Getting Over A Girl

[dmb8485]

I really don't know why I'm posting this, but what the hell. I want to see what other people think about this. A couple of years ago I really fell for this girl that I worked with. At the time I was 18 and see was 17. I think see was single at the time. I had plenty of chances but fucked them up one way or the other due to lack of confidence. Then see started dating some other guy. Anyway, I really liked this girl, and here it is, a year since I've seen her, and I still think about her. Is this normal? I really cared about her. I would like to find someone else, but I wish it could be her. Thanks for listening to the rant.

 

[Dusti Rose]

I think it's perfectly normal. I still think about a guy I dated for a month. That was four years ago. He was really sweet, but he was hung up on his ex and he ended up going back to her.
It broke my heart, but I was happy for him. It's where he wanted to be.
Don't worry, the feelings may stay for a long time, but they do become less severe.

 

[dmb8485]

I think its got to point were I just want someone, but I don't want to forget her.

 

[caution_ccw]

Well thats one missed oppertunity... I have been down that road myself.. Also my big major fuck up came when I was in high school, i had dated a girl for about 4 yrs....we were good together, looked good together, and we had a great relationship...Well I hurt my knee in football and lost my scholarship to Penn State, and any chacne i had to go there so I rehabed my knee the rest ofg my junior yr, wich is when this girl and I started dating, and then missed my senior yr because I refused surgery, but was fine with PT.. anyway, I joined the Army and I was looking out for promotion, and I got my gf to join the army as well, ... BIG MISTAKE..... I didnt make it through basic training becasue of my knee wich they told me to lie about becaue i never had surgery, so I did.. But that ended up getting hurt near the end of training and I got shipped home, and my girlfriend had not left yet she was a year behind me in school, so to make a short story long. She left for the army, and then ended up going to Germany, wich was the end of us...That happend 10 years ago... And incidently, lol... I now work for the US Army as a recruiter, I am a civilian but am contracted in Pa as a Recruiter... Talk about considence...lol.... I can relate to you man.

 

[Eilan]

You don't have to forget her, even if you end up being with someone else. Use what's happened between you two as a learning experience.

What have you done about the "lack of confidence" that you described as one of the reasons that the two of you didn't hook up? If you haven't done anything about that, then perhaps it's something you need to work on. Trust me--I know it can be tough. The fake-it-until-you-make-it approach always works for me during those times that I don't feel particularly confident.

Good luck and welcome to Lit!

 

[bisexplicit]

I think its got to point were I just want someone, but I don't want to forget her.

Don't worry about forgetting her. She'll always have a special place in your memory, but moving on is best. You'll feel much better once you start to realize that there are other great girls out there and missing this one chance isn't the catastrophe you once thought it was.
Best of luck.

 

[dollface007]

I think its got to point were I just want someone, but I don't want to forget her.

I've been through this before, and i think it's pretty normal. I had a huge crush on this guy, and I tried to make something happened with him, but it never worked out. I even went 9 months without seeing him and still thought about him all the time. Then I saw him for the last time, and actually thought something might happen between us. When nothing did happen, i was heartbroken. But it also made me realize that if we were meant to be together, it would have happened a long time ago. I built up this shrine to him in my mind where he was this great guy. In a lot of ways, i'm sure he is a great guy, but the fact remains that he (excuse the cliche) just wasn't that into me. That realization in itself was enough for me to move on emotionally even though i was still single and didn't have anyone else to focus on except myself.

Don't forget her, just know that it's okay to close that chapter of your life and start a new one.

 

[dmb8485]

Thanks for the replies. At least I know I'm not crazy. As far as the confindence thing goes, I'm shy around everyone until I get to know them, so its that much worse for girls that I like.

 

[Little Bird]

I really don't know why I'm posting this, but what the hell. I want to see what other people think about this. A couple of years ago I really fell for this girl that I worked with. At the time I was 18 and see was 17. I think see was single at the time. I had plenty of chances but fucked them up one way or the other due to lack of confidence. Then see started dating some other guy. Anyway, I really liked this girl, and here it is, a year since I've seen her, and I still think about her. Is this normal? I really cared about her. I would like to find someone else, but I wish it could be her. Thanks for listening to the rant.

Same here... Live goes on and I understand now that we could not haved in a relationship for long. At the end we were the friends we where before, maybe even closer but two months later we lost contact. I have found a really close friend some months ago and it is possible to become something more, but I still miss my friend, even after one year...

 

[Xectxny19X]

Thanks for the replies. At least I know I'm not crazy. As far as the confindence thing goes, I'm shy around everyone until I get to know them, so its that much worse for girls that I like.

awww...I know what you mean. My best wishes for ya.