Girlfriend issues

[Eilan]

Just the fact that she broke up with you in a TEXT, shows a complete and total disrespect for you and a total lack of consideration for your feelings .

Isn't that how people do it these days?

 

[Haterade]

Oh, it was clearly an exaggeration, but I still had the WTF moment. I mean, who says something like that! It was this specific sentence that made me doubt your stability. Who thinks that, let alone says it? Yeah, Haterade, you're not alone.

But let's be clear here, if a man mentions something about killing his mother-in-law, that's completely okay. But this...? no way.

 

[olivemarie]

So was I the only person who thought "What the fuck?" when I read this?

lol, definitely not the only one. The paragraph before that made me WTF, as well.

There are just some things you don't joke about if you supposedly "love" someone...

I played that game before with my first girlfriend actually. Three months of begging, tears and the occasional suicide threat. I've learnt a lot from that one, and I like to think that it's paying off now.
I know some stuff on psychology, and no one just stops loving someone in a day. Even if I'd killed her family she'd still probably care for me a little. No, of I give her space and then come back like its all normal, she'll come around.

 

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[thirty]

My advice would be to let her go.
Some girls have problems expressing what they feel and sometimes even find it hard to say simply "I dont want you anymore". But all the things she said boil down to that one - she doesnt want you anymore no matter what excuse she is trying to make. So stop fooling yourself that she is not sure and realize she is pushing you away as hard as she knows how.

Back off, respect her wishes and let her cool down. She sounds quite upset and angry with you for some reason. If you still think you have some chance to be together, let her know you will be there for her if she might want you back after she thinks it over a bit. Just dont push anything.

I agree with StrayKat. There is a Chinese saying: Outsiders have better understandings about the situation than the people involved do.

 

[Todyo1798]

Still haven't managed to find out what's gotten her like this, her bff seems pretty sure she's mad at me for trying to stop her flirting though. Friends basically say "forget her and move on" (Irish males, a fountain of insight and sensitivity ), and my mother made me say what I was so upset about, and her advice is just that everyone's different, she's probably as angry as confused as I am, but begging never won anyone's respect.

I left it a few days, she's actually started replying to my messages now. Still doesn't want to see me though. Convo is on and off on msn, she keeps throwing up that damn wall, but at least I get a response from the occasional joke.

As for asking her why she dumped me, the story kept changing so I stopped asking. Though the last thing she'd said was something like "I'm asexual, I've been faking it the past 2 months, now I've decided I care about you too much to keep tricking you."
I call bullshit. Seriously, who can fake being a sub? You're either into it or you aren't.

This isn't trying to get her back btw, this is trying to be friends. That and generally just testing the waters.

 

[TheLM]

You're having girl problems and I feel bad for you son,
I've got 99 problems but a [chick] aint one!