Friends

[pretty_green_eyes]

(I posted this on the GB, but I wanted the opinons of Playgrounders too...)

So, The Man and I were talking yesterday about relationships with friends. He commented on how his friendships have changed in the past 5 years or so - how it used to be and every Friday kind of thing that he would see the boys, but now it's very sporadic.

I told him how I have friends that I go months without speaking to - not by choice, but because of how our lives get busy and the time slips by. I also mentioned that my friends and I have just kind of accepted this as a way of life, but at the same time, when we do talk or see each other, it's as if no time has passed.

It seemed to bother him more than it bothered me. I mentioned that his friends' lives have changed in the past 5 years - most of them are now married and parents and homeowners - and that priorities change. I explained how with my friends we used to go out more - for dinner and shopping and to the bar, but now there are mortgages and bills and priorities change over time. My friends who are parents would rather spend their time with their families than hanging out at a bar.

Anyone ever have a similar conversation or understand where I'm coming from with the things I told him? I feel bad that he is so bothered by the situation.

 

[mrtnmoon]

didn't know you posted this here, too, or I'd have responded here... since the PG is kinder and gentler.

 

[pretty_green_eyes]

I was just interested to see what the different viewpoints would be...

 

[alspals69]

i have had similar conversations in reverse if it helps.

but we pick our lives.

And certainly where families/partnerships are concerend its hardly right to suddenly change your mind. When you make these commitments you need to stick with them were possible.

things are seldom this easy though.
good luck!

 

[virgin_not]

I think your friend shouldn't feel bad about it,everyone lives changed.Nothing is permanent in this world and he should be aware that once a person settled down,he got a new responsibilities and *FAMILY* comes first always.It doesn't mean friendship will end,it just some changes will happen and whether we like it or not we have to adapt with it.Friendship is not all about going out every weekeend and have some fun...if you are a true friend,you should understand and be happy with their lives as well.

Again,*FAMILY* will be comes first,no matter what..yourfamily will stick with you through thick and thin.Oooppss..don't get me wrong,with that statement,not saying that afriend won't help you when you are in need,that depends with what kind of friend you have..maybe yes,maybe no.Well what I have said here,just my own views.

 

[done_got_old]

I have friends that I hung out with in college. After college we were all busy starting jobs and looking for Mr. or Ms. Right. Once we had children, we saw each other a lot to do things with our kids. Then the kids got older; went away to school and again we didn't see each other often. Now that we are retired we're beginning to hang out together again.