FWB, which is wanted more F or B?

[razor33a]

So guys and gals looking for FWB or buddies who they can play with and hang out with, which part is more desired: the sex or the friend? At one extreme is the 100% benefits and 0% friends but wouldn't that just be some quickie blow & go? And 100% friends and 0% sex, well we have friends and know how that works. How important is the friendship part in FWB? Is it enough to get along, shared interests but mostly there for the sex, becoming actual friends and the sex act is just a thing to sometimes do? I read ads looking for "buddies" or fwb and I'm curious how many don't meet up or stop meeting because the friend part isn't there? Curious what everyone's opinion on this is, no right/wrong answer. Me: for a fwb situation I'd like to have some common interest at least vs anonymous meets. Adding in a friendship connection does make a smaller group of potential encounters; is fwb just code for "want quickie but not say it"?

 

[whiteasianlvr]

I haven't had a FWB, but I think I'd like to enter into one where the roles were established up front in terms of the B and the F evolved naturally.

 

[Dreamer110]

I'd want someone i could hang with. Watching sports and doing home projects together. But when the mood strikes.....

 

[dingdongditchding]

So guys and gals looking for FWB or buddies who they can play with and hang out with, which part is more desired: the sex or the friend? At one extreme is the 100% benefits and 0% friends but wouldn't that just be some quickie blow & go? And 100% friends and 0% sex, well we have friends and know how that works. How important is the friendship part in FWB? Is it enough to get along, shared interests but mostly there for the sex, becoming actual friends and the sex act is just a thing to sometimes do? I read ads looking for "buddies" or fwb and I'm curious how many don't meet up or stop meeting because the friend part isn't there? Curious what everyone's opinion on this is, no right/wrong answer. Me: for a fwb situation I'd like to have some common interest at least vs anonymous meets. Adding in a friendship connection does make a smaller group of potential encounters; is fwb just code for "want quickie but not say it"?

oh man, I just wrote about this. I would say maybe 75% sex 25% hanging out/pals . I am not looking for a best pal. Just someone that I can connect more than just SUCK and RUN!!!!! Once in a while actually hanging out ending in mutual orgasms. Mutual cum sharing. I am (so far) bi curious with a little experience from long long time ago. Football season is coming, his wife wont wonder about the husband's new friend that he watches the game with. Who knows, maybe laying back on the bed with my face covered in his cum as he takes off is not that bad. Just suck me off too, and I'll cum on your face. I guess that is the game.

 

[LovelyLadyLicker]

Ah, that's such a good question. For me, I'd say 50% friend, 50% benefit. I really like getting to know a woman and learn what her intellectual interests are. That knowledge makes me exploring what she likes physically even more exciting. I really can't do without the other. That mental connection is vital.

 

[saintcero]

FWB sounds nice but in truth I want more of a FB arrangement

 

[MaturemanAJ]

So guys and gals looking for FWB or buddies who they can play with and hang out with, which part is more desired: the sex or the friend? At one extreme is the 100% benefits and 0% friends but wouldn't that just be some quickie blow & go? And 100% friends and 0% sex, well we have friends and know how that works. How important is the friendship part in FWB? Is it enough to get along, shared interests but mostly there for the sex, becoming actual friends and the sex act is just a thing to sometimes do? I read ads looking for "buddies" or fwb and I'm curious how many don't meet up or stop meeting because the friend part isn't there? Curious what everyone's opinion on this is, no right/wrong answer. Me: for a fwb situation I'd like to have some common interest at least vs anonymous meets. Adding in a friendship connection does make a smaller group of potential encounters; is fwb just code for "want quickie but not say it"?

It really hinges on the person.
Some have been easy to be friends with, kept in touch, same interests, loved sexual banter to keep.it hot while not seeing each other.
Others were more F Buddies because other than sex we didn't have much in common.
F Buddies take less time out of your life

 

[TrailerHitch]

My current FWB started out as more of a benefits guy but as time goes by we have become good friends. Been out to dinner a few times and been to his house just to hang out. The sex is great but the connection makes it better, for me anyways.

 

[FeelingLikeMyself]

Both.

