Gay BDSM

[HomerSimpson123]

I'm not sure a new thread is the way to go, but I couldn't quite find an existing on that seemed appropriate.

I'm a 61 y.o. mwm who did some exploring of his bisexual side a few years back. I decided that it wasn't a big part of my makeup, but the urges have come back.

This time around, I'm particularly drawn to the idea of the subservient role. I learned a while back that I like sucking cock, and the most thrilling was being face fucked. I fantasize a lot about being tied up or restrained.

Any insights from the Literotica GLBT community?
(You were very supportive during my initial exploration as StillCurious2. Thx.)

 

[yukonnights]

Homer...

The first thing that comes to mind is; These are two separate aspects of one's sexual personalty. Just as there is a spectrum for sexuality, so too is there one for the desire toward submissive and dominant. And to make it even more confusing, these desires/feelings are not always a static thing (but they can be).

There's also a spectrum of actual BDSM. From mild to wild, so to speak. And then to make it even more amazing is the fact that sometimes a person will flip from being more submissive to more dominant (e.g. a switch and/or a versatile, etc). I tend to not be interested in the BDSM things, but very interested in the D/s dynamic. The Dom/sub games, which are more of a mental experience w/o the whips and chains, etc.

I think the main thing to ponder is: All of these are normal human emotions/desires/interests.

It has taken me many years of introspection to fully understand myself. Like you, that "self" has shifted and morphed over the years...and I wouldn't be surprised if I morphed again in the future.

I'm glad you started this here, hope a lot of others will add their views!

If you haven't already done so, you may find some good info on the BDSM Forum. Here's a couple of Threads on the subject:
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1357492
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1352084

 

[HomerSimpson123]

Thanks, Yukon, for those links. They provided good context.

I'm not into serious pain or real degradation. I'm attracted to the idea of a caring Dom, and that of being restrained and "forced" to do things thrills me.

 

[PG564E]

This is an extremely erotic topic for me. There were decades of straight sex for me before I ever sucked a cock. Never imagined how fantastic it is. Or how much I crave to provide homosexual pleasure to other men.

So the mental images of being "made" to suck cock and be fucked by a second man are intoxicating to me. Being tied up and gagged lying spread eagled excites me also. Being gang fucked by younger men would be an awesome experience.

I think I would fuck a man who was bound, and make him blow me also.

Glad this thread is started!

 

[yukonnights]

Thanks, Yukon, for those links. They provided good context.

I'm not into serious pain or real degradation. I'm attracted to the idea of a caring Dom, and that of being restrained and "forced" to do things thrills me.

I'm glad some of the BDSM links added some new insight.

I think what you are describing is a very common and normal dynamic in gay/bi relationships. The most important thing for me, is to understand myself well enough that I can embrace all aspects of who I truly am. In the society we've been raised in, there's an underlying influence that whispers that we are feeling things that are wrong...that are not within the accepted norms for our gender, etc. I think this "whisper" is often stronger in Bisexuals...and especially married bisexuals because they have to wear more than one hat in their lives, so to speak.

There's another thread in the BDSM Forum entitled "Gentle Femdom". Not that it's totally relevant to this conversation, but it is a similar dynamic that is less physical and intense than the usual form of Femdom. Obviously, what you're describing is that kind of thing...except in a male/male situation. It's really quite common actually. So I pronounce you very Normal

Now myself? I may be even more confused since I swing back and forth depending on which day you might ask. For me, it depends a lot on the other person, their age, their personality, etc. The truth is probably closer to me being neither a really competent Dominant...nor a perfectly willing submissive. Oh well, I'm not very proficient in anything...more of a Jack of All Trades, Master of None

 

[yukonnights]

This is an extremely erotic topic for me. There were decades of straight sex for me before I ever sucked a cock. Never imagined how fantastic it is. Or how much I crave to provide homosexual pleasure to other men.

