did the times her toes curl you should be ok.
Every woman is a little different in where her spots are and how much pressure is just right. Listen to how she is breathing and if she moans more when you do a little some thing different.

If you do that I bet you will find you will drive her crazy !!!!

 

[dreamer]

This is quite possibly my favourite sexual activity. Now having said that I have noticed with just a relatively small sample that what woman like varies DRAMATICALLY in this area. Talk to her, be very attentive to her movements, sounds, etc...

There is tons of imformation out there about different things to try/do whatever...but I've found the experimenting and discovery process to be a bunch of fun.

As for the first time...don't get too complicated. Start simple and see what she likes...then proceed with more.

Best of luck to you, and most of all enjoy.

 

[Sweet2Caress]

my favorite subject...*blush*

 

[dpod]

It's for her

Another point, don't act like you doing her a favor. Total enthusiam is important. Eventhough I love to go down on a woman, it is her I'm pleasing.

 

[ClubIrish]

I agree

my girlfriend was relunctant at first, nobody had done it on her before me, now she can't get enough!
Be attentive, respond to her.
Vary what you do.
Don't be afraid to ask her exactly what she wants.
Have fun.

 

[DuckLover]

Great thread!

I'm with Dreamer on this one-- performing oral sex on a woman is the BEST! I haven't yet found a view I like better than looking up her torso from between her legs; gazing between her breasts, seeing her back arch, head twisting, face contorted in ecstasy. I love feeling her entire body tensing around me, her hands clenching the sheets or my hand. Mmmmm...

And yes, variety and teasing is the key. Cunnilingus is one of the greatest gifts you can give a woman (your gf is very lucky!); many guys are reluctant at best to perform oral sex. (Idiots!!) She will greatly appreciate how incredible you're making her feel. And never worry about technique; this is one case where enthusiasm more than makes up for it. Besides, as everyone's mentioned, no technique is universally effective. Have fun and explore!

 

[Guest]

Re: It's for her

Another point, don't act like you doing her a favor. Total enthusiam is important. Eventhough I love to go down on a woman, it is her I'm pleasing.

I agree. Strange as it may sound, I enjoy giving a woman oral more than receiving it.

 

[DevilBoy79]

in a few days ill be goin down on my gf for the first time...hopefully. i read every story in the how to section about this and i was wondering if anybody had any other tips.

take your time, payattention to her body, it will tell you if she likes it, even if she doesnt verbally say it

 

[TumbledLove]

..just as she's approaching orgasm, take her clit between your teeth and chomp down really hard until she screams. Girls love that kind of thing.

 

[bunny bondage]

..just as she's approaching orgasm, take her clit between your teeth and chomp down really hard until she screams. Girls love that kind of thing.

AHH! NO! i really hope you're joking....i mean, some light biting is GREAT but PLEASE no "chomping!" the skin on my clit is very delicate and has been injured in the past, and it's a BAD HURT. so unless she's a very hardcore masochist, i'd avoid trying to pierce her clit with your teeth.

as for advice, all i can do is tell you what i like. personally, the addition of a finger or two rubbing on my g-spot (put your finger inside her and do a little "come here" motion with it, curling your finger upwards) and some nibbling on the labia is fantastic, and even some light biting on my clit, but nothing that would scar! ^_^

 

[TumbledLove]

AHH! NO! i really hope you're joking....

well, duh. I only suck, lick, and nibble. You've really had it injured though? yikes. My ex used to tell me (after many orgasms), "Stop, or you'll break it!" I didn't know she was being serious. :O

 

[bunny bondage]

yes, a former dom was just a little too "eager" with me, and the size of his cock was really just too much for me. i was literally torn apart. OW. i did, however, learn about my body and when (even though the pain was bearable) to use a safeword for my own protection.

 

[Guest]

I like to roll my tongue inside the twat and then nibble the clit lips, gently.

 

[Alice_In_Chains]

I'll just tell you this. Alot of guys missinterperete the term "Eating pussy". Please and I don't think I'm alone here DON'T USE YOUR TEETH!! It's very sensitive there alot of nerve endings. So kiss,lick, suck but don't bite at least not hard.

 

[dpod]

Ok to put it in way us guys can understand.
Image a woman about to engulf your dick when she shows her pearly whites. Instant fear and pain. Not good, unless you're into that kind of thing.
A question for the ladies: Is a soft tonging better than a rougher lick?

I'll just tell you this. Alot of guys missinterperete the term "Eating pussy". Please and I don't think I'm alone here DON'T USE YOUR TEETH!! It's very sensitive there alot of nerve endings. So kiss,lick, suck but don't bite at least not hard.

 

[Sweet2Caress]

Ok to put it in way us guys can understand.
Image a woman about to engulf your dick when she shows her pearly whites. Instant fear and pain. Not good, unless you're into that kind of thing.
A question for the ladies: Is a soft tonging better than a rougher lick?

Well, each woman is different, but generally starting out softer is better. There are different stages of sensitivity. Just pay attention to your partner. Look to see if there is pain or pleasure in her face. If she wants/needs more pressure especially just before an orgasm she might pull you into her pussy, and hold your head there, and grind into your face! LOL That would be a very good sign that she's enjoying it! Maybe a snorkel would be a good idea......hehehe

 

[dpod]

Thanks,
I've been on the bench for a while, but I figured that the best way to find out what women want is to ask them.
BTW, getting pulled into a woman's pussy and held there while she organisms, that does sound wonderful.
dpod

Well, each woman is different, but generally starting out softer is better. There are different stages of sensitivity. Just pay attention to your partner. Look to see if there is pain or pleasure in her face. If she wants/needs more pressure especially just before an orgasm she might pull you into her pussy, and hold your head there, and grind into your face! LOL That would be a very good sign that she's enjoying it! Maybe a snorkel would be a good idea......hehehe