Forced Feminization/Sissification

[SPARTAN047]

I enjoyed some ball busting videos like that.

 

[Oshkosh60]

From my earliest fantasies, nearly all the way back, I dreamed of serving women. In the earliest ones they forced me to wear and to become a girl. About the same time there was a Halloween costume completion and i was dressed as a girl by my older sisters. I fooled some people for certain, but I don't think any judges back then were going to give the blue ribbon to a cross dressing boy. And all through my life I have had that desire to be 'forced' to wear. I have worn in front of only a few women. And one of them wanted me to wear to get in touch with my feminine side.... so that wasn't 'forced' per se. I still wear panties and nighties when I can get away with it (in the closet, still) and I guess if the situation was right, i would still do it.

 

[liqueur]

First, is Feminization and Sissification the same thing?

I'm going to say the unpopular thing here: the whole sissy phenomenon as we know it now is largely an invention of porn. It's also frequently (some people would say always) misogynistic, in that it carries with the implication that to be “sissified” is to be “like a woman,” and therefore somehow “less than”. The person who is the sissified is supposed to feel humiliation. I'm all on-board with humiliation Kinks, but not ones that are at the expense of someone else. I guess I resent this particular one because there was a time in my life when I was called “Sissy”—cruelly, by my father and brother as well as by playmates— and when I started getting in touch with my sexuality, I used that term for myself and found joy in reclaiming it. And then, the porn version emerged, with its caricature of weak women, and I felt as if the term had been stolen from me.

Feminization is simply a man exploring, embracing, or reclaiming his feminine nature

And secondly, do they both typically fall under Femdom?

Either way, they are only Femdom if a woman is in control and directing the action, and pushing the man in a direction he wouldn't otherwise go. Or of course, two people roleplaying that scenario.

 

[Idpthrtonmykneesinpanties]

I wasn’t sure if I should start the discussion here or in the BDSM section so I hope this is ok here.

First, is Feminization and Sissification the same thing? And secondly, do they both typically fall under Femdom?
I believe these are mostly part of humiliation/emasculation kinks but there are many different ways these can be played out. It wasn’t until recently that I learned that a lot of women don’t like this as being dressed in women’s clothing should not be embarrassing or humiliating. I totally agree there, but at the same time, can’t help but have this kink.

I’ve never experienced it, but my fantasies are cliche:
Wife/girlfriend is tired of macho husband/boyfriend who needs to be punished-forced into bra and panties and made to wear them daily under his men’s clothes, gets teased verbally and physically (pat on the butt in public to remind him he wears the panties-you wear the pants and are in charge) and verbally by calling him a little panty boy or sissy) he may protest but obviously he likes the humiliation. If wife has kinky friends he may be required to show his panties and bra when asked-male and female friends allowed to tease. No wigs or make up (and I’ll get to this shortly). This sounds more like a porn story and these things really don’t happen (or do they?)

The next one would be serving as French maid for a group of dominant women or men (or both) - again wearing no wig or make up but dressed in a very short satin maids dress with petticoat and ruffled satin panties being objectified and teased. Spankings for getting something wrong, a pinch on my bottom when I bend over a little and the panties peek out, having to curtsy and be a good little maid. There could possibly be other maids serving as well but we’d all be dressed similar.

The last one is just getting caught trying on lingerie or panties which leads to a dress up session.

The fantasies don’t end in sex but just humiliation/embarrassment and emasculation. I also am not interested in passing for a woman which is why wigs and makeup do nothing for me. A little lipstick being applied might be erotic but it’s not necessary.

These are typically straight male fetishes - I may be bi but am mostly attracted to men so I’m not sure why femdom is of any interest. I have an underwear fetish which is mostly anything silk and satin - it just so happens that most underwear made out of that material happens to be panties so that might be part of it. I love the look of panties/lingerie on men - forget the fantasies and I still like the look. Most gay men seem to want nothing to do with anything lingerie and panty related and I can understand that.

So I guess my question is, has anyone ever experienced these fantasies and if so did it live up to your expectations-were you really “forced” or was it just role play? Did you wear panties but not really want to?

