From Hopeless to Hope Fulfilled: The Healing of Sexless Marriages

[Wild_Honey_66]

Hey pervs! Honey here.

I'd love for this to be a place of support, encouragement, and most importantly, growth and moving forward for both men and ladies who find themselves in 'sexless' or undersexed marriages.

Please share with us your stories, and let's get this party started!










***Simon, this one's for you, with love and gratitude.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

~RESOURCES~

I will keep this post updated with books, sites, threads, anything else that may be of help and encouragement.

Please feel free to offer suggestions!

 

[DiscoveringUtopia]

Hey pervs! Honey here.

I'd love for this to be a place of support, encouragement, and most importantly, growth and moving forward for both men and ladies who find themselves in 'sexless' or undersexed marriages.

Total sexless marriage for several years here at home. I know of some 'involvement' with others but no proof, just suspicions.

Recently, after encouragement from others on here, I initiated some oral action and everything went great. We'll see how it goes.

(Getting a message to short warning... lol. I've never had that problem!)

 

[Series 6]

~RESOURCES~

I will keep this post updated with books, sites, threads, anything else that may be of help and encouragement.

Please feel free to offer suggestions!

There are books about it?

I was in a sexless marriage, until I got divorced about six years ago. Now it’s just a sexless. existence. Ha ha

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Total sexless marriage for several years here at home. I know of some 'involvement' with others but no proof, just suspicions.

Recently, after encouragement from others on here, I initiated some oral action and everything went great. We'll see how it goes.

(Getting a message to short warning... lol. I've never had that problem!)

Forward movement! That's fantastic news!

Somehow i married two men in a row with no interest in performing oral on me. I've had it a few times since, but not from anyone who was really committed to showing me a good time.

It's one of the things on my bucket list!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

There are books about it?

I was in a sexless marriage, until I got divorced about six years ago. Now it’s just a sexless. existence. Ha ha

Haha! It's vital to keep a sense of humor about these things, isn't it?

I was in two 'sexless' marriages, thirty years total. I've finally moved into my own place and am getting the divorce in motion.

I feel like i want to be making up for lost time, but hookups aren't my thing, so... sexless!

 

[DiscoveringUtopia]

Forward movement! That's fantastic news!

Somehow i married two men in a row with no interest in performing oral on me. I've had it a few times since, but not from anyone who was really committed to showing me a good time.

It's one of the things on my bucket list!

Even before multi-medical problems, I loved going down on my ladies. Any man should be able to screw his way to her orgasm. Takes an artiste' to use the tongue!

 

[Series 6]

Haha! It's vital to keep a sense of humor about these things, isn't it?

I was in two 'sexless' marriages, thirty years total. I've finally moved into my own place and am getting the divorce in motion.

I feel like i want to be making up for lost time, but hookups aren't my thing, so... sexless!

Ugh. To have to deal with a sexless marriage twice, that’s just awful.

I totally get what you mean about wanting to make up for lost time. I feel like I have that same mindset, but I don’t want to be with just anyonef

 

[DiscoveringUtopia]

Haha! It's vital to keep a sense of humor about these things, isn't it?

I was in two 'sexless' marriages, thirty years total. I've finally moved into my own place and am getting the divorce in motion.

I feel like i want to be making up for lost time, but hookups aren't my thing, so... sexless!

Assuming that is you in the avatar, you married two total idiots.

Hookup? Not everyone out there is a creep. Find a good man and make up for lost time.

 

[L8tnIt]

Offering some help

Check this out. It might put a spin on things
... assuming I can add a link properly

https://youtu.be/LVgzOyHVcj4

 

[Series 6]

Forward movement! That's fantastic news!

Somehow i married two men in a row with no interest in performing oral on me. I've had it a few times since, but not from anyone who was really committed to showing me a good time.

It's one of the things on my bucket list!

Hmmmmm, Are you looking for volunteers to help you check that off?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Even before multi-medical problems, I loved going down on my ladies. Any man should be able to screw his way to her orgasm. Takes an artiste' to use the tongue!

Yeah i didn't get that either.

I never felt that my pleasure was a priority for them, but there was certainly more to our issues than just their disinterest.

FTR, this is rough stuff for me to be sharing about. Thirty years is a long time to live with rejection.

If i don't check in here for days, weeks, even months, it's just me needing time away to lick my wounds and heal a bit. Please do carry on in my absence.

 

[AlliaPotestas]

Interesting topic...

I’ve shared this before but for a long time I didn’t want sex... I had it... occasionally... mostly out of a desire to keep my relationship going rather than any genuine horniness on my part. But once upon a time I’d had a decent sex drive...

Anywhos - I was on the contraceptive pill and had been for over 15 years and I just felt like everything was flat... my emotions were constantly a little muted... I was on that one that you take everyday without a break, because my doctor felt more comfortable prescribing that than the combined pill because of a family history of breast cancer.

Anyway, the dull moods worried me and given the pills completely stopped my periods I figured it wouldn’t hurt to take a break and let my cycle to get back to normal...

I had no idea the pills had been suppressing my libido... my other half went from having occasional and openly reluctant sex (I have a shit poker face...) to frankly being unable to keep up... at one point he had to confess the sudden ramp up of interest was leaving him a little sore and he pleaded for a day off...

It wasn’t just with him either, I was ridiculously horny a lot of the time. Once, driving back from a meeting, I had to pull into a car park because the vibrations over every speed bump combined with the occasional shifting of the seat belt on my breasts was threatening to send me over the edge... which may not have been entirely safe...

