frustrated wife

[englishbiggirl]

So, as I think is probably clear, I like to be cum on. Sensation is great and all that.

So 2 things have made me frustrated today, and I'm just like confirmation I'm not unreasonable.

1 it's a struggle for him to wank over me. Really????? He claims to only be able to wank to porn.

2 After getting horny blowing him I said it would be nice to gave a cock below me at the same time. So he suggested a cheap and nasty blow up chair with some kind of dildo. Not the same thing at all

I know he is vanilla but am I being unreasonable?

 

[HellBenttoo]

So, as I think is probably clear, I like to be cum on. Sensation is great and all that.

So 2 things have made me frustrated today, and I'm just like confirmation I'm not unreasonable.

1 it's a struggle for him to wank over me. Really????? He claims to only be able to wank to porn.

2 After getting horny blowing him I said it would be nice to gave a cock below me at the same time. So he suggested a cheap and nasty blow up chair with some kind of dildo. Not the same thing at all

I know he is vanilla but am I being unreasonable?

No, you are not.

 

[russko]

So, as I think is probably clear, I like to be cum on. Sensation is great and all that.

So 2 things have made me frustrated today, and I'm just like confirmation I'm not unreasonable.

1 it's a struggle for him to wank over me. Really????? He claims to only be able to wank to porn.

2 After getting horny blowing him I said it would be nice to gave a cock below me at the same time. So he suggested a cheap and nasty blow up chair with some kind of dildo. Not the same thing at all

I know he is vanilla but am I being unreasonable?

not unreasonable to have desires and fetishes - in a marriage it does take two, so he needs to do a better job at making you happy. Of course, the other side of the coin is you can't force him to do something he's uncomfortable with... For example, referring to your point #2, he may not feel right about sharing you

let us know how we can help - and keep hanging in there

 

[smallpieceofbliss]

I don't think that's unreasonable at all. I am feeling very similar to you and can totally understand your frustration

 

[hilton1958]

So, as I think is probably clear, I like to be cum on. Sensation is great and all that.

So 2 things have made me frustrated today, and I'm just like confirmation I'm not unreasonable.

1 it's a struggle for him to wank over me. Really????? He claims to only be able to wank to porn.

2 After getting horny blowing him I said it would be nice to gave a cock below me at the same time. So he suggested a cheap and nasty blow up chair with some kind of dildo. Not the same thing at all

I know he is vanilla but am I being unreasonable?

It is not unreasonable at all, I dare say I am like most men in that I just love seeing my cum squirting anywhere onto my wifes body, it is a huge thrill!!!
Most times when she gives me a handjob, I am usually lying on my back and she is on her side next to me, but as I feel myself getting close to cumming, I push her onto her back and straddle her, because I can't resist cumming on her, whether on her tits, tummy, pussy anywhere, I just love it and so does she.

 

[hilton1958]

not unreasonable to have desires and fetishes - in a marriage it does take two, so he needs to do a better job at making you happy. Of course, the other side of the coin is you can't force him to do something he's uncomfortable with... For example, referring to your point #2, he may not feel right about sharing you

let us know how we can help - and keep hanging in there

I have to agree on the point about sharing, I wouldn't share my wife with another man, period.

 

[englishbiggirl]

Cheers all. I understand the sharing thing to an extent but he's willing to share with a woman. Anbd this is the first time he's said no. I probably just need to have a serious conversation about that.


The wanking baffles me though. And that's a bigger issue.

 

[rod43]

I don't think that's unreasonable at all. I am feeling very similar to you and can totally understand your frustration

You are not alone in feeling this way!

 

[Palamino19]

Cheers all. I understand the sharing thing to an extent but he's willing to share with a woman. Anbd this is the first time he's said no. I probably just need to have a serious conversation about that.


The wanking baffles me though. And that's a bigger issue.

If he can only do it to porn, perhaps he's wanking too much to porn. Obviously he can wank. This is not a skill men lack.