I was attracted to the panties and the way they felt holding my balls and cock nice and snug. Then I would rub my cock on the outside of the panties and my cock would grow and the panties would stretch with it. Then I got caught wearing panties by 2 guys in a bathroom at a party. They forced me to suck their cocks and I am talking bigger than average with big loads to match. Once it started it turned into a wonderful experience and those panties were part of my experience for sure. If I put on a pair of panties I immediately want cock in my mouth and a load to complete it.

 

[drobert44]

I was attracted to the panties and the way they felt holding my balls and cock nice and snug. Then I would rub my cock on the outside of the panties and my cock would grow and the panties would stretch with it. Then I got caught wearing panties by 2 guys in a bathroom at a party. They forced me to suck their cocks and I am talking bigger than average with big loads to match. Once it started it turned into a wonderful experience and those panties were part of my experience for sure. If I put on a pair of panties I immediately want cock in my mouth and a load to complete it.

Same, ID,same.

 

[cuckoldbill]

Great thread

 

[Leslie51]

I wasn’t sure if I should start the discussion here or in the BDSM section so I hope this is ok here.

First, is Feminization and Sissification the same thing? And secondly, do they both typically fall under Femdom?
I believe these are mostly part of humiliation/emasculation kinks but there are many different ways these can be played out. It wasn’t until recently that I learned that a lot of women don’t like this as being dressed in women’s clothing should not be embarrassing or humiliating. I totally agree there, but at the same time, can’t help but have this kink.

I’ve never experienced it, but my fantasies are cliche:
Wife/girlfriend is tired of macho husband/boyfriend who needs to be punished-forced into bra and panties and made to wear them daily under his men’s clothes, gets teased verbally and physically (pat on the butt in public to remind him he wears the panties-you wear the pants and are in charge) and verbally by calling him a little panty boy or sissy) he may protest but obviously he likes the humiliation. If wife has kinky friends he may be required to show his panties and bra when asked-male and female friends allowed to tease. No wigs or make up (and I’ll get to this shortly). This sounds more like a porn story and these things really don’t happen (or do they?)

The next one would be serving as French maid for a group of dominant women or men (or both) - again wearing no wig or make up but dressed in a very short satin maids dress with petticoat and ruffled satin panties being objectified and teased. Spankings for getting something wrong, a pinch on my bottom when I bend over a little and the panties peek out, having to curtsy and be a good little maid. There could possibly be other maids serving as well but we’d all be dressed similar.

The last one is just getting caught trying on lingerie or panties which leads to a dress up session.

The fantasies don’t end in sex but just humiliation/embarrassment and emasculation. I also am not interested in passing for a woman which is why wigs and makeup do nothing for me. A little lipstick being applied might be erotic but it’s not necessary.

These are typically straight male fetishes - I may be bi but am mostly attracted to men so I’m not sure why femdom is of any interest. I have an underwear fetish which is mostly anything silk and satin - it just so happens that most underwear made out of that material happens to be panties so that might be part of it. I love the look of panties/lingerie on men - forget the fantasies and I still like the look. Most gay men seem to want nothing to do with anything lingerie and panty related and I can understand that.

So I guess my question is, has anyone ever experienced these fantasies and if so did it live up to your expectations-were you really “forced” or was it just role play? Did you wear panties but not really want to?

I love being feminized. I dress up for my wife in bra and panties, garter belt and stockings, waist trainer, nightgown or whatever I’m told to wear. I love to dress as a woman. She says I’m not a man but a sissy. I wear panties all the time and even shop for them. The salesgirl even knows they’re for me. I love that they know.

 

[Leslie51]

I was attracted to the panties and the way they felt holding my balls and cock nice and snug. Then I would rub my cock on the outside of the panties and my cock would grow and the panties would stretch with it. Then I got caught wearing panties by 2 guys in a bathroom at a party. They forced me to suck their cocks and I am talking bigger than average with big loads to match. Once it started it turned into a wonderful experience and those panties were part of my experience for sure. If I put on a pair of panties I immediately want cock in my mouth and a load to complete it.

Sucking cock is about the best thing. Love a big cock in my mouth or ass pussy!

