Fuck Y'all

[CW]

I've asked this question to a lot of men..

"What would you do if the woman says to you.. I want to please you, I will do ANYTHING to please you" ...

if that woman says that to them, what would they do... and all..ALL of the men have said.. "I DON'T KNOW" -simply because it has never really happened to them.. They've never been with a woman who said that and felt they meant it.

I mean it.
I mean everything I say
I wouldn't say it if I didn't mean it
Given that....

WHAT WOULD YOU REQUEST?

I'm afraid that I fit the sterotype that you portray in your remarks,,, I just don't know. My first reaction is one of disbelief. My second is one of simply saying, you start off where you want and we'll go from there. Third reaction is back to #1. This has never happened in real life,,, not even close.

I for one am a big fan of massages, snuggles, and long slow kisses,,, some intense sex that is plain outright normal,,, nothing wild or out of the ordinary.

So, perhaps what I would ask for is that the woman take charge and seduce me this time,,, with an understanding of what is erotic and what is not.

 

[Wil_E_Harden]

NOW she asks me ...

.... the *first* time someone made me that offer, she was on her hands and knees looking back at me over her shoulder. Unfortunately, it was 3:30 a.m. and I was dead, dead tired, while for her it was merely the shank of the evening. And, of course, as TN Vixen so aptly pointed out - I didn't know what to say at the time.

I WISH I had said, "Cuddle up with me baby and let's go to sleep." Instead I married the woman and she made my life a misery. She never repeated the offer, and I thought many a time what I should have done.

Life is better now. I have an answer. Drop by some afternoon, Vixen, and ask that question to my face. I DARE ya!

In the meantime, for those who wonder what I would want - read the 'Kimmy' stories. I want it all!

 

[miles]

Omigod

To sum it up, I'd like to be taken care of for a change.

Tell me the day before what you are going to do to me, and that you will make me cum as many times as I wish.

Greet me at the door in a white peignoir, carrying two glasses of cognac.

Bathe me in a tub surrounded by candles.

Dry me off. Slowly.

Take me to bed.

Let me enjoy NOT being in charge

I have to stop or I won't be able to get a damn thing done today!

 

[TonyG]

"What would you do if the woman says to you.. I want to please you, I will do ANYTHING to please you" ...

if that woman says that to them, what would they do... and all..ALL of the men have said.. "I DON'T KNOW" -simply because it has never really happened to them.. They've never been with a woman who said that and felt they meant it.

You are most likely correct. I know that none of my male friends have been told that statement by a woman, nor have I. I think it might be an offshoot of our society preaching equal values for men and women.

However, if it was said to me, my response would be for the woman to let me pamper her, my style, for a whole day without questions. Not allowed to call her sister, or watch some lame tv show or work on a project, just give herself completely to me mind and body to let me simply love her.

I don't think "today's" women can do that.

 

[Wil_E_Harden]

Equality a wonderful thing

Tony Gam's comments might lead some of us astray. The inability of a man to answer the original question has literally nothing to do with a social trend Tony obviously dislikes; in fact, equality is a liberating experience for men and women, unless a person of either gender is incapable of dealing with it.

I grew up before the women's equality movement had made any progress. My attitudes, formed in that time, made it impossible for me to tell a woman what I wanted, or for her to tell me. My worldview, constructed in the "old fashioned" manner, would hardly equip me to function well now. Equality liberated me, and it enabled women to achieve their potential. I have seen so many women of my generation impose artificial limits on themselves specifically because they are not men and shouldn't deserve achievement or advancement or even decent pay - and certainly not orgasms.

Asking a classmate of mine for oral or anal sex would be like lighting the fuse of the Titan V rocket. Multiple partner, bi, or group sex? Other "variations" - nuh, uh!

"Today's society" is a better, not a worse, place for men and women to live with their sexuality.

Tony's issues are still real, however. I just disagree with the "blame" for them. I suggest reading Dr. John Gray's "Mars and Venus in the Bedroom," which is one of the very few books to actually explain the fundamental male-female differences in sexual psychology. Yes, basically Gray writes a lot of psychobabble pap, but this particular book is very helpful. Otherwise go digging thru the pages of "Black Rage," a sociological study of racism from the 1960's, which has an outstanding chapter on sexual psychology.

[Edited by Wil_E_Harden on 12-09-2000 at 08:04 AM]

 

[Thumper]

Really!?

Great question....

My answer....

Fix the brakes on my car.