 

[englishbiggirl]

Oh I know he can wank to porn. He doesn't do it as often as I do and he prefers me to wank him. I think he doesn't understand that sometimes I just want to be an object to look at but not touch til he cums

 

[suckonsimon]

Woo him, excite him, cultivate him towards your desires, with a genuine offer of the freedom to choose either way. That's the only way to truly satisfying new dimensions within a relationship, I think. For men as for women, the signalling of frustration and disappointment is a turn-off and a boner-limper.

 

[BareBackRider2]

And here I am, begging my wife to do either

Well the wanking we do but she doesn't "like" me to come on her but has allowed it.

Her preference is to keep things as clean as possible to minimise post climax cleaning up.

I long for the day we fall asleep in a pool of our own sexual juices

 

[ElliottEden]

So, as I think is probably clear, I like to be cum on. Sensation is great and all that.

So 2 things have made me frustrated today, and I'm just like confirmation I'm not unreasonable.

1 it's a struggle for him to wank over me. Really????? He claims to only be able to wank to porn.

2 After getting horny blowing him I said it would be nice to gave a cock below me at the same time. So he suggested a cheap and nasty blow up chair with some kind of dildo. Not the same thing at all

I know he is vanilla but am I being unreasonable?

Men can have hang ups about masturbating; he may find it hard to do it with an audience. Especially if that audience is a significant other.

Why not suggest to him that you'll get a porn movie, something you know he'll get aroused watching. Then tell him you want to watch him play with himself as the two of you watch it?

You could lean on him, whisper in his ear and give him encouragement by playing with yourself. It may require you to play with his balls etc., and even an ultimatum that the only way he's going to cum is by his hand jerking his cock off and you getting to watch.

Get him over the hangup, if that's what he has, of masturbating in front of you. Then get him to shoot his spunk all over your body. Maybe some bukkake porn to set the mood?

 

[jays78]

Cheers all. I understand the sharing thing to an extent but he's willing to share with a woman. Anbd this is the first time he's said no. I probably just need to have a serious conversation about that.


The wanking baffles me though. And that's a bigger issue.

I understand the sharing. My wife is willing to have a MMF, MFM and FFM. But will never let me enter another pussy.

As for the cumming on you? I don't understand, I find it a huge thrill shooting my cum all over my wife's body.

 

[leather_spitfire]

what about sharing with a crossdresser or a t-girl?

I love to watch people, male and female, wanking and be watched myself. does he consider himself to be attractive? I have no problems with being nude and others seeing me nude, but I think I'm attractive. I don't think it's narcissism but self appreciation and being told you're "sooo fucking sexy" definitely helps!

 

[spawnofdavey]

Oh I know he can wank to porn. He doesn't do it as often as I do and he prefers me to wank him. I think he doesn't understand that sometimes I just want to be an object to look at but not touch til he cums

I would love to do this with my wife but she thinks its strange.

 

[Blakely123]

And here I am, begging my wife to do either

Well the wanking we do but she doesn't "like" me to come on her but has allowed it.

Her preference is to keep things as clean as possible to minimise post climax cleaning up.

I long for the day we fall asleep in a pool of our own sexual juices

Your wife sounds like mine haha

I have to seduce her nearly every time to make love and most times she still doesn't want to. I understand she is tired because our kids are super wild but sometimes I tell her the ugly truth. Whenever she is tired and someone else needs something, ex. A friend needs to vent to her about problems, her family needs us to bring money etc etc, she doesn't hesitate, but when it comes to me wanting her touch she can't do it. It's not a guilt trip it's just the truth but it usually makes her realize that I'm right and her husband should be the one she wants to please.

I cum on her most times (against her will) but it usually ends up with a good laugh. Haha

One thing I want to share tho is that sex is 10% of a marriage. Saying that my wife is the perfect wife besides her sex drive and an awesome mom. Those are her 90%. I would never leave the 90% to be with a woman who only love sex but isn't a good wife or mother.

