gimme advice plzzz

[virgin_male]

hi...

i am a 19 yr old virgin male. I am going next week to my gf's house and obviously we are gonna have sex. Now my problem is my gf has had sex before and for some weird reason thought i had sex before and i was good at it. And she has a big hate for training guys (coz it seems virgin guys dont stay long or use fingers or tongue) so i didnt say i was a virgin and now cant.

I am 5.1 inches long and 5.2 inches thick. she has seen my nude before and thinks i am a good size... strange coz i alwys felt inferior. I like this girl and want to please her.

I cant ask my frds for advice coz my close frds arent ppl whom i can go for advice plus they arent too experienced.

I am quite good lookin and everything..just i thought i was too small and never had confidence. Now everything is happening for me but i am nervous.

Can u guys tell me how do i fuck ( i know sounds weird..lol)..like wht do i do..how to last longer, how to use my tongue..and general stuff. I amsure u ppl understrand wht i am talkin abt. i am not nervous or anything abt doin stuff. But before i go to her place..i want to make sure i know wht i am doing abt.

Please give me good advice..thx in advance....and plz really do help me..

 

[Ms_Lilith]

look up 'oral sex', 'anal sex' 'fingering', etc on this board. It's a wealth of information.. there's a thread called "Try this and report back".. maybe read up in that thread...

And in the end, what will make you a good lover is if you put her pleasure before your own (I tell this same thing to women, so it's not a sexist thing).

Spend a lot of time kissing, slowly moving lower with your hands, and then following, still slowly, with your mouth. Kiss, lick, nibble, but do NOT bite the clit. Bad. Use your tongue slowly at first on her pussy, and then speed up or slow down based on her noises. Clip your fingernails, cus no one likes having their insides scratched by long nails. It sucks.

Like I said, look up the info on this board, there are some real gurus here that have posted.

 

[MightyZor]

Although I am a virgin too, I can tell you some things for sure. Don't try to copycat porn movies. Don't try to make her suck your prick, don't be violent, and don't stick your stick in her right away. I think you should caress and hug her, maybe suck her parts so that she gets hotter, I guess that's all I can say. Most importantly use condom

 

[Dr. B Evil]

HEY!

Don't listen to ANY of us!

LISTEN to ...HERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!

 

[SexyChele]

Hon, what you are asking for would take most men months, if not years, to learn. I'm taking your post seriously, and my answer to you is serious.

You need to be honest with this girl. No matter how much advice you get from here or other BBs, it will be based on other people's experience with other women. And each woman is uniquely different. What works for one, might not work for another.

While I know that teaching a man the "ropes", so to speak, would not be my ultimate fantasy, if he were honest with me, willing to please, and eager to explore, I could enjoy the moment. Trust me, if you try to fake your way through this she is going to know.

Okay, here is what I would suggest. Start off slow, building tension, building arousal. (I'm assuming this you have already done?) Then, as you are caressing her and telling her how you feel about her, tell her that she will be your first and that you want to please her. Encourage her NOT to "teach" you, but to tell you what she likes.

Be adventurous. And remember: most women make love with their entire bodies. Almost every inch of our bodies is an errogenous zone! Spend time exploring her body as though you were trying to memorize it. Pay attention to her reaction as well. If she seems to tense up or draw away, stop and move to something else. If she moans or presses her body towards you, remember what you are doing and start and stop, teasing her. Let her guide you in what she likes and wants. And this has nothing to do with being a virgin. Men who have been around know that you must learn to read a woman's reactions to what you are doing.

Don't fall for the idea that all women can orgasm through penetration alone. Use your fingers, but not too hard! Tease her by using a light caress until she lets you know she wants more.

When doing oral, don't just concentrate on one area. Try using your tongue on her inner thighs, just above her mons, around her lips. Pay attention to her clit, but be careful. Some women like hard pressure, some women prefer a lighter touch. Only she can tell you what she likes.

During intercourse, try different positions. Ask her what she likes - and do it. Again, teasing can play a big part here, until the heat rises.

I think the biggest problem most virgins have is that they want to move too quickly. Take it slow, take it easy - unless she asks differently. Encourage her to let you know what she wants and how she wants it. Read her responses. This last one will be very easy for you, or should be.

But I do think, above all, you need to be honest with her. If you have built up any sort of relationship with this girl, this should not be something that stands in your way.

Good luck and have fun!

 

[Ms_Lilith]

But I do think, above all, you need to be honest with her. If you have built up any sort of relationship with this girl, this should not be something that stands in your way.

Good luck and have fun!

I agree with you, Chele.

Be honest, and wear protection!

 

[virgin_male]

let me reply to every one..and thx for replying..i am very serious abt this whole affair.

first off..i really like this girl..but we both know its not a long term affair (complex situation). but we were frds for long and intend to keep it that way. We are just seeing each other differently recently and just takin things as they go.

i am very shy that i am not big nuff ( 6 ft tall..but my dick is only 5.1 long and 5.2 thick). though she thinks other wise..and by now i am beginnning to think i am ok..(except for girls who want huge boners) and its how i do it that matters.

for some reasons i dont want to explain (please) i cant tell her i am a virgin. I told her i am "no that experienced". So i dont know how it will go. i just dont want to suck and for her to know i lied abt it. (technically i never did..she assumed ..and i never stopped her)

i really intend to please her..she has already told her wht she wants me to do..and i am really gonna try to get her off ..before i do. I have masturbated even 3 times in 4 hr span before..so i am confident i can satisfy her.