Pick up your own feminine products at the store. ( I spend way too much money buying cover items when I do that. You know, grocery store motor oil, work gloves, beer, car magazines hungry man TV dinners)

You kill the spider

Put the seat up...

Bring me flowers...

Anything sexual I have wanted has been done...

 

[Cheyenne]

Originally posted by Thumper

Fix the brakes on my car.
Can I cheat and take it to Midas?

Pick up your own feminine products at the store. ( I spend way too much money buying cover items when I do that. You know, grocery store motor oil, work gloves, beer, car magazines hungry man TV dinners)
Does that mean you'll buy your own condoms, too? Okay, I supposed I could pick up both.

You kill the spider
That's what exterminators are for. No spiders in the house left to kill.

Put the seat up...
Oooh, you are a demanding one. I'd try. At least for a day.

Bring me flowers...
I've done this one- men DO appreciate flowers! Could I be naked and carrying the flowers in my teeth when I bring them to you?

Anything sexual I have wanted has been done...
Lucky man. And I haven't even offered yet.

 

[TonyG]

Re: Equality a wonderful thing

Tony Gam's comments might lead some of us astray. The inability of a man to answer the original question has literally nothing to do with a social trend Tony obviously dislikes; in fact, equality is a liberating experience for men and women, unless a person of either gender is incapable of dealing with it.

I think I might have led you astray. I applaud you for your views on women's equality. Many men "say" they believe in equality but not many "show" equality.

However, I am totally for and openly promote female equality in all aspects of life. My first true love was a women's rights activist and opened my eyes to many things unequal. I am so thankful she was in my life.

The point I was trying to get across is that I think today's woman is somewhat conditioned against giving her all to a man on occasion. I believe this conditioning comes from all forms of the media which show stereotypical men stepping on women's rights. When I have tried to pamper a woman for a day, I have received comments like "what if I don't want you to do that" or "that might be what you want but not what I want" or "who are you to say what I need". It gives me the belief that at least this woman might feel she would not be my equal if she "gives in". Try it. Tell your wife/girlfriend that you want her to let you pamper her for a day without any questions. You get to do want you want to do for her. See how she reacts.

This might be a good topic for a whole new thread.

 

[Temptress_1960]

I have said that to my husband - I'll do anything, baby, what do you want? And have had the same kind of response as TN_Vixen.

I think it stems from disbelief - he doesn't believe that I will do anything - absolutely anything (although I certainly will).

I think he feels that if he makes a suggestion, I will refuse, or be disgusted, or whatever. It may be very threatening for him to put himself in the vulnerable position of expressing a perhaps forbidden desire - which is scary for anyone.

Or maybe he has no imagination. Or perhaps I have fulfilled his every fantasy. Hmmm.

Often I have to very subtly persuade him to experiment. Takes time and patience, but he loves it when it happens.

Of course, I have been a bad influence on him since our first date, so I would hate to stop now. And he looooves it, bless his er, heart.

And so do I.

I'd love to get him to the point where if I said "I'll do anything, baby," he would say..... <insert personal fantasy here>

 

[TonyG]

I think he feels that if he makes a suggestion, I will refuse, or be disgusted, or whatever. It may be very threatening for him to put himself in the vulnerable position of expressing a perhaps forbidden desire - which is scary for anyone.

Your getting close. It could be fear. The few times I have had to answer that question I have thought ...what if she says to me "what made you suggest that?"

 

[Guest]

If it was you..

 

[Sav]

[Edited by Sav on 12-11-2000 at 11:46 PM]

 

[TN_Vixen]

thanks all who responded

and sorry for my drunken rampage last Friday (hehe). That doesn't happen often and I'll attempt to keep it from happening again.. at least on this board.

Anyway, I really enjoyed reading your responses.

It is so true that men don't believe women who say that, although I have been with one man who believed me and what a ride!

Do you think it is just fear or fear mixed with respect? Men are taught to respect women and a lot of fantasy material isn't steeped in respect at all, is it?

Indy.. your answer was great! I would love to give a guy a bath and inspect every inch. That's very sensual and intimate and I would enjoy it greatly.

Again, thanks y'all and have a great week. Mine is going to be crazy mad.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Better late than never......

1) I have never had a woman say this, make this offer to me.

2) If it ever happens - it depends on the woman and how well I know her - in order to determine the sincerity of the offer. Nothing would turn me off more than the offer being less than sincere. I don't necessarily like, what would you call it - acquiescence, submission or resignation in anyone, particularly women - unless, unless it is genuine in it's sexual/erotic premise.