Exciteher said:Welcome Naturist! Wow..this is a magnificent and illuminating point!
This brings to mind something else... when my ex went into a low, I would almost "out run" her emotionally... into my anxiety and anticipation about her downward trajectory, thinking "How bad will it get." Then when she came out of her low, I would "lag", still white knuckled and gripping on for dear life, while she on the other hand felt better and better. I would get emotionally "out of phase" with her, I would still be reacting as if she were still in her low. I knew in my mind I should be happy that she was better, yet for a few days in my body and emotionally I felt profoundly tense, as if she was not better.. these sorts of cycles of MINE were something I had to work on a lot with MY therapist. Emotional "whip lash".
Thanks.
You make a very good point, one that illustrates the idea that depression isn't a simple matter of "depressed" or "not depressed." Habits, memories, etc., continue to play a role for everyone involved even though the immediate crisis has passed. That's true of life in general, though. It's like memories of a previous bad relationship influencing new relationships.
I'm lucky, I suppose, in having a psychiatrist who schedules me for more hours than I have problems (or, better, problems that we've chosen to deal with). We have the opportunity to muse about the bigger picture frequently and at length.
BirdsWife said:...then he needs to mentally and emotionally prepare himself for the times when she might not want to get out of bed for months at a time.
Fortunately (or not, depending on opinions about medications), there are some relatively quick fixes available to doctors that help a patient get up and moving in short order. That allows the patient to resume a reasonably high level of functioning during the 4-8 weeks it takes the main drugs to be effective.
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