Girl not allowed to cum

[spiritualxtc]

Pleasure control, intensification and orgasm denial are some of my favorite fetishes. He's a slut being treated properly.

http://www.bustnow.com/46891/NOT-Allowed-To-Orgasm.html

I'd like to get thoughts both from denyers and denyees about this kind of stuff.

 

[CutieMouse]

I have never understood the whole "deny her climax" thing. Urban [BDSM] legend swears that refusing to let a woman orgasm turns her into a lust filled, 24/7 wet and aching puddle of desperation...

In my experience, the reality is more often that the woman will eventually (often sooner rather than later) focus her energies elsewhere, and lose all interest in sex.

 

[spiritualxtc]

It's no fun denying someone for a week, and that's not what I'm talking about. In the video the woman is ultimately let to orgasm, but that's only after bring brought to the brink several times and that's what I'm talking about. Again, not never allowing the woman to reach climax, but prolonging it and building it up.

I loved watching her cunt drool out of need.

 

[sexiskye]

I honestly don't know if I could hold back, I can orgasm pretty easy. so ya would be hard

 

[KoPilot]

It's hard enough for me to do it even when we try.

Maybe going out of our way to pretend that I'm not allowed to might actually make it easier for me? Who knows.

 

[Stella_Omega]

"Edging" is what you're talking about-- it works for some women but not all. Some women just lose all interest the first time they get backed down.

For me, it works best when I've had at least one orgasm first. My body needs to know it will come, and that no one is going to change up on me. But once the pump is primed, I'm good.

My preference really, is when the pretense is that it's not about me coming at all, nobody cares if I do or don't-- my tops are just doing stuff.

 

[Jaded_One]

The only way I can stop an orgasm is if I'm in control of the vibrator and pull it away from my clit when I'm close. There is no way I could stop myself if a dildo was in my pussy and a vibrator against my clit and simply told "you can't cum". There's a point of no return for me where my body is control and the house could be burning down around me and I would still cum first. Then call 911.

I've also never had much luck at cumming on command. All I get is performance anxiety... and the harder I try to cum... the farther the orgasm recedes.

 

[Eyesofastranger]

I am new here, so this is a good thread on which to start. Denial is all about building her up until a carefully orchestrated crescendo. It may be minutes... or days. Under and a firm but knowing hand, she is disciplined not out of fear but out of trusting expectation. The trust is that when the tension is at the most unbearable, she will be elevated into ecstasy. It is a beautiful thing.

 

[Inskolaren]

When I deny my girls to cum before a session 1-3 weeks before they go on a routine thats like this.

3 times a day they are to masturbate 10 minutes each time, but cant cum.

Its a mental thing and I hav had girls who had after 2-3 weeks spontanious orgasms when riding a bus. Ofcourse not allowed, but whats a girl to do....

I enjoy deny orgasms to bouild up tention before a session.

 

[FurryFury]

Exactly.

I have never understood the whole "deny her climax" thing. Urban [BDSM] legend swears that refusing to let a woman orgasm turns her into a lust filled, 24/7 wet and aching puddle of desperation...

In my experience, the reality is more often that the woman will eventually (often sooner rather than later) focus her energies elsewhere, and lose all interest in sex.

 

[CutieMouse]

I am new here, so this is a good thread on which to start. Denial is all about building her up until a carefully orchestrated crescendo. It may be minutes... or days. Under and a firm but knowing hand, she is disciplined not out of fear but out of trusting expectation. The trust is that when the tension is at the most unbearable, she will be elevated into ecstasy. It is a beautiful thing.

When I deny my girls to cum before a session 1-3 weeks before they go on a routine thats like this.

3 times a day they are to masturbate 10 minutes each time, but cant cum.

Its a mental thing and I hav had girls who had after 2-3 weeks spontanious orgasms when riding a bus. Ofcourse not allowed, but whats a girl to do....

I enjoy deny orgasms to bouild up tention before a session.

And if that works for the women y'all are with, rock on with yo' bad selves.

I reiterate - pull that with someone like me*, and all that sexy-time energy gets channeled into writing, art, work, baking, and it may be months before I remember I like sex.

