Gender roles in a transexual relationship

[DivineHalo]

Hey everyone.

I'm currently writing a story that involves a man and a (transexual) woman. As I'm an identified heterosexual male, who has only ever been in a relationship with a heterosexual natural born female, I have no idea if the "gender roles" I have heard of are actually true when it comes to sex. I understand that maybe in a relationship between a man and transexual female it is quite possible there would be an emotional "top" and emotional "bottom.

However, my questions are:

When it comes to sex between a man and a transexual woman, is there always a sexual "top" and "bottom"? Or is it a variable thing?

Does it depend on how feminine the girl is? Or does that not matter whatsoever?

Is it possible that the man is "dominant" i.e. He sweeps her off her feet, is physically much bigger and stronger than her,, but when it comes to sex the girl is the dominant one or they just take turns?

I'm sorry if these are stupid/ simple questions. I like to make my stories as realistic as possible and I honestly have no idea. Btw, I would say that my story involves a "pre-op transexual" but that would imply you're not really a transexual until you lose the penis, which I don't personally believe.

All input is welcome, what you personally experienced, what friends have experienced. Everything.

Thank you

 

[stickygirl]

There's no such thing as stupid questions, only stupid answers... I hope this isn't one!

Yes, it is possible that a trans woman could be dominant in bed, in the office, on the road or any other place but unlikely IMO. A trans woman is a woman and her dick doesn't 'belong' , so actually using it causes a good deal of emotional turmoil. If she is dominant at all, it is probably because her bf wants her to , through a bit of kinkiness on his part and she might go along with that for the sake of the relationship.
I can only comment from my own POV and that of other trans women I have spoken to, but TGs are as diverse as the rest of the population in terms of sexual alignment. There's often a trade-off between hating our dick and it being the only way to get an orgasm.

Hope that helps

PS post the link when you have it written

 

[jackstud]

Stickygirl, you are such a asset to Literotica. Your advise and info to readers, done with much Love n understanding

 

[DivineHalo]

Thanks for the reply, stickygirl.

Your answer definitely helps and I'll be taking it all into consideration when I continue with the story.

Would anyone else care to weigh in?

P.s. stickygirl, I write under a different handle, as I prefer to keep my forum and author handle seperate, but if you're nice and promise not to tell anyone I'll PM you a link when it's finished