Get her to try...

[Grim777]

Looking to try to get my significant other to try new things...like having sex in front of other people because the idea makes me kind of hot, and just trying new things in bed. The most I've been able to do is get her to try new positions and got her warmed up to the idea of a door mounted harness for me to fuck her in...

 

[Eilan]

...like having sex in front of other people because the idea makes me kind of hot...

What's in it for her?

 

[Grim777]

Trying new things. She's always saying she wants to try new things, but doesn't drop any hints about what, says no to all my suggestions and gives vague answers that make no sense when I as her.

 

[L8tnIt]

My first suggestion, Grimm77, is to try to get her to talk about what she likes openly. When that line of communication is established, then the both of you can have fun just comparing notes.

 

[eroticsoldier82]

what I did

My wife is shy about new things sexually. So I asked her to write down the things she always wanted to try. I did the same then we had a talk about what we were willing to try. The worst thing is trying to force what you want on her. Come to a compromise and see where that takes you. Good luck.

 

[L8tnIt]

My wife is shy about new things sexually. So I asked her to write down the things she always wanted to try. I did the same then we had a talk about what we were willing to try. The worst thing is trying to force what you want on her. Come to a compromise and see where that takes you. Good luck.

Eroticsoldier82 brought up a very good point: do not force it

 

[Lord Pmann]

Trying new things is one thing. Getting her to have sex in front of people is another. To me, trying new things is anal or sex toys or something along those lines. But sex in front of people involves just that, other people. I do not know where your sex life is right now, but it doesn't sound incredibly experimental, in the grand scheme of things. So suggesting bring in other people is like wanting to ice skate before you crawl. Just my opinion.

I suggest baby steps.

 

[Miles Long]

Eroticsoldier82 brought up a very good point: do not force it

Unless she likes it when you force it. Some ladies are into that. In that case, do in fact force it.

 

[Grim777]

Thank you all for your input, you've been very helpful, we'll see if things go well.