My wife and I are wanting to try a foursome, but i'm not sure bout seeing another guy doing her. Although I get excited thinking bout it. I have thought bout her and the other girl doing each other then we all have sex in the same room and see if maybe later going though with it. Any suggestions?
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VoyageToBeyond
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getting into swining can be a challenge for some. My wife and I explored a few years ago hoping to spice up our sex life. We never did end up with another couple, just never found others we were attracted to enough or interested in. But the process of search and talking about it really helped us. Unfortunately, it hasn't carried on, maybe we need to revisit the idea. But the communication, sharing fantasies, imagining possibilities, chatting with other couples on line is very healthy.
as far as actually seeing your wife with another man, each of us is so different, each of our marriages are so different and distinct, ultimately you have to explore and define your own limits and desires.
There is an ethics among swingers, that most abide by. Finding an experienced couple who can help you through it all would be a key. Start by same room sex with your own spouses. When you feel the time is right, start by having him just kiss and fondle your wife while you and his tease each other. If it feels good, go to the next step; if it doesn't slow it down - they will understand.
Have fun! Maybe we'll join you one of these days!
as far as actually seeing your wife with another man, each of us is so different, each of our marriages are so different and distinct, ultimately you have to explore and define your own limits and desires.
There is an ethics among swingers, that most abide by. Finding an experienced couple who can help you through it all would be a key. Start by same room sex with your own spouses. When you feel the time is right, start by having him just kiss and fondle your wife while you and his tease each other. If it feels good, go to the next step; if it doesn't slow it down - they will understand.
Have fun! Maybe we'll join you one of these days!
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getting into swining can be a challenge for some. My wife and I explored a few years ago hoping to spice up our sex life. We never did end up with another couple, just never found others we were attracted to enough or interested in. But the process of search and talking about it really helped us. Unfortunately, it hasn't carried on, maybe we need to revisit the idea. But the communication, sharing fantasies, imagining possibilities, chatting with other couples on line is very healthy.
as far as actually seeing your wife with another man, each of us is so different, each of our marriages are so different and distinct, ultimately you have to explore and define your own limits and desires.
There is an ethics among swingers, that most abide by. Finding an experienced couple who can help you through it all would be a key. Start by same room sex with your own spouses. When you feel the time is right, start by having him just kiss and fondle your wife while you and his tease each other. If it feels good, go to the next step; if it doesn't slow it down - they will understand.
Have fun! Maybe we'll join you one of these days!
I agree with the above. You have to take it slow. It's good to also talk about your "boundaries" together, BEFORE you try swinging/foursome. Establish these and discuss what you are and are not comfortable with. Make rules and make sure that you each understand those rules. An example of a rule that I often come across is kissing. Some couples are fine with kissing, some are not. When you meet someone/couple that you would both like to play with, let them know of your rules so they don't accidentally cross any lines and make you upset or uncomfortable. You also want to make sure that you have trust in them and feel comfortable that if you were to stop everything in the middle of the passion that they would be understandable and not flip out. My hubby and I always make it clear to the couples that we are with... If they are not comfortable for ANY reason all they have to do is tell us and everything stops with no problems! That's important to know that you can do that.
As far as you being worried about seeing your girl with another man.... don't worry about it. That is one of the MOST exciting parts of playing with others!! My hubby and I LOVE to watch one another give others pleasure and to be pleasured by others! It's amazing! At first we thought that it would make us jealous or uncomfortable, but that wasn't the case at all
Somewhere to find your two play partners:
SwingLifeStyle - www.swinglifestyle.com
* You can get a FREE profile on this site. You are a bit limited but you can just have a free account and be just fine. My hubby and I have a profile on this site.
LifeStyle Lounge - www*****stylelounge.com
* You can get a FREE TRIAL profile on this site, but after 30 days you have to pay monthly. My hubby and I HAD a profile on this site, but don't want to pay monthly so we don't use it anymore since our trial is expired.
* You can get a FREE profile on this site. You are a bit limited but you can just have a free account and be just fine. My hubby and I have a profile on this site.
LifeStyle Lounge - www*****stylelounge.com
* You can get a FREE TRIAL profile on this site, but after 30 days you have to pay monthly. My hubby and I HAD a profile on this site, but don't want to pay monthly so we don't use it anymore since our trial is expired.
