Found... Damn.

[Joe Wordsworth]

What do you do when real life finds you in a place like this? I feel a little naked, that's for sure. Exposed.

Hmmm.

Don't know what to do about it.

Don't want to leave.

 

[Boota]

I guess if you're already caught then, why worry? Besides, you're not doing anything wrong. Are you?

I don't have to worry about any of that stuff because I'm an open book.

 

[English Lady]

Why leave?

I know it's awkward and I can understand the naked thing for sure but surely you leaving now is like throwing the baby out with the bathwater?

It's known you were on literotica,well if you leave that'll still be known and you'll miss us and your laving will make no odds. You stay and accept the real life person cansee what your saying here, and I don't think you have anything to be ashamed of.

It's not as simple as that though is it? But if you don't want to go-don't*L*

 

[Weird Harold]

What do you do when real life finds you in a place like this? I feel a little naked, that's for sure. Exposed.

Why should it bother you?

There are very few people that I don't talk about Literotica and writing erotic storys with -- like my sister-the-prude -- but even those people wouldn't bother me very much if they found out I hang out here.

Hell, I gave my mother an autographed copy of the Literotica Book for her 79th birthday, so for all I know she's hanging around here too.

The only thing that keeps me from discussing Literotica with some people is that it would make THEM uncomfortable and I was raised to consider other people's feelings when possible. If they found me here, it's their problem if it makes them uncomfortable.

 

[sweetnpetite]

What do you do when real life finds you in a place like this? I feel a little naked, that's for sure. Exposed.

Hmmm.

Don't know what to do about it.

Don't want to leave.

Well, what was 'real life' doing here in the first place?

Whoever found you, should they try to make you feel ashamed, they are the ones who should feel ashamed. Ashamed for being childish jerks.

I do however understand the feelings that your having. It will be uncomfortable for a while. But once you get over that initial hump, things will be better.

There's really no reason to leave. On the other hand, if you just don't want to feel like someone you know is followiing you around and reading your diary, you can always create an alt. (PM the people you care to notify, let the rest sort it out for themselves)

The best advice I can give is- carry on.

 

[moonlight elf]

What do you do when real life finds you in a place like this? I feel a little naked, that's for sure. Exposed.

Hmmm.

Don't know what to do about it.

Don't want to leave.

I think its natural to feel a bit exposed but that does not mean that you should feel ashamed. You have done nothing wrong to warrent ridecule or shame.

Like everyone else said don't leave if you don't want to. If "real life" is a true friend or someone you respect and who respects you back they will understand and accept.

SnP's idea about an Alt has merit if you feel really uncomfortable.

hugs
moonlight

 

[English Lady]

I can see what people mean about an alt..but Joe, you style is just so obvious you'd just be recognised unde you new name

 

[sweetnpetite]

I can see what people mean about an alt..but Joe, you style is just so obvious you'd just be recognised unde you new name

he could become female

logic.girl

 

[An Awful Cad]

You might want to leave the face shots off your new "alt" if you're seeking to remain incognito.

 

[shereads]

I felt strange when Mom first noticed me here, but now our porn viewing is a family affair.

 

[Guest]

Quick, Joe, put a bag over your head.

 

[NoJo]

Don't worry, that's how I always go around on Fridays.

 

[Guest]

I know.

 

[impressive]

What do you do when real life finds you in a place like this? I feel a little naked, that's for sure. Exposed.

Hmmm.

Don't know what to do about it.

Don't want to leave.

No point leaving now. That's a lose-lose, and it'd just make you look ashamed. (Are you?) Hold your head high, Joe. Revel in it. Give 'em the "Hell, yes, I do it and I'm proud!" attitude. They'll secretly admire you -- I guarantee it.

The only people in my RL who know I'm here are those I've told (and ... those they've told ... although I believe they've kept my "secret"), but I was telling my bestest buddy the other day that I want my member page URL published in my obituary. (Give folks something to do besides grieving, ya know?)

 

[Alex De Kok]

Re: Re: Found... Damn.

Originally posted by impressive < ... big snip ... >I was telling my bestest buddy the other day that I want my member page URL published in my obituary. (Give folks something to do besides grieving, ya know?)

Brilliant!

Alex

 

[minsue]

I agree with the masses, Joe. You've already been found so what would you accomplish by leaving?

That naked, exposed feeling sucks, though, doesn't it?

 

[Guest]

That naked, exposed feeling sucks, though, doesn't it?

It does?



(Joe, I do sympathise. Just being me. )

 

[Joe Wordsworth]

The Sit-Rep (situation report):

Those in the know about me (I'm not particularly censored about it), know that I love My Girl to death. They also know we're having an affair, as she is quite hitched. This has gone on for about two years (with a previous few of build-up).

