GF wants me to tie her up... how?

[drkinkylove2]

If I were a sailor, maybe I'd know the best way. But as is, I need outside info. Does anyone have any links or something for someone just starting? I want to fulfill her fantasy, and she's told me about this one for a while.

I know to at least avoid hempen ropes, but I'm afraid that its been too long since I was in Boy Scouts to remember anything other than a square knot. Any advice?

The whole idea of her submitting to me is fine, but I want to know what I'm doing so that I don't hurt her, but not so gentle that the fantasy is ruined.

No doubt this will lead to sex: she doesn't want to be tied up just for the sake of being tied up.

 

[Weird Harold]

I know to at least avoid hempen ropes, but I'm afraid that its been too long since I was in Boy Scouts to remember anything other than a square knot. Any advice?

Avoid slip knots, thin rope/cord, and any knot that is difficult to untie during or after being strained.

Have readily available a pair of wire cutters/"diagonal cutting pliers," shears, or other device capable of quickly cutting whatever you decide to use.

Other than that, the modified square knot (bow knot) you use to tie your shoes will work just fine in most cases and it's easy to untie in a hurry if you need to.

 

[jayce1066]

Good info at:

http://www.nawashibari.com/techniques/index02.html
http://www.bdsm-chicago.com/cram/BASE_basicjapaneserope.html
http://ms.ha.md.us/~tammad/over21/bondage/

Your mileage may vary.

 

[buxxxom]

A pair of old or not so old pantyhose work well in a pinch. Also, men's ties and sashes from bathrobes. All are soft and chafe little, pantyhose being my favorites. I tend to like to do my restraining with a single line, rather than tying each arm independently. A blindfold, once tied, is a nice little surprise.

 

[SweetErika]

Go here: http://www.easternrope.com/fashions2/index.php?lang=en&theme=default

Click on 'Wrist and Ankle Restraints' about halfway down, on the right (I gave you this link because there's lots of cool stuff on that site).

The cuffs detailed in the tutorials are even simple for a rope-newbie (and idiot, really) like me. Once you practice them a few times, they're easy to remember.

For more ideas, you can google 'free bondage tutorials' but this is one of the most practical, easy to follow sites I've found so far.

Remember to read up on bondage safety, have a safeword/signal and safety/paramedic shears on hand in case she needs to be released quickly.

 

[Weird Harold]

Remember to read up on bondage safety, have a safeword/signal and safety/paramedic shears on hand in case she needs to be released quickly.

I don't think this point can be stressed enough -- make sure you have a way to release her quickly and if you have any doubt about whether you can cut the restraints quickly, try it BEFORE you tie her up.

 

[Bert Notorius]

Be sure to let us know how it turns out!

 

[SubNebGuy]

satin scarfs/belts are what we like. they also work as blindfolds and gags...but they are nice and soft, and really won't get too tight to undo.

 

[perro]

Oh yes, I'm getting started with this as well and I'll second the suggestion for panty hose and scarfs. Ordinary belts are fun too.

I bought a blindfold at the 'erotic emporium' and I'm going to check out the bondage tape and soft rope next. Maybe a trip to the pet shop for a selection of dog and cat collars.

The joys of having a hobby.

 

[mjl2010]

Light bondage is a lot of fun for both parties. Some suggestions for your first times doing this.

1. Don't use gags and bondage at the same until you are both quite experienced. That way, she can surely communicate is something is starting to get to her.

2. You can buy soft nylon ropes. Learn some knots that don't slip.

3. No ropes around her neck until you KNOW what you are doing.

4. I bought an industrial type scissors at Sears years ago. The thing will cut through Rope, heavy wire, small bones and anything else that could be cut. Even a strong rope an inch thick is easily cut in one snip with little effort.

5. When you make your bonds...Say between her wrists. Leave room so you can cut them free. Being able to quickly release her will leave her feeling a lot more confident. Pantyhose and nylons are nice, but the knots can pull tight easily and be hard to untie. so leave room for cutting. The idea is, you tie one wrist, leave some space and tie the other wrist. she's bound, but there's a few inches between her wrists. see? If not, PM me.

6. If you decided to use handcuffs, wear the key around your neck. Nothing like she needs to pee bad and you can't find it.

7. Use a very easy safeword and don't rely on it. If she gets worried, nervous, or says something, she might have forgotten it or forgotten to use it. So cut her loose, make sure it's all OK and don't push her back into it until he next time. You being willing and quick with the scissors...will make a lot difference on how easily she says yes next time.

8. when you cut her loose, cut the ropes between her limbs or to the bed or whatever, then cut the ropes around her wrists/ankles. That way she's free immediately and you can get those loose easier too.

MJL

 

[simplegirl]

I just use those quick release dog collars. They're adjustable. Tied rope to the collars, and adjusted the collars for ankles and wrists. The other ends of the ropes were tied to the legs of the bed. Besides, yank on those suckers hard enough and you will break the plastic buckle, so you're not stuck.

 

[Joankraig]

My husband and I use handcuffs - not the police variety, but the "toy" kind that have keys.