Pantalaimon44
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Presuming the attention isn’t always completely unwanted, I wonder how many lesbian couples have (I hesitate to use the word enjoyed here) benefited some way in their relationship by the occasional attraction of a non-female ally? Obviously different relationships vary, but…
and I'm not saying “is it okay to lust after and objectify two women who are in love”, or even, that’s there’s necessarily anything welcome about the male gaze in any context, but…
Once I was at a "Friendsgiving" in the USA and my wife and I got to know a gay couple at the party. They were both really attractive human beings, obviously open-minded, avid travellers, intelligent but also clearly in love with one another. They just happened to both be women.
I know it’s a bit cliche, a cis-male swooning over two cute women who were only into other women, but I keep telling myself it wasn’t like that. I didn’t “just want to watch” or hope they were secretly bisexual and wanted a threesome or whatever really, but something about these two beautiful people, who were queer and not heterosexual, really provoked a certain kind of arousal in me.
To be fair, I would have been attracted to either of them individually, and have been attracted to other people who are less traditionally feminine. Not exclusively, mind you. I’m pansexual/polysexual so I find lots and lots of people attractive physically. Somehow their “gayness” added a little something to it, even though I know I do not fit into their potential ideals of what is attractive.
Like, I find Ellie from the Last of Us 2 (the adult Ellie) super super attractive, and I know she's not expressly masculine and doesn't defy any supposed "traditional" ideas of what is attractive, but I love the fact that she's gay. Both games ostensibly try to get the player to feel love, real love, for this character and I think they largely succeed.
A YouTuber named Makingemi has come up in my feed because of The Last of Us and she and her girlfriend are just simply adorable. I honestly don't perv over them, but I do feel... ashamed? for feeling some kind of attraction I guess... to these women who I can imagine feel absolutely nothing for any cis males that might be watching.
Blah, ramble over. If you've gotten this far, thanks for reading.
and I'm not saying “is it okay to lust after and objectify two women who are in love”, or even, that’s there’s necessarily anything welcome about the male gaze in any context, but…
Once I was at a "Friendsgiving" in the USA and my wife and I got to know a gay couple at the party. They were both really attractive human beings, obviously open-minded, avid travellers, intelligent but also clearly in love with one another. They just happened to both be women.
I know it’s a bit cliche, a cis-male swooning over two cute women who were only into other women, but I keep telling myself it wasn’t like that. I didn’t “just want to watch” or hope they were secretly bisexual and wanted a threesome or whatever really, but something about these two beautiful people, who were queer and not heterosexual, really provoked a certain kind of arousal in me.
To be fair, I would have been attracted to either of them individually, and have been attracted to other people who are less traditionally feminine. Not exclusively, mind you. I’m pansexual/polysexual so I find lots and lots of people attractive physically. Somehow their “gayness” added a little something to it, even though I know I do not fit into their potential ideals of what is attractive.
Like, I find Ellie from the Last of Us 2 (the adult Ellie) super super attractive, and I know she's not expressly masculine and doesn't defy any supposed "traditional" ideas of what is attractive, but I love the fact that she's gay. Both games ostensibly try to get the player to feel love, real love, for this character and I think they largely succeed.
A YouTuber named Makingemi has come up in my feed because of The Last of Us and she and her girlfriend are just simply adorable. I honestly don't perv over them, but I do feel... ashamed? for feeling some kind of attraction I guess... to these women who I can imagine feel absolutely nothing for any cis males that might be watching.
Blah, ramble over. If you've gotten this far, thanks for reading.