For those with grown children

[MissTaken]

Are your children aware of your involvement in BDSM?

Are your children, themselves, involved in BDSM?

If so, do you feel your actions brought them into the lifestyle or that they stumbled upon the lifestyle? Is it right for them?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Both my children are aware of my lifestyle choice. I have always been fairly open about sexuality and answered any questions honestly, so it seemed as they were both teenagers at the time I decided to seriously search for a Master, it was the right thing to also openly discuss my choice in conversations more than sitting them down in a confessional type discussion. It was no surprise to them, nor do they have problems with it...guess they are used to a mother who does not always follow the rule book, and have always openly appreciated that openness and honesty we shared. My son lives with us, and though he is aware, we do try and maintina level of discretion as we both believe this is better than shoving it in his face which is not our way.

My daughter dabbles in BDSM and during our last conversation about where she was with it, what safety she was employing in her escapades etc., she said she was still just experimenting and seeing if and where she might fit. I don't think I influenced her choices as I led a very vanilla existence when they were younger, and yet the discovery of her graphically described written fantasies at 9yo revealed more than a healthy interest and desire in the area which would outdo some of the subs on Lit. I guess I should not be surrised as I also remember fantasies along the BDSM lines at a very early age, actually before I actually understood what sex was all about. As to my son, I have my suspicions, but he is a more reserved creature so only time will tell, or may not!!

I am confident they will both decide where they belong and what is right for them over time and experience. For my daughter, I am happy we are able to talk openly about sexuality issues and she is not reluctant to call with any questions no matter how intimate. It is what I always hoped for our relationship.

Catalina

 

[Shadowsdream]

I have two grown children. Both are fully aware of My BDSM lifestyle and the conversation between us flows daily touching on slaves, Dom/mes and submissives.
Both of My children adore My slave and interract with both of U/us as a Mistress/slave couple.
My lifestyle is an open book to all those that have been important in My life in the vanilla world, including ex inlaws and My entire family.
I have received some very interesting new toys from My children at Christmas time, one such toy being a suspension swing!
Their kinks come from inside of themselves and may be occassionally influenced by My own.

 

[MissTaken]

Thank you, catalina and shadowsdream for posting.

It seems, as I would have expected, that you both have a solid grasp on balancing family, adult children and BDSM.

I would hope that my children learn to feel free to be themselves, but not be guided by my example. Well, perhaps, only guided by example in that they should and hopefully will feel comfortable enough to talk to me about all those personal things that can so easily confuse and frustrate young people.

 

[DianneD]

BDSM

My youngest son(20) and I both have been experimenting in BDSM but only with each other. We are pretty much new rookies at it though. I am pretty sure my other 3 adult children are not into that though.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Re: BDSM

My youngest son(20) and I both have been experimenting in BDSM but only with each other. We are pretty much new rookies at it though. I am pretty sure my other 3 adult children are not into that though.

HUH?

 

[Krinaia]

Re: Re: BDSM

HUH?

Ditto... Huh?

Dianne, do you mean to say your son and yourself have been interacting in a bdsm relationship?

 

[A Desert Rose]

Divorced, bi-sexual white female. I live with my youngest son(he is 20) who I have a sexual relationship with. I am 5'5" tall and 125 lbs with brown hair and blue eyes. We are both very erotic. I have an incestuous relationship with my son but we see other people as well.

From her profile.

 

[Krinaia]

I've never understood the incestous kink. It gives me the creeps. I once had a crush on a cousin but we're not blood related ... only through marriage so I never really thought it was incestuous, plus I was 9. It was more hero worship than anything. Can someone explain to me the appeal of incest?

 

[A Desert Rose]

I've never understood the incestous kink. It gives me the creeps. .... Can someone explain to me the appeal of incest?

There is no explanation for it. It's sick and if anyone (not aimed at you skyline) wants to disagree with me... please do. Show yourself in disagreement with me.... please.

It is not a kink.

