Found out the guy i've been seeing is married

[noise]

Last night the guy i lost my virginity to and the guy i have been seeing regularly told me he was married, when i first contacted him and chatted etc. he said he had been divorced for over 5 years and just wanted to explore his bi side if i knew he was married i wouldn't have met him and now i feel like his dirty little secret. it also makes me worried about whether he has lied about other stuff to me like sexual partners or his health (he said im the only guy he has sex with).
The main reason im so frustrated is because he has been so great for me, i have only met 2 other guys but they were only temporary or 1 time things, but this guy i have met for most most of my experience and now i feel annoyed that i have to find another guy (i made a personal in that section)

 

[LloydW]

That sucks, but here's my diagnosis:

He likes you, obviously, but is probably bisexual and still loves his wife. I'm sure it hasn't been easy for him to keep this from you all these years - and I mean that as regards his emotions, as well as balancing two separate lives.

Decide what you want to do. The ball is in your court. If you're comfortable with the arrangement, enjoy. But if you aren't move on now.

 

[Chicklet]

break it off with him.

he's a liar. he's lying to you, he's lying to his wife. he's endangering everyone in his life.

if he lied to you about the one thing, what's to stop him from lying about other important things? 'oh, btw, i have herpes. sorry.'

i've been there. i feel for you. it SUCKS. and it's really, really, really hard to walk away from someone when everything is perfect except for that one, small, HUGE, thing. it's so, so easy to justify something, and forgive him for his wrongdoing. but it won't end well. don't let yourself be used by the fuckhead.

you feel like the dirty little secret because you ARE. take some comfort in the fact that very many people stay with the person they lose their virginity to.

i'm so sorry. this really, really sucks.

good luck in your search for someone new. i'm looking too, and that also sucks!

 

[chromefreak]

good luck in your search for someone new. i'm looking too, and that also sucks!

I'm just across the boarder by a few hours and you wouldn't have to worry about me being a closet case!

Seriously, though. Walk away. Let him figure out if he'll keep lying to his wife or come clean to her on his own. Even if you're really horny when he calls. Playtime lasts several hours. Integrity lasts longer.

 

[Harrowborg]

Last night the guy i lost my virginity to and the guy i have been seeing regularly told me he was married, when i first contacted him and chatted etc. he said he had been divorced for over 5 years and just wanted to explore his bi side if i knew he was married i wouldn't have met him and now i feel like his dirty little secret. it also makes me worried about whether he has lied about other stuff to me like sexual partners or his health (he said im the only guy he has sex with).
The main reason im so frustrated is because he has been so great for me, i have only met 2 other guys but they were only temporary or 1 time things, but this guy i have met for most most of my experience and now i feel annoyed that i have to find another guy (i made a personal in that section)

Ouch, never an easy thing to deal with.