 

[xdresssissytoes]

I've always been very bi. I started sucking cock early, and it wasn't forced, and it was with age appropriate guys. They advanced to penitrating my fairly quickly. I had been married to my ex wife just a few months and she asked me to try on her panties. I loved it! Soon I was wearing her panties all the time. We then bought me my own, along with garters, stockings, and baby doll nighties. She taught me to shave my legs, cock and helped me shave my ass. I let slip the 1st cock I ever sucked was my own, and she wanted to see, so I did, and the lingerie, with her watching, was too much, I quickly filled my mouth with cum! And without thinking swallowed it. As we were talking she said as easily as I swallowed that load, she'd guess I'd sucked other guys cocks too. So I told her about my two friends. She started having me suck myself fairly often, and one night she she slide a couple of fingers into me as I was doing it. I accepted the fingers and let out a moan, and she really started fingering me! Soon she was using vibrators and dildos on me, always in lingerie. After a bit more we went into the city, to a book store. We got the tokens and went to the back booth and started a gay porn. It didn't take long before a cock came through the hole in the wall, and I just took it into my mouth and started sucking it. My wife was encouraging me, and telling me how hot she was. When he came I swallowed, and she asked if I still liked it? I dropped my pants and she could see how hard I was, and even leaking into my panties. She helped me get my pants off in the crowded booth, and another cock came through the wall. I sucked that one dry too, while she fingered herself. When was finished I had to step out of the booth to get my pants back on, and I was extremely turned on that is was seen in nothing but lace and satin! She had me strip down again in the car and I drove home in my lingerie. She had me turn on the light when we passed a truck so he could see me. At home she grabbed my clothes and went inside so I had to walk to the apartment in my lingerie! After that she started pegging me regularly, making me tell her how much I liked the adventure. We also made several trips back to the bookstore. One night she had me wear a miniskirt, sheer blouse, bra, my normal lingerie and heels, and we went back to the bookstore. We just left the door open and I stepped out of the skirt and knelt on the filthy floor. I'm not sure how many men I sucked, but I was a cum mess when we left!

We Soon moved onto her bringing guys home for me to service and then to do us both. Shortly after our anniversary she decided that if I was going to fuck her, I had to have a ass full of cum.

Now I know I'm a sissy, my current wife always pegs me, I never enter her. Our sex is whatever she wants at the moment.

Im also fairly well owned by neighbor. He texts I go over and he uses me as he desires.

I don't own mens underwear, but have a drawer of lace and satin lingerie.

Was it somehow forced? I guess in one way it may have been, I do have a micro penis, my clitty. I can understand the women needing a real cock. But I've never been forced or coerced to accept cock, I wanted to to please her, the guy, and I liked dick.

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Mmmm.....another sexy kinky sissy cum slut!

 

[xdresssissytoes]

Yes I am definitely my neighbors sissy cum slut. He uses me in many many ways, let's his friends use me, humiliates me, and controls me whenever I'm with him, but I go over every time he texts...... I let him do what he wants, and I do what he tells me to do. It's late now, but if you would like to chat later id be happy to.

We have much in common.....would love to chat.....pm me when you have time!

 

[liqueur]

I've always been very bi. I started sucking cock early, and it wasn't forced, and it was with age appropriate guys. They advanced to penitrating my fairly quickly. I had been married to my ex wife just a few months and she asked me to try on her panties
...
Soon she was using vibrators and dildos on me, always in lingerie. After a bit more we went into the city, to a book store. We got the tokens and went to the back booth and started a gay porn. It didn't take long before a cock came through the hole in the wall, and I just took it into my mouth and started sucking it. My wife was encouraging me, and telling me how hot she was
....
We Soon moved onto her bringing guys home for me to service and then to do us both.
...
my current wife always pegs me, I never enter her. Our sex is whatever she wants at the moment.
...
Im also fairly well owned by neighbor. He texts I go over and he uses me as he desires.

I want a neighbor like that! And your first wife sounds like a dream come true.

