G Spot help needed......

[darksider007]

My wife and I have been going after the ever so elusive full body orgasmic squirting explosion that comes by way of G Spot stimulation. We have read articles, watched videos and have practiced this for a couple years now. I have tried numerous variations as I stimulate her spot and there are many if not most times that she gets extremely close. She starts squirming around and tightening up around my fingers, I can feel her bladder getting full and I will stimulate her clitoris simultaneously. Her whole body seems to tense up and then just when she gets to that make or break it point of having to pee........she really does have to Pee. Sometimes she has more intense orgasm but not what she is expecting.

I think there may be a mental block going on, where my wife is afraid to pee versus squirt. My understanding is that they are two different fluids. Are they? We sure would like to experience it first hand. She really wants to, I really want her to....

So for those wonderful ladies out there, that have successfully overcome this, is there any information or advice you can give us to finally get there? Something we haven't read in articles or watched on videos. Something you actually figured out within yourself to make this happen. How did you get there? What were things you thought
about or techniques you used? What was the first time really like?

 

[NightL]

Pop over to this thread and have a look around...
"Try this and report back"
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892

 

[darksider007]

Ok,
We gave this technique a try. Didn't seem to have the effect we were hoping for. She put some pillows under her hips, laid face down, then we started. We didn't perform much foreplay mainly because we wanted to see what the outcome would be. So, with some gentle licking and a little rubbing I made my way in with my thumb and started massaging her G spot. She did get swollen and it started hardening up so I began working it harder. She felt it and directed me to the area of her G spot that was most sensitive. She was enjoying it. She began feeling the need to pee and I could see her fighting it. She was trying to get there. Eventually the feeling faded away to just pressure and then she started to get a little sore. We tried a little more but, then decided to back off and just enjoy some good sex. Not sure if the first time was done correctly, we will try again soon. I honestly believe it's a mental thing but I could be wrong. I really appreciate your post. We are so open sexually , with each other, I am bewildered that this is such a tough obstacle to overcome. If there is any pointers you or anyone else may have, please feel free to speak to this.
Thanks again.

 

[jodylee]

I rarely squirt while laying on my back.. I will squirt and gush every time I am kneeling on the bed (upright, just kneeling) and my husband fingers me. Maybe try a different position? I've gushed while on my hands and knees too.

 

[darksider007]

That sounds promising , I would love to see her "gush". I think she is afraid of making a mess. I'm all for it! I think she's coming around though. We have tried with her just kneeling but, not on all fours. Thanks, and I will bring this up and give it a try. If anything, its always a pleasure trying.
Would you be willing to describe how it was for you, when you first started trying to have G spot orgasms? What went through your mind while you were experiencing these new feelings? What did you have to do to finally let go and enjoy it? How did you become comfortable and allow yourself to relax?
Thanks for your input and we hope to hear more.
Have a great day!!!

 

[luvnmyboys]

my first advice is to make sure that she goes to the bathroom before which will help reassure her that she isn't going to pee. we did a lot of the same things - read threads here and articles and then just started experimenting. i think it helps to have a good amount foreplay first. that helps her get in the mood and hopefully more relaxed. it took me several times to be relaxed - i was worried about the expectations and it took some experimented to figure out how to touch it just right. there is still a few moments of feeling like you will pee at least for me. you have to just work past that until it starts feeling good. maybe try a glass of wine beforehand. keep trying and you will get there. as far as positions go, let her decide what is the most comfortable for her. there is definitely a mental piece to this and it won't work for me unless i am really relaxed.

 

[InsatiableDsire]

My first thought (practical gal that I am) was to put down towels, or try in the (empty) tub?... Anything that would ease her mind to the fact that even if she does pee, it's no big deal. Mental relaxation is at least half the battle.

 

[darksider007]

my first advice is to make sure that she goes to the bathroom before which will help reassure her that she isn't going to pee. we did a lot of the same things - read threads here and articles and then just started experimenting. i think it helps to have a good amount foreplay first. that helps her get in the mood and hopefully more relaxed. it took me several times to be relaxed - i was worried about the expectations and it took some experimented to figure out how to touch it just right. there is still a few moments of feeling like you will pee at least for me. you have to just work past that until it starts feeling good. maybe try a glass of wine beforehand. keep trying and you will get there. as far as positions go, let her decide what is the most comfortable for her. there is definitely a mental piece to this and it won't work for me unless i am really relaxed.

Thank you very much for your offering. I feel a little more comfortable knowing perhaps we were are on the right track. Thanks for sharing and I will keep in mind not to rush into it again and to make sure she is totally relaxed. I will spend some genuine time treating her to some great foreplay and making sure she is good and turned on before I even make a move. I appreciate your honesty and openness. Thank you very much!!