This is the kind of thing (like dog fucking) that I was talking about in my Lit lessons thread: I will state, on rare occassions, when I feel strongly about something. I will not say the politically correct thing nor will I do the inclusive thing, if I feel that something is wrong or abhorant to me. Call me judgemental if you want to.

 

[Krinaia]

I'm glad you said so Desert Rose. I didn't want to trod on any toes. I find incestuous relationships sick too. My best friend's older sister slept with my younger brother ... and she felt bad about it and then tried to make jokes about it with me and it just made my insides curl to have to think of my brother in that way. I want him to be healthy and happy and find a lover that will cherish him but I never want to have to hear a single detail. Ew.

And I agree on the beastiality. That has also grossed me out. Hard limits those. Woe as be to the man who tries to test those limits.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I've never understood the incestous kink. It gives me the creeps. I once had a crush on a cousin but we're not blood related ... only through marriage so I never really thought it was incestuous, plus I was 9. It was more hero worship than anything. Can someone explain to me the appeal of incest?

The appeal is that it hijacks every damned thread it is mentioned in. Ignore it, and it will go away.

 

[Krinaia]

The appeal is that it hijacks every damned thread it is mentioned in. Ignore it, and it will go away.

<blushes>

Right on!

Do go on someone ... back to the original intent:

Are your children aware of your involvement in BDSM?

Are your children, themselves, involved in BDSM?

If so, do you feel your actions brought them into the lifestyle or that they stumbled upon the lifestyle? Is it right for them?

Do forgive us for uhm commandering your thread MissTaken.

 

[A Desert Rose]

The appeal is that it hijacks every damned thread it is mentioned in. Ignore it, and it will go away.

Oh fuck off.....

well, I was kidding but this is the only fun I have had since the playground hijinx earlier today and now you're pissing on my parade.


LOL

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Oh fuck off.....

well, I was kidding but this is the only fun I have had since the playground hijinx earlier today and now you're pissing on my parade.


LOL

Well, fuck you, bitch!


Go back to your troll-baiting...

 

[Krinaia]

Oh fuck off.....

well, I was kidding but this is the only fun I have had since the playground hijinx earlier today and now you're pissing on my parade.


LOL

I just had a funny mental image of someone on a balacny, peeing in a sousaphone...

 

[A Desert Rose]

I just had a funny mental image of someone on a balacny, peeing in a sousaphone...

LOL and that would be Johnny. He is nothing if not a perfect aim.


LMAO.

 

[Krinaia]

Well, fuck you, bitch!


Go back to your troll-baiting...

if there is fucking going on, i'd like to be included. hate to be the last person picked - that was me in elementary school gym class so i was clumsy and chubby, want to make something of it?

 

[Krinaia]

I hate men with bad aim. There is nothing worse then going to the bathroom and sitting on a wet seat ... unless of course you find our ass halfway into the bowl because some jerk (ie, younger brother) left the seat up and you didn't look in your grouchy i just crawled out of bed to pee state.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I hate men with bad aim. There is nothing worse then going to the bathroom and sitting on a wet seat ... unless of course you find our ass halfway into the bowl because some jerk (ie, younger brother) left the seat up and you didn't look in your grouchy i just crawled out of bed to pee state.

LMAO.... what a beeeeeeeeeeutiful hijack we have done here.

I love it!

 

[Krinaia]

If you're going to be naughty, you might as well go all the way and do it properly. I mean once a punishment has been earned, you might as well truly earn it?!

 

[A Desert Rose]

If you're going to be naughty, you might as well go all the way and do it properly. I mean once a punishment has been earned, you might as well truly earn it?!

I agree with you 100%!

LOL

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Women are evil.

 

[Krinaia]

Gasp!!! He found us out. Now we have to kill him.


Mwahahahaha.....

 

[Krinaia]

Or perhaps just tickle him til he screams mercy. You hold him down Desert Rose and I'll get the feathers