 

[irishblade]

I've always been very bi. I started sucking cock early, and it wasn't forced, and it was with age appropriate guys. They advanced to penitrating my fairly quickly. I had been married to my ex wife just a few months and she asked me to try on her panties. I loved it! Soon I was wearing her panties all the time. We then bought me my own, along with garters, stockings, and baby doll nighties. She taught me to shave my legs, cock and helped me shave my ass. I let slip the 1st cock I ever sucked was my own, and she wanted to see, so I did, and the lingerie, with her watching, was too much, I quickly filled my mouth with cum! And without thinking swallowed it. As we were talking she said as easily as I swallowed that load, she'd guess I'd sucked other guys cocks too. So I told her about my two friends. She started having me suck myself fairly often, and one night she she slide a couple of fingers into me as I was doing it. I accepted the fingers and let out a moan, and she really started fingering me! Soon she was using vibrators and dildos on me, always in lingerie. After a bit more we went into the city, to a book store. We got the tokens and went to the back booth and started a gay porn. It didn't take long before a cock came through the hole in the wall, and I just took it into my mouth and started sucking it. My wife was encouraging me, and telling me how hot she was. When he came I swallowed, and she asked if I still liked it? I dropped my pants and she could see how hard I was, and even leaking into my panties. She helped me get my pants off in the crowded booth, and another cock came through the wall. I sucked that one dry too, while she fingered herself. When was finished I had to step out of the booth to get my pants back on, and I was extremely turned on that is was seen in nothing but lace and satin! She had me strip down again in the car and I drove home in my lingerie. She had me turn on the light when we passed a truck so he could see me. At home she grabbed my clothes and went inside so I had to walk to the apartment in my lingerie! After that she started pegging me regularly, making me tell her how much I liked the adventure. We also made several trips back to the bookstore. One night she had me wear a miniskirt, sheer blouse, bra, my normal lingerie and heels, and we went back to the bookstore. We just left the door open and I stepped out of the skirt and knelt on the filthy floor. I'm not sure how many men I sucked, but I was a cum mess when we left!

We Soon moved onto her bringing guys home for me to service and then to do us both. Shortly after our anniversary she decided that if I was going to fuck her, I had to have a ass full of cum.

Now I know I'm a sissy, my current wife always pegs me, I never enter her. Our sex is whatever she wants at the moment.

Im also fairly well owned by neighbor. He texts I go over and he uses me as he desires.

I don't own mens underwear, but have a drawer of lace and satin lingerie.

Was it somehow forced? I guess in one way it may have been, I do have a micro penis, my clitty. I can understand the women needing a real cock. But I've never been forced or coerced to accept cock, I wanted to to please her, the guy, and I liked dick.

https://ibb.co/ksypKfSB
https://ibb.co/RpfGbxZY

I clearly met the wrong women in my lifetime.

 

[Underrick]

Here's my take on this topic. Feminization to me is a form of dominance. It's a way to further humiliate a man and strip him of his masculinity.
I don't think you can really turn a guy into a full blown sissy unless it's already a part of his character. It maybe hidden deep way down in his consciousness and putting him in panties may release those desires.
Yes, you can force and coerce a man into feminine attire and make him suck a cock, etc. But most men will return to wearing their tighty whities and boxers and maybe occasionally indulge their feminine desires.
A true sissy craves the silk, satin and lace. And the more pink, girly and frilly the better !

 

[JeanPanty]

Here's my take on this topic. Feminization to me is a form of dominance. It's a way to further humiliate a man and strip him of his masculinity.
I don't think you can really turn a guy into a full blown sissy unless it's already a part of his character. It maybe hidden deep way down in his consciousness and putting him in panties may release those desires.
Yes, you can force and coerce a man into feminine attire and make him suck a cock, etc. But most men will return to wearing their tighty whities and boxers and maybe occasionally indulge their feminine desires.
A true sissy craves the silk, satin and lace. And the more pink, girly and frilly the better !

Interesting perspective.....

 

[stargame]

Here's my take on this topic. Feminization to me is a form of dominance. It's a way to further humiliate a man and strip him of his masculinity.
I don't think you can really turn a guy into a full blown sissy unless it's already a part of his character. It maybe hidden deep way down in his consciousness and putting him in panties may release those desires.
Yes, you can force and coerce a man into feminine attire and make him suck a cock, etc. But most men will return to wearing their tighty whities and boxers and maybe occasionally indulge their feminine desires.
A true sissy craves the silk, satin and lace. And the more pink, girly and frilly the better !

Absolutely beautifully true.

