General acceptance

[Smuttboy2]

I have been thinking about this for some time. In each of your opinions, which is more easily accepted by the general public, gay women or gay men? And why do ya feel that way.

For me, I think gay women are more easily accepted by most people. I am not sure why I feel that way, I just do. I know several gay women, not many guys at all. One thing I ahve found with these woamen is, that for the most part, they are more honest, and don't mind talking about diffeernt things. The few guys I know, well they always seem up tight and want to always be forcing their feelings onto others. Or they are really depressed most of the time. The women get my vote for being the better of the two to be around.

Anyone wanna talk about this?

 

[Tymeless]

i've know both gay men and women and generally it depends on the person how are they to be around.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

From my limited experience, I've actually found that's it's usually the guys that have it easier. Either way, there's still a lot of stereotypes to be dealt with for either gender.

 

[Etoile]

I think femme lesbians have it the easiest because people can pretend (to themselves) that we're not gay. Some people also think femme lesbians are hot, so they might go that way. But butch lesbians have it much harder, they are called derogatory names much more than femme lesbians are.

 

[MyFriend27]

Lesbians have it easier for sure peopel are used to seeing women hug and kiss and get all emotional with the same sex a man is normally seen as masculine and tough

 

[fauconier]

Lesbians have it easier for sure peopel are used to seeing women hug and kiss and get all emotional with the same sex a man is normally seen as masculine and tough

Personally, I think that anyone who appears substantially 'different', whether they be an 'effeminate' man or a butch woman, faces more prejudice due to the average person's suspiciousness about those who are different. For some reason, the gay women I have known have been slightly more likely to come across as defensive and guarded, although I've had gay male friends who were the same way and lesbian friends who were soft-spoken and laid back. The bottom line is that everyone's an individual. There's no personality type that fits all, whether gay, bi, or straight.

 

[Misty_Morning]

I think femme lesbians have it the easiest because people can pretend (to themselves) that we're not gay. Some people also think femme lesbians are hot, so they might go that way. But butch lesbians have it much harder, they are called derogatory names much more than femme lesbians are.

As a femme I totally agree.

In fact, I find that people are more willing to ask questions of me that they may not otherwise ask butch lesbians. They tend to be more at ease with me than others. I do believe they are in some way allowing their fantasies to run wild. Ain't gonna happen.

I have encountered some hostility from certain individuals once they found out my sexual orientation. I am not sure if it's because that they had made passes at me and may have felt their their masculinity was insulted or what.

But yes Etoile, as usual, I believe you are correct.

 

[grey_mouser]

Doesn't it come down to gender?

I suspect that overall you'll probably find that gay men find fewer issues initially relating to straight women and gay women with straight blokes... I hypothesize this may be for two reasons:

First the "threat" that some straight males can feel. I remember a friend of mine once asking why so many ugly straight guys thought he fancied them so much that all he wanted to do was get them drunk and take them to bed! I surmise this "fear factor" may be found in women too?

Second, if you're a straight bloke and think women are more attractive than men, or indeed a straight woman finding men more attractive, then I guess it's hard to argue with someone who agrees with you!

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[KABUKISTAR]

Women, definately. Our society is way more comfortable with seeing two women kiss than two men.