Friends with Benefits?

[Carnevil9]

I'm curious about how "Friends with Benefits" relationships start. I can't imagine just walking up to someone and saying, "Hey, I'm kinda horny. How would you feel about some nice no-strings-attached sex?" But they apparently do happen, so there must be some way they get started.

Any experiences to share? Or lacking experiences, just theories? Thanks!

 

[peterthelicker]

Don’t have a clue but sure wish I had one!

 

[Vman55]

Just gotta get to know someone. Conversation over time has led to it for me. Girl I used to work with we always talked about stuff.......over 3-4 years in the office. She said if I ever get divorced I'm gonna use you for FWB. Well I left the company some time later and we kept in touch. She got divorced and she called me right away and we had a awesome night. She lived at her place and I lived at mine. It was good for about 2 years and she wanted to get married and I didnt. She moved on as friends and married. We are still good friends to this day.

 

[bicuriousintoronto123]

lets not forget same sex friends with benefits also

 

[JackOffer]

lets not forget same sex friends with benefits also

You're right! They are the best kind.

 

[ChrissyCD64]

lets not forget same sex friends with benefits also

Amen to that!

 

[mikendel]

I'm curious about how "Friends with Benefits" relationships start. I can't imagine just walking up to someone and saying, "Hey, I'm kinda horny. How would you feel about some nice no-strings-attached sex?" But they apparently do happen, so there must be some way they get started.

Any experiences to share? Or lacking experiences, just theories? Thanks!

That's about how to start it. With us it usually starts with a little friendly flirting. They I hit them with we should have some sex. They ask about Hubby and I say its fine with him if he can watch once in awhile.

 

[sub2femdom]

My last FWB started with me planning to have dinner with a lifestyle friend - not someone I've played with but someone I've know since I was in high school. We just happened to both be lifestylers when we reconnected after many years, shared stories, fantasies, etc.. but remained just friends.

She was telling me her best friend was trying to learn bdsm stuff, mostly wanted to learn to dom her boyfriend, and wanted to bring her along to pick my brain...

After a very interesting dinner (at least the conversation was). My friend went home and her friend asked me to go back to her place, where she tried domming me a little. We kept in touch, and she tried her hand at domming a couple more times with me, but she just wasn't very natural at it, and it wasn't working for either of us.

In our next session, I dommed her, in an attempt to show her how to properly speak to the sub, tease, denial, etc..

It turned out to be a really great session, and at that point we agreed to be FWB.. more or less, and she was then my sub. Since we weren't exclusive, it was like dating, but sexually dating, so in a way it saved me a lot of $$ too haha.

So FWB is just really dating without the frivolities of dining, movies, conversation... haha.

 

[JtheKidd]

Amen to that!

You are so right. Men or women with benefits!

 

[MilkFountain]

Also in Trio: couple plus friend

My experience has been, friends into lovers. My wife and I have a wonderful relationship with a guy who was a good friend to both of us for several months before drifting naturally into bed together. He and I focus only on her. After that first night, we continued because we could openly and comfortably communicate together and laugh easily. I love it when he drops by unexpectedly before dawn, and he either crawls in bed with us, turning to her, and I'm involved one way or another, or I go fix breakfast for the three of us, leaving them alone.

 

[peterthelicker]

We have a friend kind of like that. It started out as just being friends and then my fiancee said she wanted to fuck him, so she did.

Is she still fucking him?

 

[_Hockey_Man_]

I'm curious about how "Friends with Benefits" relationships start. I can't imagine just walking up to someone and saying, "Hey, I'm kinda horny. How would you feel about some nice no-strings-attached sex?" But they apparently do happen, so there must be some way they get started.

Any experiences to share? Or lacking experiences, just theories? Thanks!

The best one I ever had was an ex girlfriend. We met. We were instantly attracted to each other. So we started dating.

But there was no romantic spark. It was purely a sexual attraction for both of us.

We broke up because we weren't in love or anything close to it. But we liked hanging out. We had common interests. We enjoyed each other's company platonicly. But because we were broken up we just didn't hook up anymore. After like 2 months we were just talking one night about how good our sex was and we both decided that it was stupid to not be having great sex.

So we started.

It was awesome. It lasted 2 years. We were actual friends who hung out. And the fucked like crazy. I mean LIKE CRAZY. But there was absolutely no emotional component.

Good times. Very good times.

 

[gtnlynn]

When my wife was in college, we already planned to marry, but were miles apart at different schools. She was free to date others, and a few became friends with benefits. It started with a movie date, led to more heated contact with the possibility of sex. She made it clear that the relationship was only for fun and sexual release, no romantic involvement. I don't know how she did it, but she stuck to her conditions and had fun sex until the guys got serious. That ended the sex part, although friendships continued.

 

[liqueur]

I'm curious about how "Friends with Benefits" relationships start. I can't imagine just walking up to someone and saying, "Hey, I'm kinda horny. How would you feel about some nice no-strings-attached sex?" But they apparently do happen, so there must be some way they get started.