 

[irishblade]

I've always been "available" and have met a great many women and men. I've only met three women that I was completely comfortable with sexually and married 2 of them. The other was already married, and I joined them from time to time.

Love it

 

[Underrick]

I wasn’t sure if I should start the discussion here or in the BDSM section so I hope this is ok here.

First, is Feminization and Sissification the same thing? And secondly, do they both typically fall under Femdom?
I believe these are mostly part of humiliation/emasculation kinks but there are many different ways these can be played out. It wasn’t until recently that I learned that a lot of women don’t like this as being dressed in women’s clothing should not be embarrassing or humiliating. I totally agree there, but at the same time, can’t help but have this kink.

I’ve never experienced it, but my fantasies are cliche:
Wife/girlfriend is tired of macho husband/boyfriend who needs to be punished-forced into bra and panties and made to wear them daily under his men’s clothes, gets teased verbally and physically (pat on the butt in public to remind him he wears the panties-you wear the pants and are in charge) and verbally by calling him a little panty boy or sissy) he may protest but obviously he likes the humiliation. If wife has kinky friends he may be required to show his panties and bra when asked-male and female friends allowed to tease. No wigs or make up (and I’ll get to this shortly). This sounds more like a porn story and these things really don’t happen (or do they?)

The next one would be serving as French maid for a group of dominant women or men (or both) - again wearing no wig or make up but dressed in a very short satin maids dress with petticoat and ruffled satin panties being objectified and teased. Spankings for getting something wrong, a pinch on my bottom when I bend over a little and the panties peek out, having to curtsy and be a good little maid. There could possibly be other maids serving as well but we’d all be dressed similar.

The last one is just getting caught trying on lingerie or panties which leads to a dress up session.

The fantasies don’t end in sex but just humiliation/embarrassment and emasculation. I also am not interested in passing for a woman which is why wigs and makeup do nothing for me. A little lipstick being applied might be erotic but it’s not necessary.

These are typically straight male fetishes - I may be bi but am mostly attracted to men so I’m not sure why femdom is of any interest. I have an underwear fetish which is mostly anything silk and satin - it just so happens that most underwear made out of that material happens to be panties so that might be part of it. I love the look of panties/lingerie on men - forget the fantasies and I still like the look. Most gay men seem to want nothing to do with anything lingerie and panty related and I can understand that.

So I guess my question is, has anyone ever experienced these fantasies and if so did it live up to your expectations-were you really “forced” or was it just role play? Did you wear panties but not really want to?

 

[Underrick]

I wasn’t sure if I should start the discussion here or in the BDSM section so I hope this is ok here.

First, is Feminization and Sissification the same thing? And secondly, do they both typically fall under Femdom?
I believe these are mostly part of humiliation/emasculation kinks but there are many different ways these can be played out. It wasn’t until recently that I learned that a lot of women don’t like this as being dressed in women’s clothing should not be embarrassing or humiliating. I totally agree there, but at the same time, can’t help but have this kink.

I’ve never experienced it, but my fantasies are cliche:
Wife/girlfriend is tired of macho husband/boyfriend who needs to be punished-forced into bra and panties and made to wear them daily under his men’s clothes, gets teased verbally and physically (pat on the butt in public to remind him he wears the panties-you wear the pants and are in charge) and verbally by calling him a little panty boy or sissy) he may protest but obviously he likes the humiliation. If wife has kinky friends he may be required to show his panties and bra when asked-male and female friends allowed to tease. No wigs or make up (and I’ll get to this shortly). This sounds more like a porn story and these things really don’t happen (or do they?)

The next one would be serving as French maid for a group of dominant women or men (or both) - again wearing no wig or make up but dressed in a very short satin maids dress with petticoat and ruffled satin panties being objectified and teased. Spankings for getting something wrong, a pinch on my bottom when I bend over a little and the panties peek out, having to curtsy and be a good little maid. There could possibly be other maids serving as well but we’d all be dressed similar.

The last one is just getting caught trying on lingerie or panties which leads to a dress up session.

The fantasies don’t end in sex but just humiliation/embarrassment and emasculation. I also am not interested in passing for a woman which is why wigs and makeup do nothing for me. A little lipstick being applied might be erotic but it’s not necessary.