Try to seduce your spouse. Wake them up going down on them or just rubbing them. Men, if you can get them wet before they wake up and realize what you are doing they won't want you to stop. Women if they wake up with your cock in their hand or mouth they will cum on you if you wish haha

 

[MrEd63]

So, as I think is probably clear, I like to be cum on. Sensation is great and all that.

So 2 things have made me frustrated today, and I'm just like confirmation I'm not unreasonable.

1 it's a struggle for him to wank over me. Really????? He claims to only be able to wank to porn.

2 After getting horny blowing him I said it would be nice to gave a cock below me at the same time. So he suggested a cheap and nasty blow up chair with some kind of dildo. Not the same thing at all

I know he is vanilla but am I being unreasonable?

What a beautiful pair of tits you have - I'd love to wank and be wanked off and cover them in hot sticky spunk.

 

[englishbiggirl]

Men can have hang ups about masturbating; he may find it hard to do it with an audience. Especially if that audience is a significant other.

Why not suggest to him that you'll get a porn movie, something you know he'll get aroused watching. Then tell him you want to watch him play with himself as the two of you watch it?

You could lean on him, whisper in his ear and give him encouragement by playing with yourself. It may require you to play with his balls etc., and even an ultimatum that the only way he's going to cum is by his hand jerking his cock off and you getting to watch.

Get him over the hangup, if that's what he has, of masturbating in front of you. Then get him to shoot his spunk all over your body. Maybe some bukkake porn to set the mood?

Hmm. Bukkake porn. More my thing...though I'll give anything a try!

Cheers for the advice

 

[englishbiggirl]

I would love to do this with my wife but she thinks its strange.

Do you know why?

 

[spawnofdavey]

Do you know why?

No other than the fact she usually tries to wipe off my cum the second it touches her...

personally I like to see my cum splattered on her body or mine after sex... or a good wank.

 

[ADIDAS00]

So, as I think is probably clear, I like to be cum on. Sensation is great and all that.

So 2 things have made me frustrated today, and I'm just like confirmation I'm not unreasonable.

1 it's a struggle for him to wank over me. Really????? He claims to only be able to wank to porn.

2 After getting horny blowing him I said it would be nice to gave a cock below me at the same time. So he suggested a cheap and nasty blow up chair with some kind of dildo. Not the same thing at all

I know he is vanilla but am I being unreasonable?

It sounds like maybe this is going to fast for him. I'm sure he fantasizes about it but the reality of you wanting it and saying it might have freaked him out. Slow and steady wins the race....I'm sure he'll come around if you keep hinting about it

 

[BareBackRider2]

Your wife sounds like mine haha

I have to seduce her nearly every time to make love and most times she still doesn't want to. I understand she is tired because our kids are super wild but sometimes I tell her the ugly truth. Whenever she is tired and someone else needs something, ex. A friend needs to vent to her about problems, her family needs us to bring money etc etc, she doesn't hesitate, but when it comes to me wanting her touch she can't do it. It's not a guilt trip it's just the truth but it usually makes her realize that I'm right and her husband should be the one she wants to please.

I cum on her most times (against her will) but it usually ends up with a good laugh. Haha

One thing I want to share tho is that sex is 10% of a marriage. Saying that my wife is the perfect wife besides her sex drive and an awesome mom. Those are her 90%. I would never leave the 90% to be with a woman who only love sex but isn't a good wife or mother.

Try to seduce your spouse. Wake them up going down on them or just rubbing them. Men, if you can get them wet before they wake up and realize what you are doing they won't want you to stop. Women if they wake up with your cock in their hand or mouth they will cum on you if you wish haha

Excellent post. Thanks

And i have the same 90/10

 

[sexlover66]

God to have a wife like you....

Mine wouldnt take the cum on her anywhere...even if she helped get me off....and the sharing...not even close...it sucks...so i feel your pain

 

[englishbiggirl]

It sounds like maybe this is going to fast for him. I'm sure he fantasizes about it but the reality of you wanting it and saying it might have freaked him out. Slow and steady wins the race....I'm sure he'll come around if you keep hinting about it

This is years of build up. And I know he loves anbd respects me but he'll happily call me names that are arguably more outre.