Fuck Buddies vs. Friends you Fuck

[icy]

Please draw the line.. I mean what do you call a person that you can hang out with and give a call to at all hours of the night or day for some nookie. I know Fuck Buddies a*k*a "booty calls", is just someone that you hit and quit, but what if you have a mutual bond that isnt marred by the fact that you both date other people...You be the judge

 

[Cipher]

Please draw the line.. I mean what do you call a person that you can hang out with and give a call to at all hours of the night or day for some nookie. I know Fuck Buddies a*k*a "booty calls", is just someone that you hit and quit, but what if you have a mutual bond that isnt marred by the fact that you both date other people...You be the judge

Booty calls are just that..like u said, the hit it and quit it type of "friend"..

But i think that a friend you have regular sexcapdes with and you can actually go to the movies, or dinner, or hang out with, and even talk to about stuff, is what i call a "Friend with benefits", and those, are the perfect ones to have..LoL

 

[Devil_d0ll]

Re: Re: Fuck Buddies vs. Friends you Fuck

Booty calls are just that..like u said, the hit it and quit it type of "friend"..

But i think that a friend you have regular sexcapdes with and you can actually go to the movies, or dinner, or hang out with, and even talk to about stuff, is what i call a "Friend with benefits", and those, are the perfect ones to have..LoL

i totally agree cipher girly

 

[Orwell84]

I would agree with Cipher. Depending on the situation, either could be important and fun. From my perspective though, the true friend that one may have sex with from time to time is more valuable in the long run. I think a person can never have too many friends, and friends make for a broader more meaningful relationship that goes far beyond sexual gratification. I guess it all really depends on the individual and what works for him/her.

 

[Brit]

Cock up

I married my fuck buddy. The whole concept kinda got screwed up there.

 

[chromefreak]

I agree...

That a friend with benefits is important from time to time. Here's why I think so.

In the past I had a few, a girl that I'd met in the past, struck up a friendship with, lost contact with, then ran into down the line again and ended up hooking up with, usually as a rebound from a relationship of mine or hers, or both, that ended.

but they always ended up turning into relationships for a month or two.

Until recently, Right now I have a friend with benefits, we lost contact when she got married. I met her 6 years ago, when she started dating one of my best friends. when they broke up, I didn't dare move in on her, as I wasn't sure it'd go over well with my friend. I wanted to, though, I was always attracted to her. Then she got married.

3 years later she showed up at a bar where I was meeting a group of our mutual friends. We were catching up on old times and it felt like no time had passed between us. I made the comment "I'm glad your husband let you out of the house tonight" and she waved a bare ring finger at me. She got a divorce.

She came over that night after the bars closed, and we were sitting on the couch, cuddling and talking about why our relationships failed, that led to kissing, which led straight into my bedroom.

This was mutually beneficial to us for several reasons.

I was finally ready to accept the fact that I needed to get over my most recent breakup. Neither of us had felt affection from anyone for quite some time. We'd known each other for so long that we were totally comfortable and at ease with the situation. It made things less complicated. She was having some self confidance issued after gaining weight and having a kid, but didn't feel self conscious with me, she shouldn't, she's still just as beautiful, even moreso now that I've seen her during "Afterglow." There have even been a couple times where we've been each other's shoulder to cry on.

Just when I was thinking that it was headed the way of being a "Serious" relationship, she asked me "You don't mind if I whore you out to one of my friends, do you?" If I hadn't been laying down I would have been after that. Turns out she had been gossiping with the lady that did her nails, who felt that it'd been too long since she'd been with anyone and made a comment that she needed to find "Someone like him to play with on occasion" and my fuckbuddy said "Wanna borrow him, I'm sure he'd be all for it?"

Damn! That's a true friend. If they were both into girls, too, I'd have an instant BBW threesome on my hands, and something to brag about, but it's still funny knowing they're comparing notes when she's getting her nails done.

 

[Native Alien]

and that is the meaning of a friend ( see post above) and i have a serious question here.

why is it that some men seem to be amazed at the fact that women talk to each other about sex and so on ?

 

[chromefreak]

and that is the meaning of a friend ( see post above) and i have a serious question here.

why is it that some men seem to be amazed at the fact that women talk to each other about sex and so on ?

Amazed? I dunno, Makes perfect sense to me...I just wonder what they're saying

 

[psyche]

Amazed? I dunno, Makes perfect sense to me...I just wonder what they're saying

Honey, if she is recommending you to someone - what she's saying is all good!

 

[1sexylady]

Re: Re: Fuck Buddies vs. Friends you Fuck

Booty calls are just that..like u said, the hit it and quit it type of "friend"..

But i think that a friend you have regular sexcapdes with and you can actually go to the movies, or dinner, or hang out with, and even talk to about stuff, is what i call a "Friend with benefits", and those, are the perfect ones to have..LoL

I agree...

 

[1sexylady]

Re: I agree...

That a friend with benefits is important from time to time. Here's why I think so.

In the past I had a few, a girl that I'd met in the past, struck up a friendship with, lost contact with, then ran into down the line again and ended up hooking up with, usually as a rebound from a relationship of mine or hers, or both, that ended.

but they always ended up turning into relationships for a month or two.

Until recently, Right now I have a friend with benefits, we lost contact when she got married. I met her 6 years ago, when she started dating one of my best friends. when they broke up, I didn't dare move in on her, as I wasn't sure it'd go over well with my friend. I wanted to, though, I was always attracted to her. Then she got married.

