Frustrated!

[Morgasim]

Hello, I have been having sex with my girlfriend for a few months now and before we even started dating she told me a guy has never been able to give her an orgasim. exept for once when her ex-boyfriend was giving her oral sex. she has had orgasims while having sex but it was from rubbing her clitorus at the same time. I have tried doing this method myself but I was very unsucessful in giving her an orgasim. I tried going down on her and I know I am skilled in this area from what I hear but I still could not give her an orgasim! She claims it was because she was drunk and couldnt even really remember me going down on her. Im not a one minute man either after going down on her we had sex for over 3 hours and still nothing. I am getting so frustrated that I have begun to question myself. I have though about buying one of those vibrating cock rings but she said that would probably not help. I know there is a "g-spot" on the front of the vagainal wall and i have tried caressing this area and all it does is make her moan... someone please help!

 

[M's girl]

Well, welcome to Lit! You have come to the right place. I can tell you that you are not alone and your situation is not uncommon at all. There are more women who can't orgasm with a partner than you probably realize I'm afraid.

The Blank Manual is a very useful source of information so I would recommend you to check it out. If you go to The Clitoris.com you will see that for a lot of women reaching orgasm (mind the spelling!) is not as easy as it probably should be.

The G-spot and it's stimulation works for some women, but by far not for everyone (I'm in the latter category ). This thread hold loads and loads of information and experiences on this subject.

You've got some reading to do.... I suppose

 

[Morgasim]

Thanks for the info. I was actually just reading some of the articals in there. they are quite interesting. does using menthol reallywork?

 

[M's girl]

Menthol? Well, not on me. But everyone is different. Depends on how sensitive she is down there I suppose. That has everything to do with the kind of stimulation she will need. Ask her to tell you what works for her. Ask her to show you as well. Some women need direct and rough stimulation on their clit, others (like me) need the more subtile stimulation. She is the only one who can tell you how it works for her, but of course it does not hurt to read about other people's experiences to be able to suggest other techniques to her if she needs a little help in that (exploring) area.

 

[DrHappy]

Relax! As the previous poster mentioned, more than 50% of woman can't have an orgasm from intercourse alone. If she is self conscious, then things will be worse. First, make sure that she knows that you are fine with her, regardless of whether or not she has an orgasm.

It wasn't exactly clear, but does she have an orgasm if she rubs her clit while you have sex with her? Does she have orgasms when she masturbates? How about a with a vibrator? Some woman can only achieve an orgasm with a vibrator. If so, you can include one with your sexual encounters. Regardless, you both should realize that orgasms aren't a threshold for a successful sexual encounter. Relax and enjoy whatever happens. She'll enjoy the experience more if she doesn't have to worry about performance anxiety. She'll also be more likely to have orgasm as well.

 

[M's girl]

..... she has had orgasms while having sex but it was from rubbing her clitoris at the same time....

I'm the same.... never had one from PIV sex alone. Quite common.

 

[SexyGolem]

Just be careful to not stress too much about it or put stress on her. A watched pussy never pops. Or something to that effect. Anyway, pressure can kill a good orgasm, and trust can do wonders, you dig?