Fuk

[Eilan]

and shes making it like its his fault, i didnt say it twice tho, i said it once and thats it, goddammit, read it!!!

Who says it has to be ANYBODY'S fucking fault?! Your post is just one of a slew of recent posts which implies that if the man has a sexual issue, it's automatically the woman's fault. If you adopt that attitude around here, you're gonna get called on it, and if you can't handle it when someone calls bullshit on you, then maybe you're the one who's immature.

Ill Tell U What, Ill Just Fuck Off And Leave U Know It Alls Live Like U Are Kings On This Forums!!!

Yeah, you do that. And don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out. Please feel free to come back after you've turned 18, or at least learned to spell big words like "you" and "your."

this sounds intresting though...could i get tighter even if im not lose? how do i do kegels?

Kegels are exercises used to strengthen the pubococcygeal (PC muscles) To find out where they are, try stopping the flow of urine when you pee.

If you google Kegels, this is what you come up with. Hope that helps.

 

[bisexplicit]

if u say so that u are doing that, i was just merely saying it could be it... but ur dear friend over there was assuming he was wanking and his dick is desensitised... and u are just fucking annoying me with ur bullshit

get it thru ur head that i was just suggesting something, and get off my case

u are making urself look like an asshat asshat

oh wait, i just found an ignore buttom, wonder if that works?

1) You seem to have me and eilan confused as one person. We are not.

2) You have a horrible attitude.

3) You need to learn how to form clear, coherent sentences.

If I think of more, I'm sure I'll add to the list.

 

[Black666kitten]

=)

thank you
i appreciate it

 

[Norajane]

lol no i dont use toys i dont masterbate
i do feel him
he was my first

he said he used to but he doesnt want to tell me if he still does..he used to do drugs....i've also done blow jobs and he hasnt cum =(

If you've just started having sex, there's a lot to learn about your bodies and what feels good. The best place to start is by masturbating and learning how to give your self orgasms. Then you'll be able to tell him what to do to help you come. This site has some great articles and how-to's to get you started:

http://www.clitical.com/female-masturbation/index.php

As far as your boyfriend goes, he's the only one who can tell you what exactly he's feeling or not.

I think you mean he says he used to masturbate but won't ell you if he still does...he does. 9 out of 10 guys masturbate and the 10th one is lying about it. That could be it if he doesn't feel anything.

Drugs and alcohol can also prevent a guy from coming. Too much of either and he'll keep going forever without coming, or he'll pass out, or both.

None of these things are your fault, though. Ask him to tell you what he does feel and work out from there - does he feel his hand, your hand, your tongue, your lips? When he's inside you, does he feel warmth? Friction? Slippery wetness? Or is it the erotic thrill that he's not feeling? Does he need to fantasize or talk dirty or hear you talk dirty? Just talk to him about it.

And isn't it interesting that it's considered a big problem if a guy doesn't cum every time? Lucky guys.

 

[Eilan]

I think you mean he says he used to masturbate but won't ell you if he still does...he does. 9 out of 10 guys masturbate and the 10th one is lying about it. That could be it if he doesn't feel anything.

Excellent point. I think it's naive to assume that people (male or female) stop masturbating just because they're getting laid regularly.

And isn't it interesting that it's considered a big problem if a guy doesn't cum every time? Lucky guys.

I like you already. Welcome to Lit.

You seem to have me and eilan confused as one person. We are not.

Yeah, but great minds think alike. Besides, from what I hear on the GB rumor mill, you're already at least two other people.

 

[TBKahuna123]

And isn't it interesting that it's considered a big problem if a guy doesn't cum every time? Lucky guys.

I've stayed out until this point because the females have given such good advice. On this though, I agree, but that's not to say it's always as if blame were put on the female. Guys oftent hink that there's something wrong with them if they don't cum. it's SUPPOSED to be easy for us.

 

[Eilan]

On this though, I agree, but that's not to say it's always as if blame were put on the female.

Apparently some people do blame the female, and we've seen quite a bit of it recently. She's too tight, too loose, too whatever. What the fuck?

 

[Norajane]

I've stayed out until this point because the females have given such good advice. On this though, I agree, but that's not to say it's always as if blame were put on the female. Guys oftent hink that there's something wrong with them if they don't cum. it's SUPPOSED to be easy for us.

Women, especially younger, inexperienced ones, tend to accept the blame regardless of whether anyone else actually blames them for it. If a woman can't come, she might think there's something wrong with her. If her guy can't come, she also might think there's something wrong with her. Do you think it work that way for guys, too? Might you think there's something wrong with you if your girl can't come?

And, do guys need to come to enjoy sex???

 

[TBKahuna123]

Women, especially younger, inexperienced ones, tend to accept the blame regardless of whether anyone else actually blames them for it. If a woman can't come, she might think there's something wrong with her. If her guy can't come, she also might think there's something wrong with her.

Exactly what I was thinking. With youth and inexperience comes lack of sexual confidence, which can lead to "what am I doing wrong" syndrome.

Do you think it work that way for guys, too? Might you think there's something wrong with you if your girl can't come?

Apparently some people do blame the female, and we've seen quite a bit of it recently. She's too tight, too loose, too whatever. What the fuck?

These two both make the point I was trying to say. If the girl doesn't cum a lot of guys do think they are failing. Same thing if they can't cum. I think that a lot of times guys tend to do that as a sort of denial that they could possibly be doing something wrong. It must be her, cause I'm a stud. That attitude.

