jason28053
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That’s a creepy conversation. I wouldn’t respond either
Ghosting Sucks
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sexymilf44
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Getting ghosted sucks. I always thought maybe it was because they were trying to be good so they quit only to see them back on here chatting with someone else. It makes me wonder what I did wrong. I still feel insecure.
DirtyBamaDaddy69
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A lot of guys seem to want to "conquer" as many as they can just like in real life. They get what they want (or don't get what they want) and move on to the next victim. I highly doubt that you did anything wrong. Just my two cents.
sexymilf44
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That’s just like my current chat partner. I thought I was giving him every picture he would want, but he’s still on here looking. Men will be men and women will be women whether it be in real life or on here.
IARainman
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I'm sad when someone I have a long exchange with just disappears and it also sucks when a promising discussion ends abruptly. But I'm getting used to it. I do wish more people would circle back after an absence. It's ok, I get how real life and competing demands are pressed on one's time and attention.
Kinda comes down to treating people like people. Talk, ask, tell
Kinda comes down to treating people like people. Talk, ask, tell
Hornymwtxn
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It happens to a lot of us, things going great then bam nothing.
It sucks for sure but don't dwell too deeply on what you may have done wrong because if it isn't super obvious that you did something wrong it is most likely the other person didn't appreciate you enough to explain why they moved on.
Which is a reflection on them not you
It happens to both women and men believe me, you're not alone. Unfortunately some people can be an ass, I'm sorry this happened to you
.average_red
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The one ghosting on here that really bothers me is this one girl, things were going really well, after almost a month, and a few pages of messages, she asked for my e-mail, I sent it to her. Haven't heard anything from her, or seen any action on her account since... Is she alive? is she dead? Honestly I would have preferred if she called me a looser and said that she found someone better, it's just an online relationship, but I grew to like her and now I don't know if she is okay.
I've got another one or two chats that just end on discussions about exchanging e-mails, which fair enough, but you could just tell me that you are not comfortable with exchanging e-mails and we could just keep on doing what we were doing.
on the up side, some of my ghosters on this site are doing fine, because they still post frequently, no Idea what I did wrong, and with no feedback I won't learn what I'm doing wrong, but ultimately I'm here for a good time, not a long time.
I've got another one or two chats that just end on discussions about exchanging e-mails, which fair enough, but you could just tell me that you are not comfortable with exchanging e-mails and we could just keep on doing what we were doing.
on the up side, some of my ghosters on this site are doing fine, because they still post frequently, no Idea what I did wrong, and with no feedback I won't learn what I'm doing wrong, but ultimately I'm here for a good time, not a long time.
average_red
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It isn't ghosting if you haven't been talking for a while. I'd say that if you have more than two pages of messages between the two of you on this site, you do owe them an explanation, not a long explanation, but especially on a site like this it would be pretty easy to misread kinks and send something that the other person finds uncomfortable.
The above extracts are:
- helpful to know it didn't happen to just ourselves, and
- great reminder that their ghosting speaks much more about them
It's still hurtful nonetheless.
graysilver
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It’s just a courtesy to bow out of a conversation with someone with multiple chats and a few pages of dialogue with a message that ‘this just isn’t working for me’ or ‘let’s take a break’ or ‘thanks for chatting with me - please don't be offended if I drop off because _____.’
Just disappearing is not being honest.
A woman interested in D/s chatting dropped off mid-chat with no explanation after we had gotten to know each other and had set up for a scheduled D/s session. I’ll admit I’m more of a romantic and probably didn’t Dom her well. Nonetheless, she simply disappeared mid-chat. I re-connected with her a few days later and she initiated another sexting session only to drop off mid-chat, again. The next day, I simply and candidly texted the disappointment and wished her well.
Hope she didn't repeat her ghosting with other folks.
Just disappearing is not being honest.
A woman interested in D/s chatting dropped off mid-chat with no explanation after we had gotten to know each other and had set up for a scheduled D/s session. I’ll admit I’m more of a romantic and probably didn’t Dom her well. Nonetheless, she simply disappeared mid-chat. I re-connected with her a few days later and she initiated another sexting session only to drop off mid-chat, again. The next day, I simply and candidly texted the disappointment and wished her well.
Hope she didn't repeat her ghosting with other folks.
This.
Fucking rude, and she will continue to do this.
Trust me, they don't change.
ThePullOutKing
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I can absolutely relate. My first experience with an RP with a woman....we really hit it off and clicked and went private in chat, and spent a couple hours just getting each other off and she wanted to make sure I did. We met three days in a row at the same time and both expressed how we couldn't wait to chat with each other again. Got each other off again and again and then we both just hung around after we'd finished each other off and kept talking for another hour or more. The third day in a row was the last one. I never saw her again.
This happened with another woman as well. The stories were so involved, lots of painting the scene and heavy dialogue (she was local too). Three days in a row the same time. Very excited to talk to each other again and then poof at the end of the third day.
Some other super intensely romantic ones (her sending pictures, wanting to be a regular morning thing) and then poof I never see her again.
In all these cases we had things in common, enjoyed just getting to know each other and really vibed. I would have been happy to keep the conversation going long term. It's like a real world new romance thing even though it's just text on a screen, crazy I know.
People just want to move on and experience other people is one possibility. Another is no one owes anyone else anything on here so be happy for brief flings and fun.
This happened with another woman as well. The stories were so involved, lots of painting the scene and heavy dialogue (she was local too). Three days in a row the same time. Very excited to talk to each other again and then poof at the end of the third day.
Some other super intensely romantic ones (her sending pictures, wanting to be a regular morning thing) and then poof I never see her again.
In all these cases we had things in common, enjoyed just getting to know each other and really vibed. I would have been happy to keep the conversation going long term. It's like a real world new romance thing even though it's just text on a screen, crazy I know.
People just want to move on and experience other people is one possibility. Another is no one owes anyone else anything on here so be happy for brief flings and fun.
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SexyOlderNWMale
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Happened to me here too. I won't name names, but folks...please have enough class to be honest.
PammySkirts
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To be honest - I’m a chronic ghostie. But- I absolutely hate being rejected. It is a huge shot to my pride. I would rather be ghosted than rejected. So I often just ghost. To the men- you would rather be rejected than ghosted? Honest question.
Zolitair
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To be honest, i prefer to be rejected than ghosted.
A rejection always closes the door, so you don't have to think "why she didn't respond, did i do anything wrong??"
I just hate ghosting!!!
Hornymwtxn
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Personally for me rejection is better. I don't have to wonder what I did wrong and over analyze things.
They don't even need to explain why they want to stop conversing, sure that would be helpful but not necessary.
A simple ending message removes the possibilities of reconnecting and thus wasting time and effort looking for another opening.
LegendInMyOwnMind
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There is one sin I'm innocent of--never ghosted anyone, never will. It would be dishonorable for me to do so. So no matter how mismatched we may be, a polite rejection is the worst you'll get. And these days I'm pretty accepting.
I would prefer a rejection, an explanation rather than just being ghosted. Is it really that hard to say, sorry it isn't doing it for me, or i havent got the time etc.
graysilver
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Agree. Being honest by saying ‘goodby’ is the right way to treat others.
PammySkirts
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Rejection, it is!
Hi Pammy, just read your profile, would you like to DM
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