Any experiences to share? Or lacking experiences, just theories? Thanks!

The two relationships I've had that best fit that description:

1. First started when a friend introduced to me to another friend at a literary group we were both part of. The attraction was mutual, immediate, and intense, but we didn't act on it right away (she was married). When we eventually did, it was the best sex of my life. We got together at least once a week for almost 4 years.
2. The second was another guy. it started as a Craigslist hook-up, but quickly became much more than that. Best sex of my life . The friendship is ongoing, but the sex is on hold at the moment, for personal reasons.

 

[ChrissyCD64]

My wife and I have both had several male and female FWB's over the years and even shared some of them with each other. Why not?

 

[Gracewanks]

In my case they are all either previous one night stands where we reached out for a follow up then more....

Or exs

 

[ryfgirl19]

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[FGB]

I'm curious about how "Friends with Benefits" relationships start. I can't imagine just walking up to someone and saying, "Hey, I'm kinda horny. How would you feel about some nice no-strings-attached sex?" But they apparently do happen, so there must be some way they get started.

Any experiences to share? Or lacking experiences, just theories? Thanks!

it's not so much as to what you say as to how you say it.

Join a dating site and state what you want. when you get a reply ta about how you think you and her (I assume) should accomplish the whole FWB thing.

Texting and talking for awhile about who you are and what you expect to get out of the relationship will definitely break the ice.

If that part works out then you meet in a safe location to find out if you have chemistry together.

Make an effort to have her feel safe at all times.

Put that as rule one. If that meeting works out...make a date.

A motel room works if all is well.

 

[occasional_lovers]

I'm curious about how "Friends with Benefits" relationships start. I can't imagine just walking up to someone and saying, "Hey, I'm kinda horny. How would you feel about some nice no-strings-attached sex?"

In my case, it works best with men from my social or professional circle. Things happen "normally"; hanging out with friends or working together, then some expression of interest and flirting based on mutual attraction, and so on.

 

[needit700]

It's nice to have a female friend

but it eventually leads to fucking!!!! Which is a good thing!

 

[jakelc]

I’ve had different types of approaches with and before my wife. Before my wife my friends with benefits came out of hook ups that led to another one and then became a regular thing. No feelings just two people looking for sex without any attachments. A couple became very good friends even after we stopped hooking up. With my wife we found our friends with benefits when we started dogging and swinging. When we eventually stopped swinging regularly we kept in touch with a couple and they’ve stayed as our friends and fwbs. We did meet people in bars, socialising and online as well but because we were lucky with the people we’d already met we decided to keep them, we are all like minded and not looking for anything more than a good time sexually

 

[loveelderlady]

As a mature gentleman,i actually prefer older,mature and yes Elderly ladies.
I never go looking for them but as at that age group,there are more ladies than men,mostly widows or divorces its not to hard to find them
I simply make myself usefull,helping them,getting things off shelves in supermarkets,chatting to staff,and customers in charity shops,(full of older,often lonely ladie)
Car boots,exhibitions,at one time ball room dance classes.
In fact any where,single older ladies frequent.
So not football,or snooker halls,etc.
I chat, befriend, get to know, flirt,and get ask out,often to an art gallery,show,or whatever She may be interested in.
It's not often i go to bed with her,on the first date, but yes it's frequently happened, assuming we get on well.
Many mature ladies,are looking for company,even sex,but not necessarily marriage.
Beware,some do,and can be a nuisance.
I just make it clear,i do not want to get married again,
But would enjoy seeing them when we both want too.
That suits both parties.
Some ladies are just friends,for now,some just for sex,some regular lovers.
But keep separate,and never,mention one to the others.
With some older lovers,there can be physical difficulties,but the rewards,are worth it.As they can be such good lovers.
Also of course,at the age i prefer,no pregnancy,usually no worries about STD,s.
Happy to chat to a lady,any time.
Bob.

 

[chitrashi]

I'm curious about how "Friends with Benefits" relationships start. I can't imagine just walking up to someone and saying, "Hey, I'm kinda horny. How would you feel about some nice no-strings-attached sex?" But they apparently do happen, so there must be some way they get started.

Any experiences to share? Or lacking experiences, just theories? Thanks!

Was having a conversation with a friend about hookups that seem to have no future. I remarked that probably the ppl involved didn't want a future and we're happy with the way things were with them. A few weeks later we drifted into a FWB relationship ourselves.

Most often, however, casual dates, movie nights have led to one-night stands which then kind of naturally drifted into FWB relationships

 

[UnderMyKilt]

I've never been able to maintain the FWB type of relationships.

Alas....I fall in "love" too easily.

 

[EctoJohn]

I'd probably do badly with a FWB relationship.
I'd possibly try it, but I know I'm the one who's probably getting attached to her and jealous/upset when she sleeps with someone else.