 

[darksider007]

My first thought (practical gal that I am) was to put down towels, or try in the (empty) tub?... Anything that would ease her mind to the fact that even if she does pee, it's no big deal. Mental relaxation is at least half the battle.

Thank you InsatiableDsire, I'm so happy to have found Literotica. Nice to have a place to seek out information and not feel weird about it. We have tried in the shower with her standing but, maybe.....
you are on to something here. Just in the tub before we shower, nothing to worry about there. I will definitely bring this one up.
Thanks again...

 

[Mr.G]

Bs

"full body orgasmic squirting explosion that comes by way of G Spot stimulation..."

Sadly the porn industry has made such a big thang out of SQUIRTING that many couples who have written to be seeking advice actually think that 30 or 40 (or more) massive G-gasms but no squirt means they have FAILED. Many couples go fromNO orgasm at all during intercourse (although most women don't "share" that fact with their lovers) to multiple massives using the G-technique or similar moves. Their perception based on porn flicks is that unless she floods the basement she is NOT, somehow, cuming properly or as hard as she could if they could just get it RIGHT.

DUHHH!!

This skewed perception is tragic AND idiotic. Read the posts. Almost no one will tell you that squirting improves the orgasm at all. Most of my emails are asking how to stop squirting for those who have achieved that.

Work on achieving the G-Gasms. Work it up and drop off. Repeat until she is about to crawl up a wall. Keep going back to the GSPOT area and rub, twirl, poke - whatever feels good for her. Only when it is obvious that she is on the verge of a massive orgasm should you start really putting pressure on that area.

Somebody mentioned FEELING her bladder FILL UP. Say WHAT?? You're doing it wrong and will probably damage her if you really can feel her bladder. What is filling if you're trying for that squirt is her SKEENE glands and they are more like large sweat glands that line her urethra. If she has a good pee there is no way she's gonna HAVE TO GO again in a few minutes so the urge to pee is just a full feeling that seems to happen probably more with increased blood flow in the area than urine.

Take it S L O W . It's the research that is fun too. Let us know how you make out.

 

[darksider007]

"full body orgasmic squirting explosion that comes by way of G Spot stimulation..."

Sadly the porn industry has made such a big thang out of SQUIRTING that many couples who have written to be seeking advice actually think that 30 or 40 (or more) massive G-gasms but no squirt means they have FAILED. Many couples go fromNO orgasm at all during intercourse (although most women don't "share" that fact with their lovers) to multiple massives using the G-technique or similar moves. Their perception based on porn flicks is that unless she floods the basement she is NOT, somehow, cuming properly or as hard as she could if they could just get it RIGHT.

DUHHH!!

This skewed perception is tragic AND idiotic. Read the posts. Almost no one will tell you that squirting improves the orgasm at all. Most of my emails are asking how to stop squirting for those who have achieved that.

Work on achieving the G-Gasms. Work it up and drop off. Repeat until she is about to crawl up a wall. Keep going back to the GSPOT area and rub, twirl, poke - whatever feels good for her. Only when it is obvious that she is on the verge of a massive orgasm should you start really putting pressure on that area.

Somebody mentioned FEELING her bladder FILL UP. Say WHAT?? You're doing it wrong and will probably damage her if you really can feel her bladder. What is filling if you're trying for that squirt is her SKEENE glands and they are more like large sweat glands that line her urethra. If she has a good pee there is no way she's gonna HAVE TO GO again in a few minutes so the urge to pee is just a full feeling that seems to happen probably more with increased blood flow in the area than urine.

Take it S L O W . It's the research that is fun too. Let us know how you make out.

Funny you should say..... This is exactly how I went about it a couple nights ago. Started slow using her whole body to get her ready to burst. Teased and played with her clit tenderly and then slowly made my way into her and started a massage on her G-spot. Softly with just a little firmness. I would feel it get swollen and just as she started to moan as if approaching orgasm, I would move on to other areas of her body and start all over again. She was soaking wet. I love her juices, she tastes sweet. Anyway, I went at her like this for about an hour or so and then really focused on bringing her to orgasm. Didn't take long. With the combination of clitoral stimulation and massaging her G spot she came quite hard a couple times. She really is multi-orgasmic. She rolled on top of me and rode me till she came again and then again. She finished me off and as we lay there, we discussed the feelings she had in regards to her G spot stimulation. She told me her orgasms were stronger than normal but, wasn't sure if it was a " G-Gasm". I guess we haven't found that feeling yet. Maybe we have and just don't realize it. The adventure is well worth the effort though and so shall we continue the journey. Thanks so much for all the input. Tonight it's my turn....