But i want to know wht to do to last longer...wht positions i should use to start with..and one real real silly question.when i am having intercourse..will my dick ever come out..like how do i do it..i am just getting nervous here.

and...will she defintely find out even if i do well ?

 

[Dr. B Evil]

Are you blind?

LISTEN TO HER!!!

And not just with your ears, but with your hands, your tongue, your eyes, ...YOUR MIND!!!

Give plenty of foreplay. That doesn't mean scurring to get in her pants for a little lickey-poo action right off the bat either. That means plenty of touching, talking, caressing and kissing.

Ah yes, I do believe that for some reason unknown to many idiotic men out there, women love to kiss! Amazing, we can send a man to the moon, but we can't make him kiss!

C'est la vie!

 

[SexyChele]

Okay, things are getting a bit jumbled here for me. So some I'm going to skip over some things.

One, get over your size. I can't count the number of times women on this site have said this: the average size of a man's cock is between 5"-6". It doesn't matter how tall you are, how much you weigh, nothing. That's the average. Don't go by "porn flick cocks". My first boyfriend was 9", and believe me, it wasn't all fun and games. Sometimes that puppy HURT! And being able to give him a BJ? He's trying to stuff 9" down my throat, and I'm choking. No thanks! Give a man who is 5" to 6" anyday.

Two, as a virgin you will probably cum rather quickly. It's almost inevitible. However, you do have age on your side. Young men can usually "snap back" much more quickly. Put more effort into satisfying her and you won't have to worry. If you are really concerned about it, jack yourself off a couple of hours before hand. It might reduce some of the urgency.

Three, I'm not sure, but I've had some men tell me they seem to have less sensitivity and more staying power in the spooning position. Don't know if that is true or not. One thing you can do is if you feel like you are going to cum, stop. Kiss her, play with her breasts, wait for the moment to pass before kicking it up again.

Four, okay, you are afraid your dick won't come out? Huh?!?! I gotta be reading this wrong? Or are you saying that you are afraid that your dick will come out in mid thrust? Hell, that does happen sometimes, yes. Most times you just smile at each other, change positions, and carry on. I've found this happens most often in the "spooning" position. (probably why some men have told me they feel less sensitivity) The easiest way to stay inside her - for me, anyway - is when she is on top or using "doggy style". It really depends on how far out you pull your cock. (I'm hoping this is what you meant by that comment)

Five, is she gonna find out? Who knows? I would say she will have strong suspicions, yes. Then again, I don't know how much experience she has had. If she has only been with one or two men, you might be able to pull it off. If she's extremely experienced, she'll have you nailed for a virgin almost from the beginning.

It's okay to be nervous. Hell, almost everyone is nervous the first time they are intimate with anyone.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

But i want to know wht to do to last longer...wht positions i should use to start with..and one real real silly question.when i am having intercourse..will my dick ever come out..like how do i do it..i am just getting nervous here.

and...will she defintely find out even if i do well ?

to last longer: jerk off before you go over there. Maybe more than once, if you're as resilient as you sound. Your penis may pop out of her pussy during sex, and that's okay, it happens all the time, it's just one of those things that you take your hand, and put yourself back in, and keep on going. Don't worry about that. And when you're finished, and you've orgasmed (hopefully into a condom), you will shrink, and you'll come out. you're not like dogs, who need a bucket of cold water thrown on them to separate them.

Most women can tell when a man's a virgin, just as many men can sense that a woman is a virgin. It's not about how good you are, it's about the FEEL of things.. the way you move, the way you sound, just.. different things. Don't worry, if she finds out, and she asks you, just tell her yes, and that you didn't want to disappoint her. Or something to that effect.

One last thing. Sex is never ever ever perfect. And by that, I mean, it will NEVER go perfectly as planned. It's a messy, sweaty activity, and there are two different people there, so whatever your fantasy may have been I guarantee, it will be much different, because SHE"S not the person that you imagine her to be, in all respects. She will react differently than you imagined, she may move differently, sound differently,e tc. Just be open to the idea that sometimes something funny can happen, and just LAUGH! (it's a great way to break the tension). Sex is funny, it's romantic, yes, but it can be pretty damned hilarious.

Roll with it, calm down, and be attentive.


And your penis is fine, it's average.

 

[Guest]

 

[alphacat]

COMMUNICATE

The most important thing in having good sex is to communicate:

1. Fess up. Tell her you're a virgin. I know seems scary, but if you pretend to be more experienced then you are..... well, you won't know what you're doing, and you most likely won't be any good, and she'll think you're an experienced guy that's really bad in bed.

2. Ask her what she wants. You do seem to want to please her, which is good. (many guys only want to get themselves off, and don't realize that getting the girl off is important too, which is probably why she doesn't like virgins) Tell her that you want to please her. Don't just rub her breasts and stick your dick in. You have to ask her what she wants, and DO IT.

3. Listen to her. If she says she doesn't want you to do something, don't do it.

Also, girls are different then guys, so take it slow. DON'T rush her, and DON'T pressure her. And be gentle.... if she wants you to be rougher or go faster or anything like that, she'll tell you. (And I think you'll enjoy hearing your girlfriend ask you that )

And after sex.... don't just run off and jump in the shower.... cuddle, kiss her.... be romantic

(BTW.... size isn't that important. Girls only have nerves for maybe the first inch or 2, so it doesn't really matter that much.... and most girls can't come from just regular sex anyway.)


Good luck!

 

[tigerjen]

1. It's not the size, but what you do w/ your cock that
counts, sweetie.

2. be honest w/ her....

3. lots of foreplay.....lots of kissing, caressing, playing.......
this could go on and on for a real long time........


Good luck!


tigerjen