friendship

[silverwhisper]

when i was younger, i always used to have more female friends w/ whom i was close than male friends. for a long time, that was simply the way my life worked.

once i left school and for about a decade, that changed back to the norm that most guys experience: most friends were guys.

but lately, that's flipped back and of course, that just becomes fodder for a new poll. :>

do you tend to get along better w/ friends who are of the same sex or opposite sex?

ed

 

[LadyJeanne]

I used to have a fairly even mix in college. Post college, the ladies started drifting away via marriage and kids. Now, most of my friends are male...which comes from having worked in a male dominated industry for the past 10 years. Also, more than half my male friends are gay...they don't get married and move to the suburbs and stop being friends with single people.

 

[Flyin_Free]

when i was younger, i always used to have more female friends w/ whom i was close than male friends. for a long time, that was simply the way my life worked.

once i left school and for about a decade, that changed back to the norm that most guys experience: most friends were guys.

but lately, that's flipped back and of course, that just becomes fodder for a new poll. :>

do you tend to get along better w/ friends who are of the same sex or opposite sex?

ed

In real life my best friend is female. So are most are most of my other friends actually. But I also have some close male friends that used to live here but have since moved away. All 3 of them were initially friends of both mine and my ex's but at this point I'd consider them my friends (not just "couple" friends). One is a gay man who I could sit and have coffee with for hours. The other two I only talk to on the phone occasionally but I still consider them pretty good friends.

 

[tbs230]

Men!

Most of my friends are male, but because I went to an all girl high school, I made a number of female friends...but in college, I have reverted back to having male friends. I just get along with guys better, my best friend is a man. When I want to do something, or go somewhere, I call up my guy friends before my girlfriends.

 

[EJFan]

i'm a guy and historically i've always had many more female friends than male. i guess i was like the "safe" guy friend thing. currently i think it's a pretty even mix but it's still usually easier for me to befriend a woman than a man.

 

[Eilan]

At the moment, my friends are predominantly female, namely a few people in my book group. There are a couple of men that I'm friendly with; one's a spouse of a book group member and the other is a guy who moves within that social circle as well. But I don't know that I'd call those men friends.

When I was married to my ex and we lived 250 miles from our families, my friends were my ex's (male) friends.

 

[silverwhisper]

i'm bumping this b/c the friendships that i am finding most rewarding to me right now are the ones w/ my female friends.

in a weird way, it almost feels like coming home.

ed

 

[Cockyfox]

I've always had more male friends than female friends. The male friendships develop faster, too. That being said, the female friends I have are very precious to me.

 

[bobsgirl]

Depends which friends you're talking about.

Here at Lit? Evenly split would be my guess.

But in-person, RL (even though I dislike that term), I have almost exclusively female friends.

 

[NaughtyLil1]

I have a few more male than female friends. For me, sometimes the guys are just easier for me to relate to. I run with an intensive bunch, and there are times when I want an easy flowing conversation and the girls are too uptight.

 

[lil_squirter]

Most of my friends tend to be male. I get along better with men then women in many cases. And getting along with men automatically makes some women nervous or edgy around you.

I found out some time ago that being a frank, open and honest person and being able to talk about anythgin with some degree of tact to men would not win me alot of female friends. Friend SO's might come to me with questions or for opinions knowing I would not lie to them. Vicious cylce, the men respected it and the women distrusted it.

I would like more female friends, but I cherish the few I have as being truly remarkable xamples oif my gender.

 

[Mazuri]

I have mostly male friends. They're much easier to talk to, play far fewer head games and, since my interests lie in predominately "male" hobbies, they're around more than women. It's not that I'm not open to female friendships, but I'm specifically looking for that either.