Getting virginity over with...

[amy711]

Ok a personal question, but has anyone wanted to have their first time just to take the pressure off of it? I mean not that someone has pressured you into it, but your own pressure and expectations as well as nerves. Sometimes I just want to say, let's do it and get it over with so I don't keep thinking about screwing up.

My particular question would be more about a person who is already in a serious relationship.

 

[helix27]

relax, your not going to "screw it up".

 

[broken_lizrd]

In retrospect it won't even measure up. Don't believe the hype of starting. You'll know when you're ready.

 

[Reba67]

It really sounds corny, but wait until you're with someone it would MEAN something with. Good or bad, you'll always remember your first time. Do you want to remember it as a "let's get this overwith" or as a special night with someone you cared about and who cared about you?

 

[cyberneticghost]

It really sounds corny, but wait until you're with someone it would MEAN something with. Good or bad, you'll always remember your first time. Do you want to remember it as a "let's get this overwith" or as a special night with someone you cared about and who cared about you?

Agreed, and not to mention, you don't want to look back at it and be like... Wow, that was really bad. I just wanted so badly to break the harsh awkwardness that I looked past the nostalgic aspect of it.

 

[exposed]

Ok a personal question, but has anyone wanted to have their first time just to take the pressure off of it? I mean not that someone has pressured you into it, but your own pressure and expectations as well as nerves. Sometimes I just want to say, let's do it and get it over with so I don't keep thinking about screwing up.

My particular question would be more about a person who is already in a serious relationship.

You'll have plenty enough sex in life to make up for 1 pontentially bad time.
Just get it over and done with, no need to burden yourself.

 

[coastal-boy]

Do what you can sleep with the next day. Why have you saved it this long? Has something changed in your life to make you doubt that decision so far? Personally...don't plan it...when it is right, you will know it and it will happen. If you have to ask this question...the time isnt here yet.

 

[infinity706]

relax, your not going to "screw it up".

I thought the whole point was to "screw it up"

Really, though, waiting doesn't help a whole lot. Just remember, even if it isn't the best, it'll still probably be pretty good. Just think of it as a learning experience and go from there.

 

[tmock]

It really sounds corny, but wait until you're with someone it would MEAN something with. Good or bad, you'll always remember your first time. Do you want to remember it as a "let's get this overwith" or as a special night with someone you cared about and who cared about you?

A hundred years from now, who's gonna know the difference. It'll
all come out in the end, so to speak.

 

[necroerotica]

Ok a personal question, but has anyone wanted to have their first time just to take the pressure off of it? I mean not that someone has pressured you into it, but your own pressure and expectations as well as nerves. Sometimes I just want to say, let's do it and get it over with so I don't keep thinking about screwing up.

My particular question would be more about a person who is already in a serious relationship.

OK, seriously - repeat after me - "Fantastic first time sex only ever happens in the books".

I was 25 when I lost mine (not through lack of trying, believe me), drunk, and if you check my posting history you'll probably find it was somewhat less than perfect.

Was I in a relationship? No. But I did end up marrying her.
Do I regret waiting so long? Nope, not in hindsight.
Do I regret making a mess of it? Hell no - I got a good after-dinner story out of it

My advice?

Stop looking for it. It'll happen, for better of worse no matter what you do.

 

[infinity706]

OK, seriously - repeat after me - "Fantastic first time sex only ever happens in the books".

I was 25 when I lost mine (not through lack of trying, believe me), drunk, and if you check my posting history you'll probably find it was somewhat less than perfect.

Was I in a relationship? No. But I did end up marrying her.
Do I regret waiting so long? Nope, not in hindsight.
Do I regret making a mess of it? Hell no - I got a good after-dinner story out of it

My advice?

Stop looking for it. It'll happen, for better of worse no matter what you do.

Well, I did meet one woman that said her first time was fantastic. Of course, that's not a common thing. Still, she was disappointed because guys take too long to get hard for round 2. Also, I'm not sure a woman that's used a dildo regularly for years counts as much of a virgin.

 

[Sweet_Serenity]

just make sure you are with someone who cares about you. You will be able to look back and be ok with your decision. losing your virginity isn't really that huge of a deal. USE PROTECTION! that is the big deal. In my opinion that is what matters most. Having sex is fine but ending up pregnant or with diseases isn't. As long as your responsible it doesn't really matter if you wait or not.