I want someone I can hang out with and suck their cock or fuck me without catching feelings or making it weird.

 

[AriesAngyl]

I guess I am in the 50/50 group. I like some companionship, casual fun, people to go out and do things with and I also like good sensual sex.

I am not up for a commitment, but I think having a few FWBs in my life is a perfect combination. Different lovers who do different and fun things. Variety with orgasms!

 

[Smoothshavendad]

I guess I am in the 50/50 group. I like some companionship, casual fun, people to go out and do things with and I also like good sensual sex.

I am not up for a commitment, but I think having a few FWBs in my life is a perfect combination. Different lovers who do different and fun things. Variety with orgasms!

Can you direct me to the sign up sheet?

 

[Britva415]

So guys and gals looking for FWB or buddies who they can play with and hang out with, which part is more desired: the sex or the friend? At one extreme is the 100% benefits and 0% friends but wouldn't that just be some quickie blow & go? And 100% friends and 0% sex, well we have friends and know how that works. How important is the friendship part in FWB? Is it enough to get along, shared interests but mostly there for the sex, becoming actual friends and the sex act is just a thing to sometimes do? I read ads looking for "buddies" or fwb and I'm curious how many don't meet up or stop meeting because the friend part isn't there? Curious what everyone's opinion on this is, no right/wrong answer. Me: for a fwb situation I'd like to have some common interest at least vs anonymous meets. Adding in a friendship connection does make a smaller group of potential encounters; is fwb just code for "want quickie but not say it"?

I guess the situation where it's more benefits and less friendship is "fuckbuddies?"

This is almost certainly what people in ads really mean. Because, "fwb" is when someone you're already friends with becomes a no-strings lover.

Either that or someone you're already fuckbuddies with becomes more: A friend.

But people placing ads almost certainly want the benefits, and aren't really caring about the friendship part.

If someone wanted friendship before benefits, they wouldn't go about it this way.

 

[mtsnowrider]

Had what I called a FWB for a few years but I guess he was more of a FB since we only got together for sex. But we did like each other, have a lot in common and spend time talking about stuff in between sessions when we got together.
A "friend" component would certainly be ideal since it would make meeting up for the benefits a lot less complicated!

 

[Milo9012]

I've got to go with F, because friends can weather the hard times with support and simply listening with understanding and providing a comforting aspect.

And comfort is where B comes in; it's the physical pleasure you provide each other and through that, you strengthen and reassure each other of the worth and reliability of the bond you share.

 

[ClockworkCourtesan]

As I get older, F. Be nice to have someone I can have a good time with whenever, and if the mood happens, the B. I can get enough boots calls, does get kinda old sometimes just meeting up for a quick fuck. Maybe I want to spend the day together, do romantic and girly shit once in a while. Good god, starting to sound like I want to start dating again. But definately the F, we all need more of those.

 

[mtsnowrider]

I guess the situation where it's more benefits and less friendship is "fuckbuddies?"

This is almost certainly what people in ads really mean. Because, "fwb" is when someone you're already friends with becomes a no-strings lover.

Either that or someone you're already fuckbuddies with becomes more: A friend.

But people placing ads almost certainly want the benefits, and aren't really caring about the friendship part.

If someone wanted friendship before benefits, they wouldn't go about it this way.

Might be awkward to go from friend to benefits. Easier when the benefits expectations are clear at the beginning

 

[Britva415]

is fwb just code for "want quickie but not say it"?

Yes, it's totally code for "no strings"

 

[mrsmitty69]

B

 

[razor33a]

Thanks for the replies. I guess i fall on 50/50. Becoming a fb with a current friend would be an awkward step since the one person I can think of has never brought it up but he's either doing himself or celibate so if there was interest it would be be quite a time. It'd definetly be easier to hook up if it did happen with him as he's a friend of mine already. Something weird with just a fb would be after we both finish, but want to do it again, there's the "so how bout the weather" time to fill. Not having anything to really talk about besides grocery line banter would feel odd. I understand people's desire for more than blow-go but not getting too wrapped up in a relationship. Maybe I should bring some conversation starter cards? Like the Monty Python skit in Meaning of Life.