For the ladies: Would you, could you, have you - love two???

[Sparky Kronkite]

Yes it's certainly not popular, it's looked down upon - it's even illegal. But if people were inclined to "think differently" about it.

Ladies? Would you, could you, have you - loved two men (or more?) at the same time.

And - we're not talkin' "just sex" here - we're not talkin' casual, one or two time shit. We're talkin' LOVE. We're talkin' ROMANCE. We're talkin' about a "live in," full time - married-like relationship - with two or more men.

Could you? Would you? Have you? Did you?

You know - only if it were legal and accepted among most of our global peers.

[Hey guys - how about you? Could you be on the receiving end? Sharing a wife/live-in, full-time lover?????

I think I could. It would of course depend on the woman and the other dude. You know, if the shoe really, really fits well - hell then - tap dance with it.

 

[Hecate]

Yes

I would if I could, albeit with a multitude of "ifs" attached...

 

[Juliangel]

I am just going to say YES. The reason I know this is too long and drawn out to explain with the way I feel today.

 

[Cheyenne]

Could I love more than one man at a time? Yes.

Could I love them together, living with both of them? Nope, I don't think I could. I never learned to share well. I'm selfish.

 

[Merelan]

I do.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Ladies, ladies, ladies........

Sure, you could be haveing a bad morning this morning - below 5 on the Spark-O-meter.

So keep this thread in the back of your mind, come back later and provide for us.............

details, reasons, insights.

Sorry, simple yes's and no's just don't cut it.

 

[TN_Vixen]

No

I have a hard time even dating two men at once much less loving two. I prefer to shower all my attention on one man... plus I think I have this whole stigma attached to juggle dating or sleeping with two men, etc. I think it is self-degrading to do that. I couldn't look at myself in the mirror if I stooped to that level. *shrug* Just my opinion.

 

[Merelan]

Okay. Details? A few, and just the one's that I have already shared on my old profile.
I have two husbands. Yes. 2. I love them both and they love each other. No, we don't have wild sex parties. Never the three of us. Deep sigh. No, officially we cannot live together. Yes, I am legally married to one, but our hearts are all joined together. Nope, not always easy, the world is not always kind. We do not act married in the public eye, well, not mostly. Yes, our closest friends know about it. Would we have another woman? Don't know. This wasn't planned. It just happened. If you care to flame go ahead. I have their love and support, and don't need yours to "validate" myself and my life. We are happy, healthy and hurt no one with our love. Can that be wrong? No. We are meant to be happy and healthy. It is the way we are made.
Any questions? ask. I might answer, I might not. Chances are I will.
Does this sound like the usual Merelan post? No, but you hit home.
Okay, back to flirting.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Thank You Merelan......

I am with you all the way. Most "current moral righteousness" I find antiquated. If you hurt no one - virtually everything is all right in my mind. Perhaps of the majority felt that way too - you and your life-mates would not find things as difficult as you do.

Thanks again.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Sure could, and gladly. So long as they both don't leave their shoes scattered all over hell's kitchen. I just don't see the StudMuffin going for it.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Hey KM??????

But would you peel'em like plums and then suck their insides out? Or simply eat them from top to bottom?

 

[KillerMuffin]

Both and then some! Variety makes sex better, don't you agree Sparks?

 

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[ShyGuy68]

I have to admit that I don't know if I could or couldn't. It would be something that I would have to try before I could answer it.

But if I really love the woman, I would probably be able to do it.

I have two husbands. Yes. 2. I love them both and they love each other.

And those two guys are very lucky that they have you Merelan!!

 

[Merelan]

Thank you darling man, you are special.
Sparky, thank you for giving me the chance to explain this all in one thread.
Yes, society has a tendancy of frowning on the unusual, but who cares?

 

[Samuari]

Oh my! In nearly 26 years, it is a question that has not come up, at least in this way. We both have had relationships, some of them lasting a year or more, but they were simply recreational, with very little emotional attachment. If Madam S had ever wanted to take one of her lovers into our family, the questions would have concerned how we deal with the world at large, and the responsabilities concerning children, their care and well being.

In fact, some aspects would be more stable. More adults mean more paychecks coming into the houshold. An additional set of eyes looking out for the youngins. An extra set of arms for hugs, sometimes would be nice, too. All in all, if you can fix it for the world at large, seems to me to have lots of advantages. Good luck Merelan.

Oh, I did have a question:
How did you manage to get this started? I can see how your'offical' husband would accept it at first becuse he loves you. But it seems to me that would be after you had accepted it yourself.

In any case the best of luck to the three of you.

 

[Merelan]

It started as a friendship, and went from there. Not planned, and not always easy. But, they love me, and love each other. We are the best of friends. To most people that is all, very close and unusual, but just friends. To clarify, there are no children from this marriage. One of them has a child, a sweet daughter, from a previous one. It is because of that we do not legally live together, and are careful when she is around. It isn't something most people could live with, but I was raised in a communal home, so not to far off for me.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

So Merelan??????

How does one ask this politely?

Do the guys..... love each other like brother's?

Or............

Do they LUUUUUV....... each other? You know?

And if so...... how's that work?

Might you watch? And vice versa too?

 

[Merelan]

Wondered who would ask. They love each other as the best of friends. No sex, not even when I am present. Not a true threeway.

 

[Samuari]

Thankyou, Merelyn

And your guys for your honesty and example. Someday, I would hope that we will come to a place where you can be as open about your relationship as most of us are about ours. The spirit of the pioneers lives on in you.

 

[Darowyn]

Well done Merelan. May it always be as good as it is at its best.
I could not make it work though, and now I never see any of the other people who were involved.
I could not be happier with my Wendy, but I miss those old lovers something wicked.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

Okay. Details? A few, and just the one's that I have already shared on my old profile.
I have two husbands. Yes. 2. I love them both and they love each other. No, we don't have wild sex parties. Never the three of us. Deep sigh. No, officially we cannot live together. Yes, I am legally married to one, but our hearts are all joined together. Nope, not always easy, the world is not always kind. We do not act married in the public eye, well, not mostly. Yes, our closest friends know about it. Would we have another woman? Don't know. This wasn't planned. It just happened. If you care to flame go ahead. I have their love and support, and don't need yours to "validate" myself and my life. We are happy, healthy and hurt no one with our love. Can that be wrong? No. We are meant to be happy and healthy. It is the way we are made.
Any questions? ask. I might answer, I might not. Chances are I will.
Does this sound like the usual Merelan post? No, but you hit home.
Okay, back to flirting.

Merelan, I love you... which you know. And I know they are lucky bastards... but you not flirting for a whole post scares me.

I always knew you were good