I have never really told her how disatisfying and horrible it can be, being the "other guy". But, I've talked about it quite a bit, here. Warning people not to get into affairs, how hard holiday seasons and anniversaries are, my desire to maybe just stop altogether and find someone not so fettered.

Well.

She found this place.

That whole can of worms is tipped over.

I think I'd have gone the rest of forever not having told her any of that.

 

[Lucifer_Carroll]

The Sit-Rep (situation report):

Those in the know about me (I'm not particularly censored about it), know that I love My Girl to death. They also know we're having an affair, as she is quite hitched. This has gone on for about two years (with a previous few of build-up).

I have never really told her how disatisfying and horrible it can be, being the "other guy". But, I've talked about it quite a bit, here. Warning people not to get into affairs, how hard holiday seasons and anniversaries are, my desire to maybe just stop altogether and find someone not so fettered.

Well.

She found this place.

That whole can of worms is tipped over.

I think I'd have gone the rest of forever not having told her any of that.

Shit, man.

Hey, Joe's quasi-girlfriend lady!

He's a bit of a wet blanket, but there's only one reason a man bares himself naked like that on any public forum. Only one reason he hurts at those moments, why he feels pulled apart.

That reason is he loves you.

So lay off him and give him another shot, a'ight?

- Luc

There. That should help.

 

[shereads]

There's another issue: the legal one. Your presence here as evidence against you or someone you're involved with in the event of a court case.

Not to toss cold water on the party here, but Americans, at least, are all on shaky legal ground when we participate here.

Imagine your employer, for example - or someone's husband's attorney - scrutinizing some printouts of your posts here, on a day when our discussions of Proust are overshadowed by discussions of whose genitalia is in our morning cereal.

Protect yourself, Joe.

Delete the things that embarrass you. Create your ALT. Keep your job. There's nothing wrong with a little healthy paranoia. It's awfully easy to forget that what we're doing here walks the edge of "community standards. And how thrilling it would be for an enemy to find such a rich vein of public humiliation waiting to be mined, if your identity and the extent of your involvement can be proven.

 

[CrimsonMaiden]

Sorry Joe that the one who found you was her. Still, don't you think she deserves to know how hard everything is for you? I know you don't want her to feel guilty, etc, but still.

I hope everything works out okay.

 

[shereads]

Am I the only Literotica participant who worries about the legal and professional repercussions?

There's no paranoia like isolated paranoia.

 

[logophile]

Am I the only Literotica participant who worries about the legal and professional repercussions?

There's no paranoia like isolated paranoia.

I don't want to threadjack because Joe is clearly working through some really important shit, but wanted to say that I have some paranoia about it. As a midwife we have lots of really groovy clients who love everyone and are acceptance. We also have lots of JesusCrispies, stockpiling ammo and canned goods in their basements for the second coming. If I were discovered, it would be bad for our practice. My sr midwife would be hot, and not in a good way. But still, she knows I post and submit stories. I'm just supposed to keep it away from the clients.

Joe, I'm sorry that Your Girl found your stuff here. That leads to a very unpleasant sort of naked feeling. I hope things turn out well. I'll be thinking of you.

 

[Joe Wordsworth]

She, I wouldn't worry about the legal reprocussions, honestly--nor the professional ones. My situation has absolutely nothing to fear from them, and more to fear from my being associated with a porn-site than anything else.

It's a good concern, though. Just not applicable to me.

 

[brightlyiburn]

The Sit-Rep (situation report):

Those in the know about me (I'm not particularly censored about it), know that I love My Girl to death. They also know we're having an affair, as she is quite hitched. This has gone on for about two years (with a previous few of build-up).

I have never really told her how disatisfying and horrible it can be, being the "other guy". But, I've talked about it quite a bit, here. Warning people not to get into affairs, how hard holiday seasons and anniversaries are, my desire to maybe just stop altogether and find someone not so fettered.

Well.

She found this place.

That whole can of worms is tipped over.

I think I'd have gone the rest of forever not having told her any of that.

Hun, I'm probably younger than you are (I appear to be younger than everyone) but I've been dragged through the mud enough times to tell you that you're better off.
You may have loved her, but could she have really loved you? She obviously wasn't about to give up her marriage to be with you. And you have every right in such a situation to feel like you want more. You were the one who was doing all the sacrificing in that relationship. Your feelings were the ones not being considered. And if she can't accept that those things hurt, well...you're worth more than that. I don't even know you, but anyone who's willing to deal with that doesn't derserve to be treated so inconsiderately.