Girl on top

[mapili50]

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to increase my pleasure when I'm on top?

It's not a question I feel comfortable asking a lot of women friends. One friend prefers being on top and says that she can control the direction of strokes and reaches orgasm much faster. Another says that when she's on top, she prefers facing his feet.

Those suggestions didn't help so I'd love to hear a Dummies guide version of the position.

I love doggy style but reach orgasm quickly in the missionary position when I feel the weight, pressure and grinding movement.

I have a petite build and love being tied down so maybe it's just me? Anyway, any suggestions would be greatly appreciated and I promise to post follow-ups.

 

[fgarvb1]

I don't know but you have a good start on knowing how to grow wood!

Seriously, it's going to be what or how makes YOU feel the best.

 

[Ropebunny]

I only really enjoy being on top when my partner raises his hips a bit while I grind. Hits my g spot everytime and feels amazing! I'm not sure if it will work for you what with g spots being in different places and angles being different but I reckon it's definately worth a try.

 

[dirtycarol]

Did you ever try a bench? One about as wide and high as a seating bench for a picnic table works wonders for me! We built a nice one of oak, part painted, part natural for the bedroom. It's a nice piece of furnature, and very useful, it's very easy to straddle, being narrow and low, gives me all the control I need!

 

[mapili50]

Thanks everyone!

fgarvb1 - hey, thanks for the ego boost. I was thinking something is wrong with me b/c everyone else seems to find the position pleasureable.

ropebunny - I'll try that tonight! This sounds lame but I never thought to ask my lover to move differently.

dirtycarol - Wow, awesome tip. Once again, I always thought the problem was me and never thought about the environment.

;^)

 

[LettersFromTatyana]

Then again, you might find your answer somewhere between this:

One friend prefers being on top and says that she can control the direction of strokes and reaches orgasm much faster.

and this:

I . . . love being tied down so maybe it's just me?

It might not be the physical sensations that are off when you're on top, but the mental aspect of it all, you know? So if the physical suggestions that others here have made don't work, don't feel guilty if you either need to (a) stick with other positions or (b) change the mental or physical dynamic when you're on top so that you aren't as much in control.

(And I can sympathize--I was similarly mystified with the exact same situation for a long while before I figured out that what made my friends tick just didn't do it for me.)

 

[ThemBlueEyes]

On Top: Sitting

My partners and I have had good times when she is on top and I sit on the edge of the bed. It can take a sec to get the timing right. Everyone I've tried this with has been really happy.

 

[djyak]

Best thing of me riding him is it frees his hands up, along with his mouth for my nipples! Nothing is better than when I take over and lean forward for him to bite my tits as I gyrate my hips. Also, if I put a vibrating cock ring on him.......Wow!

Tiffani

 

[haveahardon]

You could try having him play with your clit if you're facing him. Or you could play with yourself and give him a little show as you ride him. It might be somewhat of a turn on to exhibit a little bit. Hope that helps!

 

[starider07]

My ex...

Would let it all go and do whatever was needed to create pleasure. If he's not touching you where you need it, then you do it. She would ride me hard and like mentioned above a bench really works for contact and penetration. I loved it as did the gf. It allowed for my hands and lips to roam, but she would also take things in her own hands and play with her clit, nipples, my balls, or on several occaisions, slipped a finger in her with my cock, or in herself anally. It was awesome but not for all as some people are built in ways it just doesn't work. We also did anal this way and she would use her fingers for vaginal penetration.
Long story short, lose any inhibitions you may(or may not)have and do anything needed to acheive the pleasure you desire. Any position, opening, or........

 

[Mirisa]

I enjoy being on top so he has access to play with my nipples, which just feels amazing when I am riding him. It is fun sometimes to go very slowly just to tease him, but I can also ride him hard if i'm craving that. The way he moves his hips or has them positioned can make a big difference so definitely play around with that. Sometimes it takes just a tiny shift to hit just the right spot.

Good luck! Hopefully you find something that feels incredible.