And, do guys need to come to enjoy sex???

Hmmm this is a tough one. I would say no, but I know I'd be lying. I guess for me personally it bepends on what point I reach. Many times I'll be exhausted, but the wife wants to play. I know that when I'm really tired I can't cum, I just go and go until finally I can't maintain anerection but I never orgasm. Though these cases are few and far between, this is very frustrating for me. So we skip PIV sex and just concentrate on oral sex or foreplay, just touching and enjoying each other. This is very fulfilling even though I don't cum, as opposed to spending 45 minues pumping away only to wind up spent and frustrated.

Now keep in mind I consider myself sexually mature. I'm not sure when I was 20 years old if this would have held true. I think it still would have been frustrating. then.

 

[Norajane]

Hmmm this is a tough one. I would say no, but I know I'd be lying. I guess for me personally it bepends on what point I reach. Many times I'll be exhausted, but the wife wants to play. I know that when I'm really tired I can't cum, I just go and go until finally I can't maintain anerection but I never orgasm. Though these cases are few and far between, this is very frustrating for me. So we skip PIV sex and just concentrate on oral sex or foreplay, just touching and enjoying each other. This is very fulfilling even though I don't cum, as opposed to spending 45 minues pumping away only to wind up spent and frustrated.

Now keep in mind I consider myself sexually mature. I'm not sure when I was 20 years old if this would have held true. I think it still would have been frustrating. then.

I can't even imagine what sex would mean to me if I came virtually every time I was with someone. I'd have a whole different perspective, I think. Boggles the mind.

 

[Edun]

Young couples

Need time to get to know each other. Sex is a lot more than just the act itself. It sounds like your new to the dirty deed and you both could be nervous.

I tend to think his lack of cumming is a head thing. He may be worried about getting you pregnant, his ability to perform, and (being you are inexperienced), trying to make your first encounters pleasant.

Learn to relax, explore each other, and enjoy when it feels natural.

Just an old guys perspective....

 

[gravyboat]

I'm going to guess it's a mental issue as well. If you're not using condoms and he's not taking drugs, then there go two likely culprits.

I liked the masturbation idea, but if his orgasms came easily enough the first couple times (and I would imagine he'd been jerkin' it before), I wouldn't guess his style has changed all that much since you started having sex.

I would say the best thing to do is talk it out. Communication = good. If you discuss things, keep your minds open and don't try to pass (or take) a lot of blame, you can work out anything.

Talk. Relax. Have fun

 

[gravyboat]

And, do guys need to come to enjoy sex???

As long as I'm posting....might as well spread my 2 cents even thinner and pipe up here too. The common attitude seems to be that most guys would, in general, just expect that sex = coming. Personally, I've had intensely satisfying sexual encounters that didn't involve me getting off, but that's just me. Interesting if you look at the language people use. Particularly when someone is lacking in sexual activity, what I hear most commonly is that they "need to get laid." It's not that they need to have sex, but that they need to be in a state of already having had sex. As though it's the end result and not the process that's most important.

Or maybe I'm reading too much into it

 

[Black666kitten]

Need time to get to know each other. Sex is a lot more than just the act itself. It sounds like your new to the dirty deed and you both could be nervous.

I tend to think his lack of cumming is a head thing. He may be worried about getting you pregnant, his ability to perform, and (being you are inexperienced), trying to make your first encounters pleasant.

Learn to relax, explore each other, and enjoy when it feels natural.

Just an old guys perspective....

lol he is inexperinced too =p and a lil younger then me <33 lmao thank you...if he is worried which i think could be the case..is he still enjoying it?

 

[TBKahuna123]

As long as I'm posting....might as well spread my 2 cents even thinner and pipe up here too. The common attitude seems to be that most guys would, in general, just expect that sex = coming. Personally, I've had intensely satisfying sexual encounters that didn't involve me getting off, but that's just me. Interesting if you look at the language people use. Particularly when someone is lacking in sexual activity, what I hear most commonly is that they "need to get laid." It's not that they need to have sex, but that they need to be in a state of already having had sex. As though it's the end result and not the process that's most important.

Or maybe I'm reading too much into it

No I think what you say is very true.

I also agree, I've had some intense sexual experiences that didn't involve me getting off, but they didn't involve penetration. To me, penetration without cumming would be frustrating. Having an intense sexual encounter that isn't PIV sex, now that's another matter. I'm sure this is a mental distinction, but there is it nonetheless.

 

[surferboy69]

If you've just started having sex, there's a lot to learn about your bodies and what feels good. The best place to start is by masturbating and learning how to give your self orgasms. Then you'll be able to tell him what to do to help you come. This site has some great articles and how-to's to get you started:

http://www.clitical.com/female-masturbation/index.php

As far as your boyfriend goes, he's the only one who can tell you what exactly he's feeling or not.

I think you mean he says he used to masturbate but won't ell you if he still does...he does. 9 out of 10 guys masturbate and the 10th one is lying about it. That could be it if he doesn't feel anything.



None of these things are your fault, though.

And isn't it interesting that it's considered a big problem if a guy doesn't cum every time? Lucky guys.

Well put. Communicate openly to one another and talk about things.

I do not know if it is an issue for a guy not to cum every time but I sure miss it when I don't!