These are typically straight male fetishes - I may be bi but am mostly attracted to men so I’m not sure why femdom is of any interest. I have an underwear fetish which is mostly anything silk and satin - it just so happens that most underwear made out of that material happens to be panties so that might be part of it. I love the look of panties/lingerie on men - forget the fantasies and I still like the look. Most gay men seem to want nothing to do with anything lingerie and panty related and I can understand that.

So I guess my question is, has anyone ever experienced these fantasies and if so did it live up to your expectations-were you really “forced” or was it just role play? Did you wear panties but not really want to?

Yes, I have fantasies similar to yours and I have had those experiences. Like you, I have an underwear fetish and I love my classic masculine white cotton briefs. But wearing and playing in silk.satin and lace feels really amazing.
I have worn lingerie to serve groups of women, men and mixed parties. Like you I also do not like wearing makeup or wigs or even dresses or skirts. For me, it is not about becoming or feeling feminine. It is the pure sensuous experience of silky and satiny and lacy things against my skin.
However I also enjoy the humiliating factor of being seen and ordered and being laughed at while wearing lady's underwear. Anyway, what you are experiencing is the excitement of humiliation and embarrassment through Feminization.
Sissyfaction is a whole 'nother ball game, baby. To me being a sissy is a whole lifestyle change. It is the rejection of any part of you that was masculine. Sissys will never say they have a dick or cock. However big that appendage is, it is their clitty. A sissy will never wear anything that could be remotely described as menswear. If a sissy happens to have a sexual relationship or experience with a woman they would think of it as a lesbian experience.
Yes, any man could possibly be forced or coerced into lady's clothing and be treated (or abused) like a woman. That is Feminization - some men love and enjoy it, other men hate the very idea of it.
Becoming a sissy, even if the first time you put on panties is done by force, won't happen unless that spark already exists somewhere within your character or make up. You need that feminine, girly gene in your DNA somewhere.

 

[Underrick]

Yes, I have fantasies similar to yours and I have had those experiences. Like you, I have an underwear fetish and I love my classic masculine white cotton briefs. But wearing and playing in silk.satin and lace feels really amazing.
I have worn lingerie to serve groups of women, men and mixed parties. Like you I also do not like wearing makeup or wigs or even dresses or skirts. For me, it is not about becoming or feeling feminine. It is the pure sensuous experience of silky and satiny and lacy things against my skin.
However I also enjoy the humiliating factor of being seen and ordered and being laughed at while wearing lady's underwear. Anyway, what you are experiencing is the excitement of humiliation and embarrassment through Feminization.
Sissyfaction is a whole 'nother ball game, baby. To me being a sissy is a whole lifestyle change. It is the rejection of any part of you that was masculine. Sissys will never say they have a dick or cock. However big that appendage is, it is their clitty. A sissy will never wear anything that could be remotely described as menswear. If a sissy happens to have a sexual relationship or experience with a woman they would think of it as a lesbian experience.
Yes, any man could possibly be forced or coerced into lady's clothing and be treated (or abused) like a woman. That is Feminization - some men love and enjoy it, other men hate the very idea of it.
Becoming a sissy, even if the first time you put on panties is done by force, won't happen unless that spark already exists somewhere within your character or make up. You need that feminine, girly gene in your DNA somewhere.

 

[liqueur]

we were very compatible sexually, but it takes more than sex to keep a marriage going and after 14 years the other issues became major problems.

I hear you.

 

[JCSTREET]

To this sissy "Feminization and Sissification" are two different things.
Feminization is Femdom, it is a man being forced to dress and act as a woman by a woman.
Sissification is a man (biologically) dressing as a female in order to serve as a sex object for a man, this maybe voluntary or forced by ether sex.
This is the quick definition as understood by this sissy.

Thanks for the definitions, Salina - I'm sure you're a lovely girl

 

[JCSTREET]

It’s a good question with a bit of a complicated answer. Some of the posts above are accurate, and some convey common misunderstandings. Most men who crossdress are heterosexual (over 90%). Don’t confuse fetishistic crossdressing (which it sounds like like you are describing) with either transwomen OR effeminate men.

