Game recommendations?

[julyshewillfly]

I've been on a rather unsuccessful quest to get my husband to loosen up and be a little more adventurous. I thought I might buy us a kinky game for Valentine's Day, but a lot of the options out there seem cheesy or pretty tame. Any suggestions for a game I could buy that would help us push our boundaries and test our limits? Thanks so much!

--july

 

[Prince Albert]

Most "games" are that way. If you got some nice lingerie, dress up & take hubby out to dinner. Pretend your are on your "first date", kind of thing. Go down on him In a parking lot, (complete or not up to you). start small, then you can go bigger. Don't have him come home & find you all in Dominatrix leather with a dildo jutting lut of your hips. (Though if you want to come over to my house like that, pleae do Ma'am!!) Does that make sense for you????

 

[julyshewillfly]

Thanks, Prince Albert. I've been working on this for a while now and despite lingerie, erotica, porn, and lots of conversations, we always end up in the same routine. And even attempts at spontaneity, like going down on him in a parking lot, have gotten routine because I am always the one initiating. I want to buy an actual game so that I won't always be the one coming up with the suggestions and taking the lead. I think we might have more success if a playing card instructs him to spank me rather than me constantly trying to direct him. He also clams up when I try to get him to talk about what he likes, so I thought questions from a box might loosen him up a little.

It's possible that what I am looking for doesn't exist, but I figured it can't hurt to ask.

 

[Prince Albert]

I'm sorry about that. Hey I know lets "Wife Swap" & go from there. LOL

If you have a "Spencer's" store nearby, they might have one. Or Amazon.

 

[julyshewillfly]

I work in Manhattan. Between that and the internet, I am sure I can find something. But I always appreciate a good review before spending hard earned cash!

 

[Graywolf0979]

I've been on a rather unsuccessful quest to get my husband to loosen up and be a little more adventurous. I thought I might buy us a kinky game for Valentine's Day, but a lot of the options out there seem cheesy or pretty tame. Any suggestions for a game I could buy that would help us push our boundaries and test our limits? Thanks so much!

--july

Make the game up, market it and sell it, we will buy it, you will be happy and rich...

 

[julyshewillfly]

Make the game up, market it and sell it, we will buy it, you will be happy and rich...

Eh. Too much effort. The whole point of buying a game is that I am sick of doing all the work.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

I've been on a rather unsuccessful quest to get my husband to loosen up and be a little more adventurous. I thought I might buy us a kinky game for Valentine's Day, but a lot of the options out there seem cheesy or pretty tame. Any suggestions for a game I could buy that would help us push our boundaries and test our limits? Thanks so much!

--july

I just Googled "sex games" and got 75,800,000 results. You should be able to find one that does the trick. Or you could get a bottle of wine, and pack of cards play Strip Jack Naked. Then see what happens.

 

[julyshewillfly]

Thanks, PleasePees. I'm not concerned about being able to find something. I just want to know if anyone has recommendations or warnings for any of the choices out there. Like I said, it's possible there is nothing good out there, but if anyone has any ideas for a gift that will inspire (and take some of the initiative and creativity out of my hands), I am open, literally and figuratively, to suggestions.

Thanks!
july

 

[Graywolf0979]

Eh. Too much effort. The whole point of buying a game is that I am sick of doing all the work.

I know the feeling. My wife seems to not like sex any longer since the birth of our 3 year old. It is very frustrating.

 

[sombrablanca]

There are several, some as basic as naughty dice where you roll 3. One has actions, one has parts. Think one might even have a length of time die. There are others too, but i can't think of em./ Think my Aunt owns one they really liked. I might ask. Dice are always good though. It'd be perfect for you too because its all chance. usually theres rules too, or you can make one where you cant cum til x amount of rounds, and if you do you have a forfeit. At which time you could order him to come up with something sexy, new, and on his own for you two to do together.

 

[julyshewillfly]

Thanks! I've definitely seen versions of dice games as well as board games. Maybe I will investigate in more detail. I found one spinner game which involves holding out for as long as possible that looks intriguing but it is crazy expensive. But the girl in me likes that it comes in a pretty case. I just wish I could learn more before pulling out my credit card.

 

[musicfan1976]

If you find something fun and sexy I'm all ears. I'm in a VERY similar boat and this is a concept I haven't thought of yet. It's really tough when 2 partners are on totally different wavelengths. A fun and erotic game is something that sound promising. What's the spinner game? And does anyone have specific dice games?

It's frustrating when you initiate all the time and it's not reciprocated. My fiance tends to think I'm left of left when it comes to sex. It's definitely the widest gap we have. I keep trying, but it would nice to have something to offer some fresh ideas.

Thanks! I've definitely seen versions of dice games as well as board games. Maybe I will investigate in more detail. I found one spinner game which involves holding out for as long as possible that looks intriguing but it is crazy expensive. But the girl in me likes that it comes in a pretty case. I just wish I could learn more before pulling out my credit card.

 

[julyshewillfly]

The spinner game is called Come2Go. I went back and looked at it and am not impressed. Seems like it's more about creative ways to touch one another, which is fine, but I am looking for something that will help us explore some kink. Or at the very least get him comfortable enough to discuss experimentation and fantasies. I'd like to find something that includes us doing things and talking about things.

The risk is that a bad game could be so awkward or absurd as to make him feel even more reserved.

 

[akatrex]

Check out lauracorn.com.

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[bailadora]

He also clams up when I try to get him to talk about what he likes, so I thought questions from a box might loosen him up a little.

It could be that's he's afraid how you might react. I didn't discover my kinky side until well into my marriage and it was several years after that before I finally fessed up to my husband.

Even *I* wasn't comfortable with some of my fantasies and it took me awhile to come to terms with them. And when I did, I was still afraid of being rejected by my husband. Opening up about such things, especially when they deviate from the expected can leave one deeply vulnerable and it's a scary thing. It's...like showing your spouse how to hurt you in one of the worst ways possible and then hoping like hell it doesn't happen.

Really, I think the best thing you can do WRT to getting him to open up is to reassure him that you will not judge him or react negatively to whatever is lurking in the darkest corners of his mind. And then make sure you can deliver on that promise. Even if his kinks don't line up with yours. Then let it be. He's got to be able to come to terms with it on his own. The only thing you can do is provide reassurance and a safe environment for him. Good luck.

 

[coachdb18]

OK, I've had this idea for a while, this seems lie the right place to open it to conversation, but I've have never seen it as a product, so maybe there's somebody out there with some tech savvy and a kinky side to do this.... I'd be soooo happy to have a device that fitted onto my cock and turned into into a true gaming joystick. With the right alignment of buttons, it could be an amazing turnon to have a hot lady playing a video game with my dick! I'd be more than happy to go for high score with a great player!

 

[Carnevil9]

A lady friend once taught me a sex game she called "The Alphabet Game." You take turns kissing each other on a body part that starts with an A, then a B, then a C.... etc. Nothing to buy, carry, or hide from the kids.

I documented the game in a story: Librarian On The Road

By the way, we rarely got past M......