Genuine switch.

[PowerPlayMaleCA]

Hello, all. I'm a longtime Lit visitor who is excited to be a new member here.

I'm a 28 year old college grad/professional type living in California. I'm lucky to have had a lot of experience in various d/s situations: long-term committed relationships, one-night stands, and casual friends with benefits-type deals. And I've done all of these both online and in real life.

Earlier in life, I was exclusively a Dom. I've had a lot of great experiences with submissive women, and have been given sexual, personal, and emotional control over women I truly respect. These situations have been thoroughly pleasurable and fulfilling. More recently, I've had some great experiences submitting to strong women. I enjoy being teased and humiliated by someone that understands my weaknesses and the things I'm embarrassed about. Someone that understands my limits well enough to push them without turning me away entirely. Even more recently, I've become interested in potentially dominating or submitting to a man (though likely only in casual or short term situations). This is a new interest that I have only recently begun to explore, and very little.

Through my experiences and explorations, I have come to find that I truly enjoy both sides of the domination/submission spectrum. More than I believe most people do. And I'm able to quite far in each direction. I'm putting this thread out there to see who might be interested in exploring this spectrum with me. Whether you have already or are new to d/s role play and relationships. Whether you'd like to be dominated, dominate, or alternate. Whether you are a man or a woman. Whether you want an evening of fun chat or, potentially, something on-going or exclusive. Whatever you're looking for, though, please be looking for conversation. I have no interest having a casual exchange of sexual words until one of us ejaculates. While we're obviously meeting on Lit, and thus each looking for some degree of sexual interaction, I'm looking for people to speak with, to get to know both personally and sexually, to find experiences we're interested in sharing together.

Feel free to message me here or on yahoo chat anytime.

 

[K4eversong]

Searching for some guidance

Hi, I'm very interested by this game of power play. I've been submissive most of my life-and It's thrilling to have control. I'm only 18, however and need a bit of guidance.

I'm in our one-act play competition at school, and my role is that of Nurse Ratched from "one flew over the cuckoo's nest." This role has opened my eyes to what it is like to have complete control over people. It makes me feel so very strong. I'd like to apply this strength of self to other areas of my life, and I am slowly. Consequently, I'm in a relationship with a man who considers himself very dominant. I also know that he would love it if I could dominate him-and this is a new part of myself I would like to try. I'm a little nervous, though.. Any advice?

 

[miltownguy4fun]

I would say, the number one thing in any relationship is communication. Whether it is verbal, or non verbal, being able to react to your lovers cues is an amazing thing.

If he wants you to be in control, then he should help make you comfortable doing that, especially the first time. Find out what his deep dark desires are.... and if those thoughts turn you on as much as they do him.

You should also be in control. Assert yourself. Your body. Your needs.

I'd love to discuss more, and would've PM'd you, but you have them off.

 

[K4eversong]

Oh, they are on now. ^.^ Thanks for the info so far!