Genuine question about Fisting

[BobRocket]

My (m) wife (f) has recently talked about us trying to explore stretching her with the ultimate goal of me using my whole hand inside her.


We’ve been using a large dildo and my fingers up until now.


I’m a well built man, my hands are quite large and she has always , even after childbirth been quite small down there. I’m well aware of the marvels of the female anatomy and know that that can accommodate a babie so I know my hand should not be an issue.

Do we have to build up to my how hand over a long period? If anyone has any experience with a new partner doing this how long did it take before you could fit in your hand .

And did it give your partner the pleasure they expected?

This is a genuine question so please treat the answers genuinely.

Thanks

 

[metrifonate]

My experience from several years ago with a girlfriend at university.
She loved the feeling of being stretched and she had some experience of large object insertion and even used her own hand up to the knuckles.
At first I made her use her own hand to start off with then I used mine. We used to play often and slowly I found it easier to tuck my thumb under my fingers and shape my hand so make if slip in easier. Eventually she could get her own hand in and one time when she was very aroused I managed my hand. I guess it was over a few months of playing.

 

[BobRocket]

Thanks.

I appreciate that. Not sure if this changes anything but my wife is late 30s.

I’ve read about using gloves and trying my non dominant hand as that tends to be smaller. Gloves aren’t our thing but may help I guess.

I assume she really liked it that time you inserted fully

 

[metrifonate]

Thanks.

I appreciate that. Not sure if this changes anything but my wife is late 30s.

I’ve read about using gloves and trying my non dominant hand as that tends to be smaller. Gloves aren’t our thing but may help I guess.

I assume she really liked it that time you inserted fully

Yes, I was just confirming it was possible and maybe in a similar position to you.
Yes, she really enjoyed it when I fully inserted. I think also the man has to learn the right technique, how much pressure, when to push, how to insert fingers.

 

[BobRocket]

Yeah. We’re able to communicate quite openly so she’ll guide me on how she’s feeling.
I feels a little ‘alien’ to me. I don’t want to hurt her but she’s the one that is pushing the idea.

 

[cubbyfire04]

Thanks.

I appreciate that. Not sure if this changes anything but my wife is late 30s.

I’ve read about using gloves and trying my non dominant hand as that tends to be smaller. Gloves aren’t our thing but may help I guess.

I assume she really liked it that time you inserted fully

Use gloves... Especially if it's the first time, or it's been a while. It's not really about it being "your thing" as much as the purpose they serve.

Of course there's the protection aspect. When you're taxing the delicate tissue in and around the vagina (or anus) there's bound to be at least some micro-traumas (small tears, abrasions, inflammation, etc.).

The gloves obviously provide some protection against microbial contact. But I think, more importantly, they smooth out all of the contours of your hand/wrist. Deep knuckle grooves, hair, nails, hang nails, calluses, etc... they all increase friction. It may not seem like much, but the most sensitive parts of the body will respond to their cumulative effect.

As for the non-dominant hand, I don't love that theory. I'd say the difference in size is negligible when you consider you have far more control and fine motor skills with your dominant hand.

A thicker lube helps too. Find something that will stay put (and is compatible with your glove) and use a lot. Prepare for a huge mess (excess lube and possible body fluids - including pee) and have fun with it!

If she's up for it and you're both patient, and you communicate clearly, it will be a mind-bending experience. The accomplishment alone creates excitement that's overwhelming. Nevermind once you've both settled in and behind to work towards climax.

 

[BobRocket]

Thank you so much

Really good advice and well noted from my side