Frustration and....venting.

[MrSneakyinPA]

Let me try a bit of confession and honesty.

Like some, or many men here, and even possible some women I am very happily married. We have "desires" that our wives, er, spouses don't meet, or understand. Not that we are perverts, to most, but perhaps if our desires were fully knows to our spouses we fear they might think us so.
So we come here, to LIT. Among LIT, there are fairly like minded people. Our dark desires and secrets can be made known with the illusion of anonymity, and it stems that sexual frustration for a bit.
We don't want to rock the boat with our spouses. We love them. Really. We just wish they would......*sigh* do certain things sexually. We probably hint at what we'd like hoping they will catch on on their own and WANT to do it. Either for them selves, for us, or for both us us. But if we do ask out right, you run the risk of having them pull back and wonder if #1, "They aren't good enough or pleasing enough" because they haven't been doing that, and really don't want to. And then they start to wonder if you really ARE happy with them in other areas of your relation ship. Then you fears are realized when they start to pull away when thinking you aren't happy with them. Or #2, You let them know you want something sexually, something simple, then they do it, reluctantly, and you know they are and you feel like an idiot for pushing it.
Our marriages aren't worth jeopardizing for sexual pleasure, especially when all other areas of the relation ship are perfectly amazing. So here we come. We live and appreciate the beautiful women of LIT that willing share their photos of their bodies in all lovely shapes and sizes. We fantasize about them. We love the stories and the experiences of fellow LIT'ers that have similar deep dark secret fantasies. We masturbate, we cum, and we perpetuate the cycle of settling for fantasy. Which in all honesty and fairness. Is probably the best thing to do. Our families aren't worth destroying for moments of sexual pleasure.

#1 on my list: I want to share my wife with another man! I want her pussy filled with his hard cock and her to make out passionately with his while they he slides his cock slowly in and out of her tight red haired pussy. (Isn't going to happen EVER)
#2 I just want her willing to share more detail about her sexual past. Happens in spurts, but not as much intimate detail as I want.
#3 My first blow job! She just has NO interest. And I'm not pushing it.
#4 Some ...... "Bi-VERY-curious" thoughts to explore.


So, men and women of LIT. Same boat there? Especially wondering it there are frustrated women.

-Sneaky

 

[matt8387]

Well sir yes yes very much agree with u

 

[5watcher]

Thanks for writing what I feel. You said it perfectly.

Would love the wife to be more willing to do things. Hell, she says that she has never masterbated and I believe it since I am the only guy she has been with. I told her to look on the internet for ideas but I have not seen any evidence that she has.

So thanks to all the women for their photo's and thoughts.. I dont masterbate to them but I do love to look...

 

[MrSneakyinPA]

I'm not sure the women of LIT know how much they are appreciated.

WOMEN of LIT. THANK YOU!!

So....if anyone wants to have sex with my 47yo redhead wife......or me......or us...... I wish I could talk her into it.

Or, if you are in central PA, and want me to come visit you and your wife/husband in bed together...... PM ME, you wouldn't have to talk me into it!!!!!!

 

[TwistedJenn]

I agree with a lot that you have said, I think it's perfectly normal to fantasize. Just wanted to let you know as a woman and wife in a committed monogamous relationship that I completely understand.

 

[CBM514]

I agree that Lit can be a healthy outlet for otherwise suppressed fantasies and opportunity to explore interests with others who have similar interests...I think the danger for any couple is if one party gets too caught up in the virtual world and/or hide any if this activity from their partner...just my .02...

 

[Leigh81]

I've found this site and a lot of people here very helpful.
I grew up so straight and naïve about sex and a lot of other things.
My husband let all of his fantasies and desires out with me which he held in and was afraid of my reaction. It was all new to me but no matter what he says I'd listen. I would never react angrily to something even if it wasn't something I favored or even thought disgusting. My opinion is no matter what it is you should tell your S.O. Marriage is a bond and if you can't tell that one person something then there is a crack in that bond.
I know my husband held it in for a time, but since he did tell me his sexually desires not only did our sex life improve but also every other aspect of our lives.

L

 

[CBM514]

I'll echo that sentiment and add to my earlier thought that this forum has been another way for us to explore more together and has helped our sex life too I think...

 

[SexyTabby]

As a wife I feel the same way though our personal fantasies are considerably different. I too wish the Hubby would be more inclined to heighten our sexuality in the bedroom.

Unfortunately, I was one to push to hard and got many of the reactions you fear from your wife. It was a very negative experience that doesn't really get undone. You just move forward pretending the feelings inside don't really exist until it becomes overwhelming. Then you find places like Lit in hopes of better understanding yourself and your needs. I didn't join to find someone to screw but rather I joined to learn more about myself and why I feel so alone needing more than I have. I don't know where this road will take me but I hope Lit will help me get to where I'm going.