*I still suspect the prevalence of this in BDSM circles is the end result of kink-mythology and there are far more women like myself, than women running about wild with orgasm-denial lust.

 

[Eyesofastranger]

And if that works for the women y'all are with, rock on with yo' bad selves.

I reiterate - pull that with someone like me*, and all that sexy-time energy gets channeled into writing, art, work, baking, and it may be months before I remember I like sex.

*I still suspect the prevalence of this in BDSM circles is the end result of kink-mythology and there are far more women like myself, than women running about wild with orgasm-denial lust.

You misunderstand. Far from being a unilateral "trick", the appeal is in knowing what makes your lover tick... and not tick. It would be foolish to give her more than she can bear. Many men confuse coarse bravado with the idea of BDSM. In truth, a good sensitive "Dom" will do everything necessary to learn what makes her different and individually distinct from generic women of myth. It could very well be that denial is not fitting in her case at all. But an open mind is always a virtue.

 

[CutieMouse]

You misunderstand. Far from being a unilateral "trick", the appeal is in knowing what makes your lover tick... and not tick. It would be foolish to give her more than she can bear. Many men confuse coarse bravado with the idea of BDSM. In truth, a good sensitive "Dom" will do everything necessary to learn what makes her different and individually distinct from generic women of myth. It could very well be that denial is not fitting in her case at all. But an open mind is always a virtue.

So what happens if the Dom-type person really really really gets off on the idea of controlling/denying orgasm, and the submissive-type person is the sort who shuts down when orgasm control/denial comes into play? Sometimes the only way to know one's reaction, is to experience it.

The first lover who tried this trick with me was also the last to do it... I had no clue that "edging" and/or short term denial would kill my sex drive, but it did. Now as a wiser, more experienced, [healed] person, I understand my reaction to orgasm denial, and discuss it with new lovers [to ensure it doesn't occur]. Back then I was just trying to make him happy, and in the process wasted a miserable year-ish of both of our lives.

 

[Eyesofastranger]

So what happens if the Dom-type person really really really gets off on the idea of controlling/denying orgasm, and the submissive-type person is the sort who shuts down when orgasm control/denial comes into play? Sometimes the only way to know one's reaction, is to experience it.

The first lover who tried this trick with me was also the last to do it... I had no clue that "edging" and/or short term denial would kill my sex drive, but it did. Now as a wiser, more experienced, [healed] person, I understand my reaction to orgasm denial, and discuss it with new lovers [to ensure it doesn't occur]. Back then I was just trying to make him happy, and in the process wasted a miserable year-ish of both of our lives.

Sounds like he needed to grow up and you needed to move on. It seems you took a lot more from the experience and made yourself stronger therefrom. Your sexuality is much more than a checklist of Yes's and No's.

 

[mary_aranxia]

I have never understood the whole "deny her climax" thing. Urban [BDSM] legend swears that refusing to let a woman orgasm turns her into a lust filled, 24/7 wet and aching puddle of desperation...

In my experience, the reality is more often that the woman will eventually (often sooner rather than later) focus her energies elsewhere, and lose all interest in sex.

I agree. Life is too full to waste it in self denial.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Edging, if I'm not carecful, will result in a ruined orgasm for me, and then it is *much, much* harder to get back to that peak, although it can be done and it's just not the same. Done properly a few times, and it's fun!

Extended denial works for a week or so, then my body catches on to what is happening, and loses interest. Total shut down as mentioned by others. And it's not even really frustrating at first, but when I try and wake myself up again, and it's difficult, that's bothersome.

 

[Jaded_One]

now that we've talked some about denial... does anyone else find the more that they cum... the more they want? I used to be satisfied with 2 or 3... now once I start I find myself losing track of time... the house is in ashes, the cats have gotten out, the bill collectors at the door and all I can think is "just one more"

 

[wicked woman]

I won't say that I love orgasm denial. I orgasm too easily and it's hard work to stop it. I will however say that I love the fantastic orgasm as a result of edging. I also love seeing that look on his face as we enjoys his ability to have me control my orgasms for him.

