Getting a friend to become a girlfriend

[ManofSteel]

I first met the girl in tenth grade. I didn't think much of her at first, but as soon as I got to know her, I found that she has one of the greatest personalities that I've ever come to know. Ever since I got to know her, I've wanted to be with her. We have had a great friendship for almost five years now. But until a few weeks ago, a friendship took a little turn. On one of our reagular outings (to the movies...we are both movie buffers), on our way home I let her know jst how I feel about her. I think I shocked her at first because she didn't say anything. Then she started telling me things why it wouldn't work between us. First she told me that her family didn't like me (whick I was suprised at that, I thought I made a good impression on her parents and me and her brother have been friends longer than I've known her). But she ended up saying that she wanted to be friends. (That really hurt) I droped her off at home without saying anything else to her, I went home and thought about what happened. The next day I packed up everything that she has ever given me. For the next few time I spoke with he on the phone, I acted like nothing had happened and made arrangements to get back everything I have given her. I think that the longer that I am around her, the worse I will feel. Now I need to know what you guys and gals think. Should I return evrything and just forget about her, or should I try harder so I can be with her?

 

[Weird Harold]

The next day I packed up everything that she has ever given me.

This sounds a bit childish to me.

If you give everything back and try to force her out of your life and memory, you don't accomplish anything except creating bad feelings on both sides.

I can understand that for you to continue as "just friends" could be emotionally difficult. However, if you dump the years of friendship because she doesn't want to take it any further right now eliminates all possibility that she might change her mind later.

 

[Closet Desire]

Is she a friend or not?

Friendship is a pretty deep thing, especially between men and women. I think women take a big chance when they choose to be close friends with a man. My best friend is a woman in Houston. If we had ever become lovers sparks would definitely have flown, but there were too many things that would have interfered with us being lovers. My wife, CDable, and I were best friends for ten years before we became lovers. Neither of us had ever considered being lovers and when it happened I can guarantee it came out of the blue for both of us.

Don't give up a friendship because you're suddenly embarrassed. Women are pretty good at mending feelings when there has been a misunderstanding. Be grateful for the friendship and give it a chance.