 

[pisces_girl]

i'm petite too i really like having him sit up and then getting on top of him. arms wrapped around his neck for support and thrusting into him. you can wrap your legs around too or have them bent. from this position it's easy to transition into missionary.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I knew a woman who went absolutely crazy when she was on top. She derived her pleasure by impaling herself on my cock and then grinding her clit against my pubic region. It didn't do a lot for me, as there wasn't a whole lot of sliding up and down my rod going on, but she was seeing stars. It was all about the friction on her clit. No other woman I have known since then fucked me that way, so I don't know if that technique can be copied.

 

[Carnevil9]

I knew a woman who went absolutely crazy when she was on top. She derived her pleasure by impaling herself on my cock and then grinding her clit against my pubic region. It didn't do a lot for me, as there wasn't a whole lot of sliding up and down my rod going on, but she was seeing stars. It was all about the friction on her clit. No other woman I have known since then fucked me that way, so I don't know if that technique can be copied.

I had a GF who did the exact same thing; grind her clit on my pubic bone while in the cowgirl position. The nice thing is that she was guaranteed to get off before I did, since, as you mention, there isn't much in-out going on. But she'd always blow me afterwards, so it was a win-win situation.

 

[mapili50]

Belated Followup

Uh, sorry for the belated feedback ... been sorta busy ... actually "getting" some busy!

Experimenting has created a fuck-monster and my lover is a little overwhelmed by my sexual demands right now ;-)

* LettersFromTatyana was a bulls-eye tip. My fantasies are all about being dominated so I tried to change my focus towards "taking my pleasure" vs. "feeling dominant".

Floorplay
Being on the floor was a good eye-opener. There was much more control with a hard (!) support. Since I’m petite, it felt incredible clenching my inner thighs to control thrusts (vs. pushing with my knees on a bed).

Best position was when he bent his knees and I was in a reverse cowgirl. I could really grind myself by leaning into and wrapping my arms around his knees.

Back on the bed
Stretched out, face down towards his feet was awesome. I was super wet and grabbed his ankles to literally slide myself around.

The sitting position was another eye-opener. In the past, sitting on the floor or bed didn't do much for me. Him sitting on the edge of the bed was much better … especially when I ended up arching my back and balancing with my hands touching the floor.

Which then led to us trying similar on the bed. Him sitting with his legs stretched out, me on top but arching my back and balancing with my hands on his ankles. Arching my back and having to hold something for balance/support was a similar feeling to being tied down.

Thanks everyone for the tips. I think the biggest lesson I learned was to experiment more. Second lesson was learning to be careful using a chair. I got a little too carried away bouncing on his erection and the movement pinched his balls.

I still prefer doggy style and being tied up, but my lover likes being dominated too! Okay, gotta go relieve myself.

 

[heartoftexasgrl]

Then again, you might find your answer somewhere between this:



and this:



It might not be the physical sensations that are off when you're on top, but the mental aspect of it all, you know? So if the physical suggestions that others here have made don't work, don't feel guilty if you either need to (a) stick with other positions or (b) change the mental or physical dynamic when you're on top so that you aren't as much in control.

(And I can sympathize--I was similarly mystified with the exact same situation for a long while before I figured out that what made my friends tick just didn't do it for me.)

It's like this for me. I don't mind being on top, and will gladly take my turn, but it's not going to get me off. It's totally a mental thing. Somehow, it doesn't seem to damage my sex life at all.

 

[Steffi200051]

I can make it work by staying on my feet and lowering myself over my boyfriend in what is often called "froggy style." He truely enjoys watching me get into position. I can control the speed perfect. We have even done it this way in his boat.

 

[WhipLuvr]

Try moving your hips in a circle vertically while on top of him. This will help hit your G-spot and greatly vary the pressure and sensation on him every stroke. Its also a hell of a pelvic workout.

another thing you could try if leaning forwards with your hands placed above his shoulders to take some of your weight. This way, you can rub your clit on his pubic bone. The great thing about this is you control how much stimulation you get and when.

For bondage, try it with your arms bound together hand-to-other-elbow and secured to something above you. Your partner can even vary the rope length to make it easier or harder for you to get all the way down. And since the rope is just for restraining your hands, its pretty safe too.

 

[WhipLuvr]

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