So the mental images of being "made" to suck cock and be fucked by a second man are intoxicating to me. Being tied up and gagged lying spread eagled excites me also. Being gang fucked by younger men would be an awesome experience.

I think I would fuck a man who was bound, and make him blow me also.

Glad this thread is started!

I'm happy to see another person join in to Homer's discussion. I'm surprised there's not already a lot of folks chiming in I agree with your statement that this can be an "extremely erotic topic".

It's interesting that you said; 'I think I would fuck a man who was bound, and make him blow me also.' The thing I find interesting in BDSM in general is; that in most cases, it's a semi-scripted game. The "making him" do things isn't actually forcing "him" as much as it is pretending to force him...or more accurately; offering him an opportunity to be 'forced'. Otherwise it would be rape, which isn't fun for most people But the game...the pretending, is enough to experience enough of what we desire for it to be very powerful and erotic.

And, as I'm sure you know, the "after-care" that the Dominant provides to the "submissive" is often the best fruit of the whole experience. The time when gentleness and caring can enter into the relationship.

 

[JDTreadstone]

This is my first post! I consider myself straight. At least I have no interest in gay porn and I have never been visually attracted to men. However, years ago I became real addicted to arcades. Once I get sufficiently aroused, I’d do just about anything with an adult. But in all the time, I really didn’t let things advance while in a booth. But began to fantasize about being forced. Finally, I got up my guts to do something crazy. I left the door to booth unlocked. A tall heavy man opened the door and stood there commenting on my tented jeans. I was very horny from looking at some lesbian sex. I invited him in. I told him I had always left quickly at times like this in the past. This time I had an idea to prevent that. I told him I could give him my shirt and he could take it to his car and only give it back when he wanted to. He stared at me like a deer in the headlights and then said “Give me your shirt.” I did so and I would say that a rape fantasy became a reality. There ended up being a lot of firsts for me that day. But the actual worst thing was when I ejaculated while he was tending his cock in my throat. Sort of what you were posting about maybe.

 

[HomerSimpson123]

Thanks for the contributions and observations.

 

[tvvictim]

fag slave for sadist master

i like being a prisoner for a brutal master to use,beat and torture me to the extreme

 

[HerLittlePiggy]

This is my first post! I consider myself straight. At least I have no interest in gay porn and I have never been visually attracted to men. However, years ago I became real addicted to arcades. Once I get sufficiently aroused, I’d do just about anything with an adult. But in all the time, I really didn’t let things advance while in a booth. But began to fantasize about being forced. Finally, I got up my guts to do something crazy. I left the door to booth unlocked. A tall heavy man opened the door and stood there commenting on my tented jeans. I was very horny from looking at some lesbian sex. I invited him in. I told him I had always left quickly at times like this in the past. This time I had an idea to prevent that. I told him I could give him my shirt and he could take it to his car and only give it back when he wanted to. He stared at me like a deer in the headlights and then said “Give me your shirt.” I did so and I would say that a rape fantasy became a reality. There ended up being a lot of firsts for me that day. But the actual worst thing was when I ejaculated while he was tending his cock in my throat. Sort of what you were posting about maybe.

Fantastic post. That is really a hot story. Have you done anything like that since or was it a one and done?

I've had one experience with a guy but unfortunately he wasn't very dominant, nor especially big where it counted and I, being inexperienced, was not very good at sucking dick but in the end, he rolled a condom onto his dick, lubedit and my ass up and fucked me while I jerked my dick.

I vascilate on bisex. At times it's an intense craving and other times it's almost nonexistent but when I do think about it I am always subservient. It's funny too because in everyday life I am far from submissive.

 

[HomerSimpson123]

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I vascilate on bisex. At times it's an intense craving and other times it's almost nonexistent but when I do think about it I am always subservient. It's funny too because in everyday life I am far from submissive.

This is my story, too, tho in everyday life, I am often deferential.

Thanks for sharing.