Getting kinky after baby

[PrettyProse]

So, I'm a mother and I was just wondering, from other mothers or baby daddies, how long you waited after the pregnancy was over to get kinky again. It took me a long time to want to be my usual self when it came to the bedroom and my husband got frustrated with me because we'd have sex, but it was as vanilla as it got. XD Anyway... How long did you wait before you were comfortable? And how did you find the time?

Now that my daughter's older, it's a lot easier to find the time while she's napping or sleeping. (She sleeps through the night and usually has a pretty long nap). It also helps that I have a patient partner now, too.

Anyway, just looking to share experiences and stories.

 

[Opedia]

So, I'm a mother and I was just wondering, from other mothers or baby daddies, how long you waited after the pregnancy was over to get kinky again. It took me a long time to want to be my usual self when it came to the bedroom and my husband got frustrated with me because we'd have sex, but it was as vanilla as it got. XD Anyway... How long did you wait before you were comfortable? And how did you find the time?

Now that my daughter's older, it's a lot easier to find the time while she's napping or sleeping. (She sleeps through the night and usually has a pretty long nap). It also helps that I have a patient partner now, too.

Anyway, just looking to share experiences and stories.

Make the time because it is important. If your partner is patient then give him more blow jobs, make him know that you want him...

 

[PrettyProse]

Make the time because it is important. If your partner is patient then give him more blow jobs, make him know that you want him...

Oh, I haven't been pregnant for two years now. So with my new partner, I do let him know how much I want him. I really enjoy giving him head, too. I just wait until after my little one falls asleep to get freaky.

 

[PrettyProse]

I was just wondering what some other people's experiences have been. I had to wait two months for sex not to be uncomfortable after my daughter's natural birth.

 

[cfuhrer]

I guess we are a little weird, we were mutually masterbating at four or five weeks post partum and having PIV sex at six weeks to the day.

Our BDSM play has always been pretty casual but I want to say we were doing full on scenes at about 12 weeks post partum, maybe a little later. Our frequency of scene play hasn't gone down and our frequency of "vanilla sex" has actually gone up.

But- that's just us. Your experience will probably differ.

 

[HottieMama]

Nope, not weird. I think I waited about 3 weeks post C-section to masturbate this last time around, and we cheated and had sex before the six weeks was up.

As for kink/scening, that never returned and it's a large part of the reason we are no longer together. I was ready/willing/able to scene again as soon as my scar was fully healed.

 

[PrettyProse]

I was afraid of masturbating, even after I was healed and the stitches were gone. I wasn't sure if I was going to like my new vagina. But after my husband and I entangled ourselves in our sheets again after months and months of "I can't", I wasn't afraid of it. He told me it was better than before and made me really comfortable about the changes to my body. (So he wasn't completely terrible...) After awhile, (and through issues of everything functioning the way it should've XD) I was comfortable with him being rough with me again and my goodness, it was quite a night. The time restraints were difficult. We worked around that. After about a year, though, he seemed tired of me...ah well... Family life wasn't for him.

I'm sorry to hear that, HottieMama. Endings are hard...I'm going through that as well. I wish the best for you.