Getting another lover in volved

[curiousness70]

I was wondering about getting another lover involved. Hubby and I have been wanting to try a third wheel in our little sexcapades. I would love to hear a little input on this. I just have a fear of maybe he will desire her more than I, we doin't have anyone in mind yet and it's not set in stone. Does anyone think this is a good idea or not so much???? Has anyone else tried this?? How was the aftermath????

 

[KokopelliRises]

My best piece of advice in this situation: be careful. If you decide to do it with a stranger, something more NSA, then meet first in person, in a public place, so if things don't go well there isn't any pressure to be sexual when one or more people would not like it to be that way. If you go the friend route, be prepared for emotional repercussions--they may or may not happen, but better safe than sorry.

I'm sure others will have more useful advice, but that's what I have for now.

 

[silverwhisper]

do yourself a favor and read this post from the blank manual thread, and check out the linked discussions.

ed

 

[fgarvb1]

When will that be made into a book anyway?

 

[EJFan]

I was wondering about getting another lover involved. Hubby and I have been wanting to try a third wheel in our little sexcapades. I would love to hear a little input on this. I just have a fear of maybe he will desire her more than I, we doin't have anyone in mind yet and it's not set in stone. Does anyone think this is a good idea or not so much???? Has anyone else tried this?? How was the aftermath????

this is a huge red flag that it's probably best to consider things all very carefully. if you're emotionally unprepared... or fearful at all... you could be setting yourselves up for problems. it takes total confidence in the relationship and each other to make something like this work IMO. sometimes fantasies are best left as just fantasies.

 

[Shadow Thief]

As someone who recently had his first three-way, followed by two shortly after that, I'll tell you it can be a wonderful thing as long as everyone is on the same page. But it takes a lot of trust, and the one thing you both have to make sure to do is include both of the other people equally. If one person feels left out, it can wreck the whole thing. The second three-way I had ended up like that, but fortunately we were able to smooth things over, and when we tried it again a few weeks later, everything was perfect!

It's not for everyone, but for me, three-way love is the greatest!