The “forced” fantasy is fairly common, but many crossdressers just wish for an accepting female partner and have no desire for FemDom. A minority of crossdressers have the “sissy maid” fetish or fantasy (and I would include myself in that group). Many times, however, the term “sissy” in urban slang refers to a male who desires to service men while crossdressed.The term sissy is much misunderstood and often misused.

Although I am 100% hetero, and present very male in my day-to-day life, I certainly think of myself as a “sissy” in the sense of my love of feminine things, my acknowledgment of my sexual inferiority, and my devotion to women. In our home, my Wife is the Queen and I serve Her.

Although I am in a FLR, wear panties 365/24/7, and do my domestic chores in a frilly apron, I do not dress or act effeminate in my day-to-day life and I function “as a man” in many capacities for my wife. She has simply learned and accepted that I love feminine things. I used to have fantasies about being “forced” to wear panties, etc. before it became accepted as part of our daily life.

Feel free to PM me. Nancypan

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[JCSTREET]

I wasn’t sure if I should start the discussion here or in the BDSM section so I hope this is ok here.

First, is Feminization and Sissification the same thing? And secondly, do they both typically fall under Femdom?
I believe these are mostly part of humiliation/emasculation kinks but there are many different ways these can be played out. It wasn’t until recently that I learned that a lot of women don’t like this as being dressed in women’s clothing should not be embarrassing or humiliating. I totally agree there, but at the same time, can’t help but have this kink.

I’ve never experienced it, but my fantasies are cliche:
Wife/girlfriend is tired of macho husband/boyfriend who needs to be punished-forced into bra and panties and made to wear them daily under his men’s clothes, gets teased verbally and physically (pat on the butt in public to remind him he wears the panties-you wear the pants and are in charge) and verbally by calling him a little panty boy or sissy) he may protest but obviously he likes the humiliation. If wife has kinky friends he may be required to show his panties and bra when asked-male and female friends allowed to tease. No wigs or make up (and I’ll get to this shortly). This sounds more like a porn story and these things really don’t happen (or do they?)

The next one would be serving as French maid for a group of dominant women or men (or both) - again wearing no wig or make up but dressed in a very short satin maids dress with petticoat and ruffled satin panties being objectified and teased. Spankings for getting something wrong, a pinch on my bottom when I bend over a little and the panties peek out, having to curtsy and be a good little maid. There could possibly be other maids serving as well but we’d all be dressed similar.

The last one is just getting caught trying on lingerie or panties which leads to a dress up session.

The fantasies don’t end in sex but just humiliation/embarrassment and emasculation. I also am not interested in passing for a woman which is why wigs and makeup do nothing for me. A little lipstick being applied might be erotic but it’s not necessary.

These are typically straight male fetishes - I may be bi but am mostly attracted to men so I’m not sure why femdom is of any interest. I have an underwear fetish which is mostly anything silk and satin - it just so happens that most underwear made out of that material happens to be panties so that might be part of it. I love the look of panties/lingerie on men - forget the fantasies and I still like the look. Most gay men seem to want nothing to do with anything lingerie and panty related and I can understand that.

So I guess my question is, has anyone ever experienced these fantasies and if so did it live up to your expectations-were you really “forced” or was it just role play? Did you wear panties but not really want to?

I thought only 67% of crossdressers were straight>

 

[liqueur]

I thought only 67% of crossdressers were straight>

Not to say yay or nay to this— it seems like a reasonable number. But I'm curious if you have documentation for it?

 

[NancyPan]

There is not a good deal of hard research on this. However, there was a1992 NIH survey that noted 87% of m2f crossdressers identified as heterosexual. Anecdotally, if you look at forums like crossdressersdotcom, the overwhelming majority of users are straight, some bi.

It is a widely held misconception that crossdressers are gay. Most clearly are not. Many, like me, are fascinated with all things feminine, defer to and submit to women, and often dress and act in public in a somewhat hyper-masculine manner. For example, myself, while always underdressed in pink and often lace trimmed panties, I tend towards denim shirts or hoodies in cool weather or t-shirts and fishing shirts and cargo shorts in the summer..

All of my friends would be shocked if they knew I wore panties and had a wardrobe of women’s clothes (let alone that my wife was in charge at home).

Even many m2f transsexuals are attracted to women. But do not confuse crossdressing with a choice to transition — they are on opposite ends of the transgender continuum.