Give me ideas!!!!

[CelticFrog]

Okay guys (and gals) I need your help.

Haven't done anything new and spiffy with our marriage in a while... Yeah, our sex is great. But it's in a rut. And we don't talk about it. (Or is it that I just can't break away from those particular inhibitions???)
Anyhow, my question I am posing to you all is this:
What are some ideas for spicing up an evening of sex?
Here's the basic scenario:
- Hubby goes to work for swing shift.
- I take care of small screaming thing for several hours until it finally dozes off around 9:30 PM.
- I either play computer games, do work, or putz around online until around midnight when hubby comes home.
- We either have sex or he plays computer games and I go to sleep.
- Rarely, we have morning sex. (Today was one of those days!!! )
- We don't really talk about sex... I don't think we know how.
- I would prefer nonverbal starters for encounters.

Have I been picky enough yet? Geez...
Ang

 

[flawed_ethics]

Bedroom sex or sex in general?

Can't speak much for the bedroom sex - sounds like the kid is playing a nasty obstacle. A night of painting the town red might do some good - but the kid might be too distracting (Is he/she okay? Should we call?). Depends what either of you are comfortable doing. Seems you're both a little hung up about getting it revved up again.

You could dress more provocatively. Not necessarily costumes (although it's another aspect to consider), just some eye candy for when he gets home.

Leave some erotic literature lying about. Maybe dirty up the web browser's History list with some choice picks.

Finger his ass while giving head?

Just some ideas, I'm not one to dispense advice. I heartily recommend getting other's opinions first.

 

[ifitsfundoit]

Okay guys (and gals) I need your help.

Haven't done anything new and spiffy with our marriage in a while... Yeah, our sex is great. But it's in a rut. And we don't talk about it. (Or is it that I just can't break away from those particular inhibitions???)
Anyhow, my question I am posing to you all is this:
What are some ideas for spicing up an evening of sex?
Here's the basic scenario:
- Hubby goes to work for swing shift.
- I take care of small screaming thing for several hours until it finally dozes off around 9:30 PM.
- I either play computer games, do work, or putz around online until around midnight when hubby comes home.
- We either have sex or he plays computer games and I go to sleep.
- Rarely, we have morning sex. (Today was one of those days!!! )
- We don't really talk about sex... I don't think we know how.
- I would prefer nonverbal starters for encounters.

Have I been picky enough yet? Geez...
Ang

If you do nothing else in life, learn to talk to about your sex life!!

A relationship is not built on sex, but it never ceases to amaze me how many relationships get messy for one sex related reason or another.


Ok...some ideas...buy a magazine to read together; get an adult video for you both to watch; wear something sexy; let him catch you masturbating; read some erotica together; errr.....there must be loads more;....
do whatever it is you do normally in bed in a different sequence; try some new positions....

I'm sure there are a stack more things that I can't think of right now.

Hope I've been of help

 

[Astro]

How about a weekend away? Get a relative/friend to take care of the screaming thing and have a weekend with nothing but yourselves.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Lead up slow...but start doing romantic things, like leaving cute little notes around. Gradually, make those notes slightly sexual. Imagine when he gets in his car to go to work, there is a dirty little note on his dash. When he opens up his wallet, there is another reminder of what you have planned for him(whatever it is). Call him at work if you can, and tease him some more. By teh time he gets home, he will be so worked up, he'll be filled with animal lust or something.

I know that would work for me.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

I think they need to communicate more.
hmm could try a little game.
rent a porn video.
and put pause in the middle...... and both agree to reanact the next scene to your best of abilities.
and then press play and see what the next seen is.

hehe

its fun. I did that with bf.

 

[BirdsWife]

Notes are always fun.

You can leave him one that he could reply to to get a feel for how open he might be to trying something new. Share a fantasy with him or tell him you would like to try a new position the next time you make love.

Then ask him to share a fantasy with you or suggest a position he would like to try. You just may find that he is having the same thoughts but was too afraid to approach you about it.

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

Why not??

Celtic Frog, being as you know about Lit, why not have a story on the screen when he arrives home from work and see if his interest is sparked? Or maybe just have the home page on, and allow him to browse what he wishes?
As we all know, there are many wonderful erotic stories to be found here and something for everyone's tastes p) in sex.

I also agree with Ifitsfundoit **whew! what a mouthful!**
Girlfriend, YOU need to get over your shyness and begin to discuss your sex life with your hubby. He may be wanting to talk to you, but is afraid that you might be offended or not interested. Whatever the case may be, its time to speak up and be heard! Have confidence, be firm, but gentle. I have found that the men I have been with loved that I vocalized my desires.

-kym- Telling Him how I like it

 

[CelticFrog]

notes...

I like the notes idea - I think the SO could appreciate postits sitting around the house.
As for porn movies/stories on the screen/etc, we've done these things (we both read quite a bit on lit, just usually not at the same time - can't figure that one out. Maybe I'll just start printing out the stories) but it's rare and the pornos usually end up getting laughed at (can't get good ones around here and haven't ordered any from Adam and Eve lately, the rest we used to own got lost in a move). I do, however, think the idea of hitting pause and agreeing to the next scene is spiffy. I think I'm a little nervous about acting, still haven't done much of it, and my... uh... 'experience'? level is MUCH MUCH MUCH below SO's. As in hundreds of 'experiences' less than his. I'm still searching for the things I even want to do (can someone give me a MENU, for Chrissakes???) so that doesn't help matters any...

guess I came from an oversheltered life and maybe I've just been too afraid of the unknown. WHERE IS THE PIN FOR MY BUBBLE???

 

[Pixie Mischief]

the whole movie idea was pretty interesting.

he laughed though LOL well I'm very shy.
he put in the porn vid and he says the look on my face was very cute.
that I just didnt know what to make of it LMAO
I was greatful the next scene was tame LOL

 

[SexyGiggles]

Re: notes...

guess I came from an oversheltered life and maybe I've just been too afraid of the unknown. WHERE IS THE PIN FOR MY BUBBLE???

<hands over a pin> Pop it! Get out of that bubble!!!

You'll never know what's out there unless you try it! Embrace the unknown! Enjoy every bit of it! Most people regret the things they DON'T do, not the things they do!

Start with talking with your husband. Talk about your wishes, desires and fantasies. Find out what would turn him on, something outside the ordinary. Let him know what you would like. Then have a lot of fun!

Good luck!