 

[cute_nerd]

I tend to be better at making friends with guys than I do with girls, mostly because I am not a "girly girl." Anyway, one of my close guy friends and I were talking about it one day and were mentioning how we didn't want to "mess it up," so to speak. Since we were such good friends, we decided to be each others' firsts. It worked out well, we had someone to practice on, and we didn't ruin the friendship. It actually got better. Yeah, we used protection. We were just lucky that we had each other. This doesn't work in every situation, though.

 

[broken_lizrd]

I had a friend too. It did make it a lot easier. No strings, just sex.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

I tend to be better at making friends with guys than I do with girls, mostly because I am not a "girly girl." Anyway, one of my close guy friends and I were talking about it one day and were mentioning how we didn't want to "mess it up," so to speak. Since we were such good friends, we decided to be each others' firsts. It worked out well, we had someone to practice on, and we didn't ruin the friendship. It actually got better. Yeah, we used protection. We were just lucky that we had each other. This doesn't work in every situation, though.

This would make for a very sweet erotic story, by the way.

 

[cute_nerd]

First time with a friend...

This would make for a very sweet erotic story, by the way.

Write it up! I am terrible at coming up with good stories. I'll edit if you want...

 

[Username_In_Use]

My wife gave her virginity away to one of her friends just because she was curious what it was like to be with a guy(being lesbian/bi at the time) and she regrets to this day that she didn't make it more meaningful.

 

[infinity706]

My wife gave her virginity away to one of her friends just because she was curious what it was like to be with a guy(being lesbian/bi at the time) and she regrets to this day that she didn't make it more meaningful.

You could also be like me. I've tried all kinds of thing just to see what they were like and haven't really regretted any of them.

 

[misslaid]

I've never been in a serious relationship, and I prefer that I remain friends with the guys I know. There has been a couple of times when I was in the brink of giving in for the sake of getting it over and done with. But those times never really felt right so I was able to stop before things got out of hand. I guess I'm a romantic at heart (not to mention the conservative upbringing in which I was raised), still believing that there is a right guy out there. Sigh. But yes, it also means that until now at my age friggin' age, I've been successful in not giving it up.

 

[shiny5437]

Ok a personal question, but has anyone wanted to have their first time just to take the pressure off of it? I mean not that someone has pressured you into it, but your own pressure and expectations as well as nerves. Sometimes I just want to say, let's do it and get it over with so I don't keep thinking about screwing up.

My particular question would be more about a person who is already in a serious relationship.

If you screw it up what's the worst that could happen? Accept that the first time probably won't run too smoothly - everything needs practice. If you're doing it with someone who'll have a problem with you if you do screw up, then they're probably not the right person for your first time. First-sex isn't about going at it like a porn star, it's about having fun and having a laugh if it doesn't go to plan.

If they do give you a hard time wait until you take their bum-virginity with a 10" strap-on - see if they get that right first time

And don't forget protection...

 

[Username_In_Use]

You could also be like me. I've tried all kinds of thing just to see what they were like and haven't really regretted any of them.

Yea this is always a possibility.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

Write it up! I am terrible at coming up with good stories. I'll edit if you want...

I think I'll be doing that very soon. There's very little that's hotter than two mutual friends "coming together" in friendship!

 

[Arcano18]

Write it up! I am terrible at coming up with good stories. I'll edit if you want...

Hmm. Im actually in the wings of writing my first story, really wanting to, but I just dont seem to have the imagination at the moment or the inspiration for that matter to come up with characters or a storyline. I would love to write this up though, my imagination can really run WILD with this one. Care to let me know what you think?

 

[desertslave]

I just wanted to get it over with and move on. It seemed like there was so much drama surrounding virginity (being intact, anyway) and I was a devoted contrarian at the time. I had a guy friend (older brother of one of my best friends) who'd introduced me to hand jobs and fingering and oral, so this was the natural conclusion. It was never romantic, though I liked him a bunch. It was really very nice to learn all the "ins & outs," as it were, without any kind of dating pressure to go along with it.

It was still messy and painful, but the guy knew what he was doing and was as gentle and patient as possible. Then he fucked my brains out (2 days later) and all was right with the world.

 

[meg1]

Ok a personal question, but has anyone wanted to have their first time just to take the pressure off of it? I mean not that someone has pressured you into it, but your own pressure and expectations as well as nerves. Sometimes I just want to say, let's do it and get it over with so I don't keep thinking about screwing up.

My particular question would be more about a person who is already in a serious relationship.

I did, just for that reason. Now I can't even remember the guy's name, how do you think I feel when talking about my sexual history. It was good, but it didn't rock my world. I would have rathered been with someone I knew and could talk to during it, someone who was more considerate of my feelings than his own.

Don't get me wrong, plain old sex is great, but it's no substitute for making love with someone you care for.