Ghosting...

[Intelligentfem]

...isn't cool, boys and girls. Just sayin'.

 

[LikeableMe]

...isn't cool, boys and girls. Just sayin'.

I agree, it hurts like crazy. Honest communication may be difficult, awkward, and hurt too, but it’s so much better than ghosting. If two people ever genuinely cared about each other, wouldn’t they rather inflict less pain and confusion? I read an article once, that described ghosting as a form of abuse.

 

[UKMind]

Ghosting is never pleasant. Stay strong, keep your chin up, in time it will feel better whilst it will undoubtedly leave a sour taste.

 

[Thepenismightier0813]

...isn't cool, boys and girls. Just sayin'.

I know how you feel, just had this happen to me last week and I'm still tying to recover from it.

If the person doing the afore mentioned ghosting is not showing up anywhere then remember it could because something happened to them and might not be entirely their own fault.

However if they are around or about or whatever I can only give you the advice I've been trying to tell myself. That they didn't care enough about you in the first place or respect you enough to be honest and upfront about their feelings. If so then your better off without them.

Either way your a wonderful person who deserves better and will find better I promise.

 

[Intelligentfem]

Thanks folks I appreciate the solidarity x

 

[L1ter0t1ca33]

Thanks folks I appreciate the solidarity x

Definitely with you on this

 

[Lone_Wanderer]

...isn't cool, boys and girls. Just sayin'.

As someone who's been ghosted, it's never a fun feeling. They just disappear. Don't know why, but they're gone.

It is terrible! If you're not interested in someone, please have the decency to say so. We're all grown adults here, we can take it, or at least we should...

And if not, there's the report option.

 

[Fuzzy1975]

Seems like a pretty immature thing to do, if it is perpetrated intentionally.

 

[Darke_Knyght]

I am with you on this. It bothers me not knowing, especially when you have talked to the person on the phone and texted for a couple of days. Then....silence. It is cruel, whether intentional or otherwise. Dating sites are infamous for ghosting and I have had that happen several times. Honestly, are people that shallow?

 

[MMM_wms]

...isn't cool, boys and girls. Just sayin'.

I am impressed by this thread, positively! Not a single respondent wrote the usual trite "you have to expect this on a forum like Lit", instead every one of them empathized with you..

I do as well, intelligentfem. In case it helps you any: try telling yourself that a person who ghosted you, is not worth your company. And that finding this out early in the game (my assumption only; I hope it is true) is better than getting your heart broken later.

Better luck the next time!

 

[georgerb]

As someone who's been ghosted, it's never a fun feeling. They just disappear. Don't know why, but they're gone.

It is terrible! If you're not interested in someone, please have the decency to say so. We're all grown adults here, we can take it, or at least we should...

And if not, there's the report option.

Report what? What guideline was violated by them not returning a message?

 

[Bjerget]

...isn't cool, boys and girls. Just sayin'.

Right? RIGHT?!!!?

Can someone, like tell this exact thing to my ex?!

 

[saintcero]

I received a ghosting. I didn't think an online relationship would last forever but the sting of being ghosted does hang around for a while. I would have liked to have said goodbye and good luck

 

[Bjerget]

I received a ghosting. I didn't think an online relationship would last forever but the sting of being ghosted does hang around for a while. I would have liked to have said goodbye and good luck

That person is a dickbutt.

 

[saintcero]

That person is a dickbutt.

Thank you. I appreciate the thought. It was immediately after I shared a face photo. I was left to wonder, too ugly? Too old? Both? I know, poor me right? It’s over. Time to move on.

 

[Bjerget]

Thank you. I appreciate the thought. It was immediately after I shared a face photo. I was left to wonder, too ugly? Too old? Both? I know, poor me right? It’s over. Time to move on.

Is sad, but absolutely never why I share my face. I'm an IRL complete uggo. I would hate to ruin a good fantasy relationship with my ugly mug.

And there are times I've seen someone else's ugly mug and went ewwwwww no no no no NO! We are, after all humans and visuals mean a lot to us.

 

[saintcero]

Is sad, but absolutely never why I share my face. I'm an IRL complete uggo. I would hate to ruin a good fantasy relationship with my ugly mug.

And there are times I've seen someone else's ugly mug and went ewwwwww no no no no NO! We are, after all humans and visuals mean a lot to us.

Your beauty shows itself kitsune.

 

[Bjerget]

Your beauty shows itself kitsune.

Awww shucks!

 

[WillJ8787]

Is sad, but absolutely never why I share my face. I'm an IRL complete uggo. I would hate to ruin a good fantasy relationship with my ugly mug.

And there are times I've seen someone else's ugly mug and went ewwwwww no no no no NO! We are, after all humans and visuals mean a lot to us.

Your beautiful and your words give your beautiful being away. We all compete with a unachievable fantasy called the digital word(Facebook, Instagram, Lit to some degree, others) where non-reality is presented as THE ABSOLUTE REALITY. I remind myself whenever I'm ghosted that I don't know why it occurred and pretty much has nothing to do with me...it's all the ghoster's decision. It's not cool and it isn't all that hard to tell a person your done communicating and moving on.

Will

 

[HeavyBalls]

It sucks and it HURTS...

 

[SassySheDevil]

That person is a dickbutt.

LOL @ dickbutt.. Oh my.


But yes, to all this. It sucks and it hurts.

 

[Darke_Knyght]

Your beautiful and your words give your beautiful being away. We all compete with a unachievable fantasy called the digital word(Facebook, Instagram, Lit to some degree, others) where non-reality is presented as THE ABSOLUTE REALITY. I remind myself whenever I'm ghosted that I don't know why it occurred and pretty much has nothing to do with me...it's all the ghoster's decision. It's not cool and it isn't all that hard to tell a person your done communicating and moving on.

Will

Just plain laziness sometimes.

 

[Bluebird369]

After having been ghosted by two men during serious relationships, and one in a semi serious relationship, I just expect it at this point, I don't take it personally anymore, it's on them, and it's their lost...

 

[Bjerget]

LOL @ dickbutt.. Oh my.


But yes, to all this. It sucks and it hurts.

It's the best and most descriptive insult one can issue

After having been ghosted by two men during serious relationships, and one in a semi serious relationship, I just expect it at this point, I don't take it personally anymore, it's on them, and it's their lost...

We both seem to attract this caliber of men. My therapist suggested shifting my personality a bit to attract a different kind of man. Hope that can help you too. Best of luck!

 

[Bluebird369]

It's the best and most descriptive insult one can issue



We both seem to attract this caliber of men. My therapist suggested shifting my personality a bit to attract a different kind of man. Hope that can help you too. Best of luck!

Hi Bjerget...I'm afraid I have to disagree with your therapist, my personality is not the problem, I'm a confident, educated, mature women, if a man is being a asshat that's on him not me! I'm not a victim but I'm not at fault for some men in society believing people are disposable, I know my worth and if they cant see it or want something else that's their problem.
I dont have time to twist myself around to be what they want....