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Absolutely. It was fun in the process, so reading about it ought to be fun too!
Getting virginity over with...
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Absolutely. It was fun in the process, so reading about it ought to be fun too!
Awesome! Send me a PM in the forums or an email of the events or shall I just take a basic overview and go nuts?
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that's what i did when i lost it. i was like....meh, i'm 18, don't have a boyfriend and have a voracious sexual appetite. why don't i find a hot guy who needs a fuck buddy and just go for it? so i did. it was fun.
Well, I was a 22 year old virgin, and sick of it, so I got off my ass and found someone. I met him on-line and he wasn't a creep, so we met up and I got it over with. It wasn't amazing, but it got better and i have no regrets. I found that it had got to the point where I just wanted it over and done with.
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Well I am 21 right now. I am in a serious relationship with my wonderful boyfriend of almost a year. I kind of feel added pressure because he is not a virgin and I know that I would never be able to compete with his previous partner in terms of skill.
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What you said kinda rolls in with what the_miss said above. And in all honesty it is not about competing its about love and feeling the love. Get the competion thing out of your head cz in reality thats not what it is about and if the BF is half the guy you and I think he is he will be first of all honoured that you are giving yourself to him and secondly probably an excellent teacher. Another way to look at it is that he hasn't hung out for a year cz of the lovemaking of the intercourse variety!!
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OK so i guess i am going to sound like a buzz-kill but ...I do understand how you feel about just doing it to get it over with... but honestly is that what you want to say about your first time? As far feeling pressured because of him not being a virgin.. if you don't want to have sex then he should respect that if he cares anything about you. Second of all.. it really isnt a competition... and if there is an emotional connection between the two of you that is going to be more important than the skill... while sex with someone who is just amazingly experienced is great sex with someone you love is so much more .... and really you shouldn't compare yourself to some other girl sexually because everyone does everything a different way that doesn't always mean that it is any better or any worse than the last person. Not to mention the fact that no two bodies are the same nor will it feel exactly the same...
Don't feel pressured! Hopefully, it's not him making you feel that way, and like others have said, if he's been with you for a year now, he's not with you for sex. As for competing, it shouldn't be about that. You love him and he loves you, so I'm sure it'll be good. The first time may be uncomfortable for you, but it only gets better. Plus, for all you know, his preious partner may not have been very good, lol!
If you go into it feeling like you need to be better, you won't be. It'll be good when you relax and try to enjoy what you're doing.
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I'm sure he already knows you won't be as good the first time.
No one will be. I'm sure he'd be happy to teach you, though, so don't worry about it.PassionateStars
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great thread
Wonderful to read these little vignettes
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Wonderful to read these little vignettes
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OK, seriously - repeat after me - "Fantastic first time sex only ever happens in the books".
I was 25 when I lost mine (not through lack of trying, believe me), drunk, and if you check my posting history you'll probably find it was somewhat less than perfect.
Was I in a relationship? No. But I did end up marrying her.
Do I regret waiting so long? Nope, not in hindsight.
Do I regret making a mess of it? Hell no - I got a good after-dinner story out of it
My advice?
Stop looking for it. It'll happen, for better of worse no matter what you do.
My first time was amazing.
So shut up, it happens for some people.
Did I orgasm? No. But it was still quite pleasurable and intimate for me, and very, very memorable, in a good way. It is probably my happiest memory.
I lost mine at High School, I was in 10th. and this chick was in 12th., she knew me from a year before we hit it off under the football field bleacher, I missed a science class thanks to that incident.
She seemed happy and I was suprised as to what we did, after that there were 3 more times we did it together during that High School year.
I felt like a tramp for a while after the School was out for the Summer.
She seemed happy and I was suprised as to what we did, after that there were 3 more times we did it together during that High School year.
I felt like a tramp for a while after the School was out for the Summer.
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first time was in dating relationship it was horrible, painful bleeding, and just way too nervous tense, and he was did put a lot of foreplay pressure on me.
so do i regret it, sometimes yes sometimes no
by my next lover i was able to relax that yes my body functioned normallly and sex was not going to be painful and knew so much more about my body. I might wish I had waited longer or picked someone different but it was so awkward and painful and messy and screwed up that afterwards i was just glad it was over and done so i woulnd't end up a 40 year old virgin
now having said that, i am at a point where i'm willing to wait for marriage before having sex again, the pill fucks up my libido as do other forms of hormonal birth control and i believe that at my age (over 30) that if i have sex it should be with someone i love and would consider having children and marrying.
luckily my toys work fine and I'd rather be respected than another notch in someones belt.
so do i regret it, sometimes yes sometimes no
by my next lover i was able to relax that yes my body functioned normallly and sex was not going to be painful and knew so much more about my body. I might wish I had waited longer or picked someone different but it was so awkward and painful and messy and screwed up that afterwards i was just glad it was over and done so i woulnd't end up a 40 year old virgin
now having said that, i am at a point where i'm willing to wait for marriage before having sex again, the pill fucks up my libido as do other forms of hormonal birth control and i believe that at my age (over 30) that if i have sex it should be with someone i love and would consider having children and marrying.
luckily my toys work fine and I'd rather be respected than another notch in someones belt.
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