fun being forced?

[Ahi_Viking]

First off, I'm not into forcing women into doing anything. I've never strong armed a woman. Even fetish-wise, it's not my thing at all. I prefer the gentle, throrough foreplay.

But the other day I saw the scene in The Postman Always Rings Twice (if I remember the name correctly). That scene with Jack Nicholson and Jessica Lange is interesting. Man, she's a hottie. As I watched it I thought...do people ever start out that way, an assault with the woman fighting the guy off then changing her mind and rocking his world? Anybody ever experience this? As I watched it I was actually repulsed. But, I'm curious if anybody ever has experienced it or tried it in roleplay and enjoyed it.

It reminded me of many years ago when woman I was seeing for a short time basically refused to let me leave her apartment unless I fucked her. She was physically wrestling me to the living room couch and her roommate was sleeping in her seperate bedroom. I wasn't scared (other than thinking she was going to really raise hell) for my safety, and out of frustration (borderline anger) let her throw me on the couch, pulled out my cock and let her ride till we both came. It was pretty wild. It was the only time I remember just finishing with no protection...so it stuck in my mind.

Once again, I am fully opposed to violence against women. Fully.

 

[eliasrotica3]

I think as soon as it becomes non-consensual at all it loses it's sexuality and becomes something dark. An assault becoming hot sex isn't possible, IMHO.

 

[amofiga]

First off, I'm not into forcing women into doing anything. I've never strong armed a woman. Even fetish-wise, it's not my thing at all. I prefer the gentle, throrough foreplay.

But the other day I saw the scene in The Postman Always Rings Twice (if I remember the name correctly). That scene with Jack Nicholson and Jessica Lange is interesting. Man, she's a hottie. As I watched it I thought...do people ever start out that way, an assault with the woman fighting the guy off then changing her mind and rocking his world? Anybody ever experience this? As I watched it I was actually repulsed. But, I'm curious if anybody ever has experienced it or tried it in roleplay and enjoyed it.

It reminded me of many years ago when woman I was seeing for a short time basically refused to let me leave her apartment unless I fucked her. She was physically wrestling me to the living room couch and her roommate was sleeping in her seperate bedroom. I wasn't scared (other than thinking she was going to really raise hell) for my safety, and out of frustration (borderline anger) let her throw me on the couch, pulled out my cock and let her ride till we both came. It was pretty wild. It was the only time I remember just finishing with no protection...so it stuck in my mind.

Once again, I am fully opposed to violence against women. Fully.

First off, you have to define "forced". To genually force a woman to have sex when she doesn't want to is repulsive. It's rape. HOWEVER, there are many women who find the notion of being "taken aggressively" to be quite a turn on. I've known several that loved being spanked, arms held down, being tied up to the bed, pushed to their knees and their hair pulled. As long as it is basically "role play" and it's what she wants, it's all good. It can be a great turn on for a guy too to be the "cave man". The "gangsta".

Unfortunately, a lot of men have a hard time adapting to the role because they were raised by parents, church, school, media, etc to be gentle and caring. Again. if the woman in the relationship indicates that "rough sex" is a turn on, then go for it with the understanding that there needs to be a set of ground rules discussed in advance as to what's ok and what's not. Spanking....ok. Face slapping.....not ok. Hair pulling.....ok Arm twisting.....not ok.

Then there needs to be a "safe word of phrase" or some sign that she has hit her limit. It's also important for the guy to remain enough in control to accept the limit. It can be tough sometimes because once into it, role play can take on a life of its own if you're not careful. Sexual role play is a lot like acting. You need to know your part, you need to react to your "co-star" and keep the scene in tact without losing focus.

Trust me, rough sex role play, bondage, discipline, etc can be a true turn on if both parties let themselves roll with it. However, just jumping in with no pre understanding as to what's going on can be a little scary for either party. There are lots of books and articles about BDS and role play if you have a hard time figuring it out on your own. Also, if both parties find it fun, it can also be fun to reverse roles now and then. Also, good role play is helped if there is genuine affection and respect displayed after the "scene" has played out. You'd be surprised how many women respond to being told that they are godesses and truly appreciated moments after you've called them a slut and dragged them around a little. Mutual respect and communication is important as it is in any sexual relationship.

Good luck.

 

[njlauren]

A scene like the scene in "The Postman rings twice", like any kind of 'forced sex' scene you are talking about, indicates that chances are the woman in question already felt some sort of attraction to him and in a way let him do it...otherwise, even if she orgasmed mechanically, she would not get 'the hots' for him. The difference between rape and this situation is a narrow one (for example, in the situation with the girlfriend you mentioned, where you wrestled with her, wouldn't let her leave, if she pressed charges could be considered rape, and you might have a hard time fighting it. The fact that you often had sex like that might work, but 'rough sex' defenses with cases of rape often fail to work).

That kind of forced sex is like the 'forced bi' sessions some pro dommes do, or 'forced feminization', it isn't forced per se, the desire was there but she overcomes the reluctance by 'forcing ' them....

 

[southern_gal]

Just a thought - and I admit up front that I read only the opening question - but if it us "fun" to be forced.......can it really be considered "forced"? Just a thought. If one considers it fun it could hardly be something that is forced in my opinion. On the other hand if we are forced to do something it would only be because we can not bring ourselves to do it on our own and thus, how could we enjoy it? Just rambling thoughts.

 

[Blase]

The difference between rape and this situation is a narrow one (for example, in the situation with the girlfriend you mentioned, where you wrestled with her, wouldn't let her leave, if she pressed charges could be considered rape, and you might have a hard time fighting it. The fact that you often had sex like that might work, but 'rough sex' defenses with cases of rape often fail to work).

Uh, Lauren... You're doing the OP a bit of an injustice. If you go back and reread his post, he's saying that she wouldn't let him leave.

I don't normally nitpick at people on the board, but I think that particular detail is important.

 

[Ahi_Viking]

Uh, Lauren... You're doing the OP a bit of an injustice. If you go back and reread his post, he's saying that she wouldn't let him leave.

I don't normally nitpick at people on the board, but I think that particular detail is important.

Thanks. You are correct.

Let's get something straight. I have never forced a woman to do anything. I've never even thought about doing that. Personally, I find it repulsive. So, when I saw that scene in the movie I thought, "Do people really do this?" Then, I remembered there is a group I could actually ask - you folks. There are some strange things talked about here. I see incest mentioned here regularly and I find it sick. But, this isn't the place to judge really. So, I want to clarify that I'm not into this at all. I just was curious about others experiences. I can't imagine people being into it other than the safe, well-planned role playing mentioned here.

And, I was surprised when my lady friend forced herself on me many years ago. I have had women try to get me drunk...that's hot.

 

[senzafine]

Thanks. You are correct.

Let's get something straight. I have never forced a woman to do anything. I've never even thought about doing that. Personally, I find it repulsive. So, when I saw that scene in the movie I thought, "Do people really do this?" Then, I remembered there is a group I could actually ask - you folks. There are some strange things talked about here. I see incest mentioned here regularly and I find it sick. But, this isn't the place to judge really. So, I want to clarify that I'm not into this at all. I just was curious about others experiences. I can't imagine people being into it other than the safe, well-planned role playing mentioned here.

And, I was surprised when my lady friend forced herself on me many years ago. I have had women try to get me drunk...that's hot.

Consensual non-consent can be VERY hot for a lot of people, where "consensual" is the key word