It calmed down after a few months as my body regulated itself and he now occasionally whines about having to use condoms but he shuts up when I remind him what we might go back to if I go back on the pill.

I still go through periods where I don’t really fancy it, but that’s mostly down to me feeling unattractive and/or unappreciated - it’s surprising how much of an aphrodisiac the occasional compliment or cheap bunch of supermarket flowers is when you don’t feel good about yourself.

I don’t know if that helps anyone, but there you have it, if your missus is on the pill - it could be fucking with her labido, xx

 

[AlliaPotestas]

Yeah i didn't get that either.

I never felt that my pleasure was a priority for them, but there was certainly more to our issues than just their disinterest.

FTR, this is rough stuff for me to be sharing about. Thirty years is a long time to live with rejection.

If i don't check in here for days, weeks, even months, it's just me needing time away to lick my wounds and heal a bit. Please do carry on in my absence.

You’re free of them now, onwards and upwards Honey,

 

[Series 6]

Yeah i didn't get that either.

I never felt that my pleasure was a priority for them, but there was certainly more to our issues than just their disinterest.

FTR, this is rough stuff for me to be sharing about. Thirty years is a long time to live with rejection.

If i don't check in here for days, weeks, even months, it's just me needing time away to lick my wounds and heal a bit. Please do carry on in my absence.

Feel free to share. Sometimes that helps to heal.

 

[DiscoveringUtopia]

Yeah i didn't get that either.

I never felt that my pleasure was a priority for them, but there was certainly more to our issues than just their disinterest.

FTR, this is rough stuff for me to be sharing about. Thirty years is a long time to live with rejection.

If i don't check in here for days, weeks, even months, it's just me needing time away to lick my wounds and heal a bit. Please do carry on in my absence.

It's really a shame when either person doesn't consider the needs of their partner.

I know it's difficult to discuss and if you'd ever want to talk privately, feel free to PM.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Hmmmmm, Are you looking for volunteers to help you check that off?

Ha! I'm afraid my Lit flirting days are behind me. Maybe check the chat rooms?

 

[tallladiesman]

I am sitting here. On Saturday night. Log fire burning in the grate. All day spent doing laundry cooking cleaning the house to ease the load on my other half who works 10 hours less s week than I do. Currently I am watching match of the day as she snores passed out drinking the seat beside me. Nosex tonight and no sex most nights. Hence I am on Lit.
Sorry to bring people down but it seemed appropriate to the topic.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I'm out at the shops! I'll respond when i can!

Allia, most excellent point. Last year i had a negative experience with antidepressants, I'll go into it more later.

So good to see you here.

 

[liqueur]

Even before multi-medical problems, I loved going down on my ladies. Any man should be able to screw his way to her orgasm. Takes an artiste' to use the tongue!

it's the only way I fly

 

[DiscoveringUtopia]

it's the only way I fly

She orgasms to the point of soaking my face and beard. She says she's satisfied but gotta wonder what a nice hard one would do for her.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

She orgasms to the point of soaking my face and beard. She says she's satisfied but gotta wonder what a nice hard one would do for her.

https://i.imgur.com/899oRit.gif

Maybe getcha some toys and find out?




**Pic snagged from cookiecat's excellent FemDom pic thread, Let's Hear It For The Boys, found here:
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1404085

 

[pumperguy191]

My first marriage involved very little sex. Her belief was that if the day of the week ended in the letter "Y", forget it. Then, I met my current wife. Her philosophy was the opposite. Over the years, she developed a taste for other men, many times. We are trying to get over that.

 

[DiscoveringUtopia]

Maybe getcha some toys and find out?




**Pic snagged from cookiecat's excellent FemDom pic thread, Let's Hear It For The Boys, found here:
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1404085

That very thought crossed my mind the other day. Not this one but the conventional type.

 

[DiscoveringUtopia]

Interesting topic...

I’ve shared this before but for a long time I didn’t want sex... I had it... occasionally... mostly out of a desire to keep my relationship going rather than any genuine horniness on my part. But once upon a time I’d had a decent sex drive...

Anywhos - I was on the contraceptive pill and had been for over 15 years and I just felt like everything was flat... my emotions were constantly a little muted... I was on that one that you take everyday without a break, because my doctor felt more comfortable prescribing that than the combined pill because of a family history of breast cancer.

Anyway, the dull moods worried me and given the pills completely stopped my periods I figured it wouldn’t hurt to take a break and let my cycle to get back to normal...

I had no idea the pills had been suppressing my libido... my other half went from having occasional and openly reluctant sex (I have a shit poker face...) to frankly being unable to keep up... at one point he had to confess the sudden ramp up of interest was leaving him a little sore and he pleaded for a day off...

It wasn’t just with him either, I was ridiculously horny a lot of the time. Once, driving back from a meeting, I had to pull into a car park because the vibrations over every speed bump combined with the occasional shifting of the seat belt on my breasts was threatening to send me over the edge... which may not have been entirely safe...

It calmed down after a few months as my body regulated itself and he now occasionally whines about having to use condoms but he shuts up when I remind him what we might go back to if I go back on the pill.

I still go through periods where I don’t really fancy it, but that’s mostly down to me feeling unattractive and/or unappreciated - it’s surprising how much of an aphrodisiac the occasional compliment or cheap bunch of supermarket flowers is when you don’t feel good about yourself.

I don’t know if that helps anyone, but there you have it, if your missus is on the pill - it could be fucking with her labido, xx

We celebrated 36 years in January and she has always had live flowers of some kind on her nightstand.