foul!

[brokenbrainwave]

Why cant we straights get a special board?

PC run amuck, amuck I say....

 

[SweetCherry]

You're just jealous.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

damn skippy

I should sue under some violation of civil liberties act or something. I can see John Ashcroft having a field day with this one...

 

[SweetCherry]

Heh. Either that or just do the smart thing and be bi and you can post anywhere you want to.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

LOL

Most around these parts already think I am. I mean put on a dress and shave your back all the sudden....labels are so mean.

 

[SweetCherry]

Hmm, shaving your back eh? I always knew you were the "gorilla my dreams".

 

[brokenbrainwave]

well the back thing is a stretch, but sigh, where is the closet and can I use Mental Pause as my drag name?

 

[SweetCherry]

Come on over. I'll help you with your make up. I might even let you borrow my dresses and stocklings.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

and to think I just put on one of my wifes teddys. Timing is everything.

damn is my 4 yr old son looking at me funny...

 

[SweetCherry]

Heh. Just be glad you don't have a 5 year old who makes you explain what a clitoris is.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

see 8 yr old asking why it feels good when he puts his pillow between his legs while in bed as "Oh Crap" factor 11.

 

[SweetCherry]

A 5 year old who asks if other people touch their clitoris and if it feels goot for them is a little worse.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

ok that is worse I will agree.

Heh, thank for the idea. I can't wait till I get my youngest to ask his nana that.

 

[SweetCherry]

I have an inquisitive child. She asked me one day what the word "fag" mant. She'd seen it on TV and I had to sit her down and explain exactly what it meant. Sometimes being a mom is REALLy hard. Especially with that one. She keeps me on my toes.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

while I was making light of the question I do understand where you are coming from. On one hand you want them to ask question, it means they are learing. On the other hand, you'd rather not have little Johnny or Julie go around asking the local quickie mart clerk if they spit or swallow.

 

[SweetCherry]

Exactly. My mother thinks I'm insane for telling my kids what I do, but in the end, the lines of communication are vital and I'd rather have them get the RIGHT info from me on topics than the wrong info from their friends.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

I'll agree 100%. I feel much more at ease with me telling my sons about whatever than hollywood or worse, other kids raised in backwards homes.

 

[SweetCherry]

The hard time is putting it into simple terms to let a child understand it. Explaining homophobia to a 6 year old is hard. Explaining to her that "fag" is a bad word people use to talk about boys who like to kiss boys and girls who like to kiss girls was about the easiest and most understandable for her.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

A couple of years back there was a boy in my oldests class whom wore make-up, frilly clothes, press on nails and such. I sort of felt sorry for the child (he was only 6) knowing he would be the subject of ridicule. Explaining it to my son was much easier than I thought it would be though. Kids are rather understanding, it's we the adults that muck their viewpoints and turn them jaded.

 

[SweetCherry]

The bad thing about adults is...not all of us are as good at explaining things to kids. For every parent who's struggling to raise a tolerant child, there's another parent who's raising a child to have the wrong ideas about those who are a little bit different from the socially acceptable "norm".

 

[brokenbrainwave]

or across ethnic borders. I was about to strangle my mom for a small quip she made after learing an Saudi Arabian child was attending the school also.

Why what should be the easiest things to accept are usually the hardest says a lot about human nature in general.

 

[SweetCherry]

Unfortunaly, human nature isn't always to be considerate of the remarks we make. It's to speak first and think second. A child only has to hear something once to have it ingrained into their heads.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

To that I disagree slightly. I honestly feel a child must hear it repeatedly followed up by seeing said idiocy in action for it to become ingrained or a part of their metal code.

For example, if I said in front of my kids "damn queers, they all are going to burn in hell and they deserve to" only once, your saying they are going to think that also.

 

[SweetCherry]

I more meant that if they hear it once form their parent, they're going to remember it. And then when hearing it from society, it seems more acceptable to them because they heard a parent say it. I apologize for my lack of clarity on my point.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

it is still admirable that when your child asks you a question that you give them an honest answer. Very few parents seemingly can do this out of dismay or embarrasment.