3 years later she showed up at a bar where I was meeting a group of our mutual friends. We were catching up on old times and it felt like no time had passed between us. I made the comment "I'm glad your husband let you out of the house tonight" and she waved a bare ring finger at me. She got a divorce.

She came over that night after the bars closed, and we were sitting on the couch, cuddling and talking about why our relationships failed, that led to kissing, which led straight into my bedroom.

This was mutually beneficial to us for several reasons.

I was finally ready to accept the fact that I needed to get over my most recent breakup. Neither of us had felt affection from anyone for quite some time. We'd known each other for so long that we were totally comfortable and at ease with the situation. It made things less complicated. She was having some self confidance issued after gaining weight and having a kid, but didn't feel self conscious with me, she shouldn't, she's still just as beautiful, even moreso now that I've seen her during "Afterglow." There have even been a couple times where we've been each other's shoulder to cry on.

Just when I was thinking that it was headed the way of being a "Serious" relationship, she asked me "You don't mind if I whore you out to one of my friends, do you?" If I hadn't been laying down I would have been after that. Turns out she had been gossiping with the lady that did her nails, who felt that it'd been too long since she'd been with anyone and made a comment that she needed to find "Someone like him to play with on occasion" and my fuckbuddy said "Wanna borrow him, I'm sure he'd be all for it?"

Damn! That's a true friend. If they were both into girls, too, I'd have an instant BBW threesome on my hands, and something to brag about, but it's still funny knowing they're comparing notes when she's getting her nails done.

Your friend sounds like mine.......She gave me as a present for Christmas....

 

[Bug Eyed Monster]

I used to call them intimate friends. I personally like that term better than fuck buddies, booty calls, or friends I fuck.

My $0.02
Edited to add:
I have never really thought of having someone I could just wham, bam, thank you mam with, so perhaps I missed your original point.

All my intimate friends have been friends first and intimate occasionally. The friendship was/is important the sex is fun.

 

[Dr. B Evil]

Appetizers!

Just a side dish in the life's buffet line!

 

[zetacon4]

my fuck buddy has been good for me in many ways. Built confidence, I helped her too. We each agreed from the start what we wanted in our friendship. We both need and want good intimate contact without any hangups. We have been very relaxed and confident about each other. For the two of us, it is about being true friends. Not just the sex. But great fulfilling sex is very healing. And that is the best aspect of our relationship at present. I intend to maintain our friendship for as long as we both can keep in touch.

thanks for this thread. Lots of good ideas can pop up here.

 

[psyche]

Please draw the line.. I mean what do you call a person that you can hang out with and give a call to at all hours of the night or day for some nookie. I know Fuck Buddies a*k*a "booty calls", is just someone that you hit and quit, but what if you have a mutual bond that isnt marred by the fact that you both date other people...You be the judge

I have a wonderful fuck buddy. The entire basis of the beginning of the relationship was sex. We both have been very open about the boundaries of the relationship and what it entails. We are not friends in the sense that we 'hang out' together. I can't do that right now and that is not what I was looking for, and that is not what he was looking for either. I will never forget him and what he has meant to me during a very difficult part of my life. His seduction of me on-line was so complete that I overcame the fear of meeting someone I did not know in real life, sometimes I can't believe that I had the courage to do it, but it is also an indication of the strength of the needs that I had to fulfill. We have the best sex that I have ever had in my life.

We have also become friends, though, in the sense that we talk about other things, and that we care about each other. I will be very happy for him when he finds someone, even though I know it will be the end of our times together, I think that qualifies as friendship.

 

[trixiefirecracker]

I had a Friend You Fuck once....he turned out to be a total arse and was fucking the rest of his 'friends' too....he broke my heart....
oh well...lol

 

[Sex & Diamonds]

You mean I'm supposed to keep two different lists

 

[zetacon4]

You mean I'm supposed to keep two different lists

Good point!

How long is that list? hehe!

Any room for another addition?

 

[Ukin]

I have no comparisons to make...but I would sure love a fuck buddy

 

[Freya]

I have a fwb...we dont' hang out all that much together, although we are both comfortable doing so. We talk, laugh, share, cry, and it's not just fuck and run...I sleep over or he does. He's been great for my self confidence, and we have given each other support through tough times in our lives. Lately the relationship seems to be possibly moving to a different level...but I really am not sure about all that.

 

[Ukin]

I have a fwb...we dont' hang out all that much together, although we are both comfortable doing so. We talk, laugh, share, cry, and it's not just fuck and run...I sleep over or he does. He's been great for my self confidence, and we have given each other support through tough times in our lives. Lately the relationship seems to be possibly moving to a different level...but I really am not sure about all that.

Nice Av Freya

 

[Sex & Diamonds]

Good point!

How long is that list? hehe!

Any room for another addition?

Another addiction?

Besides.....Men...Chocolate...and men covered in chocolate?

 

[Freya]

Nice Av Freya

Thanks hun.

 

[zetacon4]

Another addiction?

Besides.....Men...Chocolate...and men covered in chocolate?

You have my complete and undivided attention!
By the way, I have a picture of a woman completely dripping in real chocolate. May I send it to you? I know you will really like it.
Side note: I use syrups in my love play. Strawberry works very nicely. Could I interest you in a chocolate covered phallus?

 

[chromefreak]

I have no comparisons to make...but I would sure love a fuck buddy

3rd Street Aleworks in Santa Rosa is a good place to look, you'd be welcome to come with us, Ukin. Even if ya don't find one there, My friends are a riot and any pub with 2 floors and a staircase at least gives a good show