Orgasm denial, when used was usually only for a session though and not lasting for weeks, or like some, for months. Long periods of time would just turn me off.

 

[Bandit58]

I won't say that I love orgasm denial. I orgasm too easily and it's hard work to stop it. I will however say that I love the fantastic orgasm as a result of edging. I also love seeing that look on his face as we enjoys his ability to have me control my orgasms for him.

Orgasm denial, when used was usually only for a session though and not lasting for weeks, or like some, for months. Long periods of time would just turn me off.

Sir likes to do "edging" during a session. I've learned not to worry too much about the building up and letting down part, because I've always been able to orgasm in the end even when I'm worried I won't be able to

However during my abusive first marriage I developed the ability to switch off my sex drive and if He ever told me I wasn't allowed to cum for days or weeks then I'd have no problem with it. I've never been told that I can't though - why would He want to stop something from happening that gives Him as much pleasure as it does me?

 

[DVS]

I won't say that I love orgasm denial. I orgasm too easily and it's hard work to stop it. I will however say that I love the fantastic orgasm as a result of edging. I also love seeing that look on his face as we enjoys his ability to have me control my orgasms for him.

Orgasm denial, when used was usually only for a session though and not lasting for weeks, or like some, for months. Long periods of time would just turn me off.

That length of orgasm denial only causes frustration, alienation, desensitization, and maybe even clogged up tubes.

I've heard of fake doms not allowing their submissive to cum unless the dom is with them. Not only do I see this as unusual control bordering on abuse, something tells me the dom has an inferiority complex in that area, and he needs a woman to be already on the edge to make her cum. Either that, or he's just lazy and doesn't want to break a sweat.

I'm OK with short term denial, to enhance the orgasm that comes after the period of denial. But, there are rules. Too much denial can ruin the eventual orgasm and incorrect timing can also ruin it. It takes practice and learning the nuances of the submissive's body to get it right. If you don't get it right enough, you won't have a happy submissive. Lost orgasms are no fun.

 

[PCE_Keeper]

I actually got to play this sort of game with my most recent lover. I found that she had a fantasy to be bound and teased till she was ready to cum. She comes very fast and easy so it was a long road for her I'm sure but she said it lead to one of the best O's she had had in a very long time. Plus it was lots of time for me to play and tease. lol

 

[bhndblueyes88]

Edging, if I'm not carecful, will result in a ruined orgasm for me, and then it is *much, much* harder to get back to that peak, although it can be done and it's just not the same. Done properly a few times, and it's fun!

Extended denial works for a week or so, then my body catches on to what is happening, and loses interest. Total shut down as mentioned by others. And it's not even really frustrating at first, but when I try and wake myself up again, and it's difficult, that's bothersome.

this is pretty much how I work. You can edge with me, carefully, for a little bit...but I'm way not patient enough to deal with that game for long and you'll pretty much just turn off my ability orgasm for that session as my sex drive wanders off to do other things. Same thing for extended denial.

 

[DarkRefuge]

Orgasm denial for month(s) is a different ball game altogether. People who get a kick out of it are mostly hooked to the CONCEPT of not being able to cum for weeks and it is this idea that helps them to make themselves believe that they are getting more horny as every day passes.
Simple abstinence will invariably lead to a reduced libido. The body just cannot cope up with a month of no sexual release and it will try to balance this automatically.
Moreover it is also a waste of a good period of time.
Edging, however, is different and it is not orgasm denial.

 

[boredgenius]

I find that orgasm denial and edging's effectiveness really depends on the submissive and the relationship. Personally i have had really good success with teasing a sub for roughly a week before letting her cum, she got to the point of getting and wet from simply watching another girl eat ice cream; but have also had it fail in half an hour with someone else.

It can be a really good and fun tool you just need to know who you are dealing with and how they will react

 

[FurryFury]

Key.

I find that orgasm denial and edging's effectiveness really depends on the submissive and the relationship. Personally i have had really good success with teasing a sub for roughly a week before letting her cum, she got to the point of getting and wet from simply watching another girl eat ice cream; but have also had it fail in half an hour with someone else.

It can be a really good and fun tool you just need to know who you are dealing with and how they will react