Fun Friday Poll: Would you lie just to be in the lifestyle?

[esclave_PP]

Okay, albeit a strange fun friday poll, but something I was curious about. Be honest now

 

[graceanne]

Hey, girlfriend! You already know the answer to this one, for me, but I'll post it anyway for those that don't.

I don't neccessarily lie, but I sure don't volunteer the information. No one knows, mostly cause my family and friends don't ask. They really don't want to know.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Married in the lifestyle, don't openly talk about my sex life with our families as it's none of their business.

 

[princess4u]

Yes, I have no other choice.

Obviously I have another choice - and that is not to participate in the lifestyle.

I try not to think about lying.....

 

[kiten69]

i dont go around announcing it to everyone...but if someone asked i wouldn't deny it either

 

[FurryFury]

I don't say shit about my BDSM interests to most people, including family and work associates. I don't consider it lying, it's none of their business and it could cost me business. My buddies I might mention it to as I see fit. If they are my buddies they will be cool with it. If not they aren't my buds.

Fury

 

[babiesmiles]

With my job situation I have not other choice to hide it to the most ,essentially cause it is a very private business of mine , although if should be asked in a direct way by a trusted person I wouldn't deny it , provided the fact in my opinion the person who asks has the mental tools to understand .

I am not a fan of speaking clear to people I know are not able to understand .

 

[BiBunny]

i dont go around announcing it to everyone...but if someone asked i wouldn't deny it either

Same here. It's certainly not something a lot of people are going to come right out and ask, anyway.

 

[esclave_PP]

Wow, great! I hope there are more responses! A lot of people think my eternity collar is an industrial piece of jewelry, even with the o ring. hee hee.

 

[His_pita]

I have lied in the past, but I don't have to anymore and it's wonderful.

 

[tealsphynx]

Hmm, the choices on the poll don't quite fit for me. I don't lie to my close-ish friends (I forewarn all of them that if alcohol is involved in a conversation they may hear something they don't want to...I can normally play into other's sensitivities on subjects like BDSM and sex, but when I'm drinking I'm not so perceptive.) I haven't told most of my family, but I think some of them suspect, it's a don't ask don't tell situation and it works pretty well right now. I try to remember some of the legal issues that we could run into so I try to keep my mouth shut for the most part. I don't call it lieing, just not volunteering information too often.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I no longer have minor children that the courts have any control over, so I am free to be out. And I am.

My sexual desires and practices are not advertised on billboards (except in forums like this). I don't prance it around in front of family and work associates, but if asked directly I don't deny it. Those who are close enough to know, know already.

My sex life is , for the most part, private. If someone who does not "Need to know" asks, my standard response is "It's none of your business and your asking about that part of my life is incredibly rude". Not a lie, but not providing information.

YIK,
- Geoff

 

[Kajira Callista]

uhmmmmmm
I don't really have anything to add. I was just following Geoff around 'cause I like his av

 

[Evil_Geoff]

uhmmmmmm
I don't really have anything to add. I was just following Geoff around 'cause I like his av

STALKER!
*turns KC around and gives her a swat on the bum*

Now behave! And thank you! And you're making me

 

[Kajira Callista]

STALKER!
*turns KC around and gives her a swat on the bum*

Now behave! And thank you! And you're making me

You shouldn't be nice to stalkers because they follow you around even more when you are.

 

[Netzach]

Dudes, doesn't anyone here draw a distinction between having a secret and lying?

I've lied. Which I guess could be having a secret when you're not supposed to have any secrets from the person. Then again, it's also called having a boundary in some cases (with your parents, for example.)

 

[graceanne]

I guess I'd be with the 'not volunteering' the info. I don't recall anyone asking flat out if I'm into bdsm. I don't know if I'd lie, I'd most likely make comments about how my sex life is none of anyone's business.

It helps, though, that I'm a conservative Christian. People are a lot less likely to question a M/f relationship when you are.