Good Luck Sweetie!
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It may help to view a DVD about swinging. Also, there does not have to be any male-male action in a four-some with couples. It generally can be male-female. Also, there was just a CBS show called Swingtown that showed what can happen in a positive note and negative note with swinging. The episodes should still be available to view online.
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We swing and it took a long time to get comfortable. We started as soft swingers. Everything except intercourse. He loved to watch me suck cock (and I love doing it.) one thing lead to another and we did swap in the same room. It took a bit getting used to seeing his cock in another women. And it took some getting used to for him seeing my legs in the air and he was not between them. But we are good with it now and its fun for us!
the other posters are right for the most part. Do not, and I mean DO NOT do this unless your marriage is strong AND you trust each other. If you are doing this to save your marriage (and there is no indication you are, just saying this for others that read this), you will NOT save it my swinging.
to your other comment about watching her with another girl, you self shithead.. (just kidding) we know a number of couples where that is all they do. its only girl on girl. The girls want to explore their "bisexual" side. (been there, done that, like cock too much!). so there are as many differences as there are rainbows!
Take it slow, talk, talk and talk about it some more. And talk about it at the breakfast table over coffee, sans the kids. Do not just talk about it in bed. Let the light shine on it and see if it grows.
Good luck and let us know.
Vicki
the other posters are right for the most part. Do not, and I mean DO NOT do this unless your marriage is strong AND you trust each other. If you are doing this to save your marriage (and there is no indication you are, just saying this for others that read this), you will NOT save it my swinging.
to your other comment about watching her with another girl, you self shithead.. (just kidding)
we know a number of couples where that is all they do. its only girl on girl. The girls want to explore their "bisexual" side. (been there, done that, like cock too much!). so there are as many differences as there are rainbows!Take it slow, talk, talk and talk about it some more. And talk about it at the breakfast table over coffee, sans the kids. Do not just talk about it in bed. Let the light shine on it and see if it grows.
Good luck and let us know.
Vicki
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Some of the best sex we have had was including another man or couple. I truly enjoy watching her take another man's cock in her pussy. It's hard to describe or understand the feeling produced but at least for us it has been wonderful. Not for everyone though.
Some of the best sex we have had was including another man or couple. I truly enjoy watching her take another man's cock in her pussy. It's hard to describe or understand the feeling produced but at least for us it has been wonderful. Not for everyone though.
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I 100% AGREE with Vicki on this one!!
So much so that our profile on the swing site specifies this very sentence/paragraph. If you don't have a strong relationship and unweathered trust in one another, swinging will only make things worse in your relationship.
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Trust and Communication
Having been involved in a relationship that included foursomes, I, too, would reiterate the importance of trust before exploring such a possibility.
I'd endorse that completely open communication on what might occur, what's acceptable and what's not, is also critical.
If you're not comfortable seeing another man's cock sliding in and out of your wife, then you best rule that out.
Just remember that once something happens you can't undo it. Similarly, it is often difficult or impossible to recover what you had before it occurred.
In one of our experiences, everything was going wonderfully. (Including my enjoying watching her get fucked by the other man.) However, when his girlfriend freaked out because they hadn't discussed it before and, apparently, as we learned later, she felt he wasn't fucking her enough that was that.
No real harm done to us but they didn't stay together much longer. Having a wonderful experience suddenly and abruptly end wasn't much fun but, clearly, their cost was much higher simply because they hadn't communicated and established rules in advance.
Having been involved in a relationship that included foursomes, I, too, would reiterate the importance of trust before exploring such a possibility.
I'd endorse that completely open communication on what might occur, what's acceptable and what's not, is also critical.
If you're not comfortable seeing another man's cock sliding in and out of your wife, then you best rule that out.
Just remember that once something happens you can't undo it. Similarly, it is often difficult or impossible to recover what you had before it occurred.
In one of our experiences, everything was going wonderfully. (Including my enjoying watching her get fucked by the other man.) However, when his girlfriend freaked out because they hadn't discussed it before and, apparently, as we learned later, she felt he wasn't fucking her enough that was that.
No real harm done to us but they didn't stay together much longer. Having a wonderful experience suddenly and abruptly end wasn't much fun but, clearly, their cost was much higher simply because they hadn't communicated and established rules in advance.
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