For guys: First time meet expectations?

[Guest]

So I'm just curious, but earlier I was thinking about my best friend and all of the porn he watches. He's never had sex, so I can't help but wonder if he thinks that his first time is going to be ..."pornographic".


So this is my question for all of the guys out there: When you had sex for the first time, were there things that shocked you about the way a woman's body really moved or looked or reacted? I mean, obviously the chicks in most of the porn we watch are artificially perfected to look better. Not to mention they've had plenty of practice to make that "fucking her while she's standing on her head" move look oh-so-natural.

Let's hear it, fellas. And hey! Why not hear from the ladies too?

Sati

 

[H0wl]

Hmm.

The "standing on the head" thing never looks natural to me.

As far as first times go...

I think the only thing that really shocked me was how wet my partner got and the actual feel of the moisture.

And maybe the amount of pressure/force she liked when I was playing with her breasts.

Any reasonable guy doesn't expect his partner to look/behave like a porn star. If you've got a good relationship (hopefully you do at the point that you're going to have sex) then you're not worried about comparing this part or that part. Sure things are different, but thats not bad, its just different. Sometimes excitingly so.

Your first time...well I dunno about most guys but I was plenty excited to be where I was. Anything more advanced might have blown my tiny mind

 

[sobesundevil]

my first time was a blowjob, and i was actually expecting it to feel better. she wasn't bad at it, i just expected a different feeling out of it. but for sure i didn't have a problem cumming; in fact, she had a mouthful within about a minute or two!

then for some reason i felt the need to tell her that she'd just popped my cherry. given the difference in ages - she was 9 years older than i - it shocked her a little...

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

My first time was with a virgin - the only thing that surprised me was how tough it was to bust her cherry. But got "through it" alright.

 

[kjken]

The first time will probably not be what he expected. It wasnt for me. While it was fun, it was a bit of a let down as well. I just had to practice and practice until it was just like porn .

 

[Sh0t]

The first time for me was pretty good but I was very dissociated during the whole thing for the most part. I was enjoying the sensation but my mind was somewhere else; I felt as if I was above my body looking down on the act and thinking it was all a dream.

As for comparing it to porn, I didn't have much porn at the time but it felt pretty pornographic to me. It was my first assisted organism and I have to say it was pretty mind blowing on my fragile 15 year old self.

 

[H0wl]

First time will probably be a shock but not a disappointment.

 

[TirelessTongue]

My first time was very Vanilla ! Vanilla = Missionary position

 

[zhukov1943]

The first time was much, MUCH better than expected!

A zillion times better than porn, IMO...

 

[ReadyOne]

It's hard to describe what exactly was happening first time a girl and I had PIV sex. I didn't know what to expect, and the situation was a bit weird.

We were at a gathering with all ages, not a party or an occasion where boys and girls were mixing and getting aroused. There was this girl who lived a few hours away and crossed my path several times a year. We weren't close, just good acquaintances.

Right after lunch she found me and said that she wanted to have me fuck her, then took me into a bedroom. Her attitude was that she wanted to do me a favor, not true lust or really hot to trot.

Inside, she dropped her jeans and lay down with her ass at the edge of the bed, legs dangling on the floor, and smiled at me while I undid mine. Never having seen a pussy close up, I knelt down to check out exactly where to put my dick. I don't remember her being sopping wet or inner lips open, but I slid my dick head between them a couple of times and then started pushing inside her.

She was tense and her pussy was tight but I slid inside OK, then came back out and started in again. Grabbing my hips and pulling me inside she told me to go all the way in, and to keep pumping. I can't say that she was really enjoying it but she did keep urging me to go deeper, faster, harder, and as I started really slamming my pubic bone against hers she would tense more and seemed to wince each time I hit home.

In fact, I wasn't sure if she was receiving pleasure at all; perhaps the pounding of her clit was doing something which was why she kept encouraging me to go harder. Somewhere before the two minute mark I came, and then pulled out of her. When I saw what was dribbling out of her, I grabbed some Kleenex and she wiped herself while I pulled my pants back up. If there was any blood involved it was wasn't too noticeable.

After she got her pants back on, she kissed me, said thank you, and left. We mostly ignored each other the rest of the time before she went back home.

As you might expect, this left me a bit confused. If someone had give me the birds and bees talk I might have actually understood what was happening from her side and known how to try and make it a much better experience for her.

Several years later I heard from a friend of her sister that she had wanted to get intimate with her boyfriend, didn't want him to think she was inexperienced, and wanted to know she could handle any pain that might be involved. So she choose me to exercise her "mechanically systems" so she could be ready for her boyfriend.

As I said, weird. And I was way too young to even understand foreplay. I don't really count this as my "first" real time but more like "playing doctor".

 

[ahooohgah]

sweet memories!

Being "pornographic" takes practice! He sure won't be able to do it like they do in the movies the first time. There's nothing in the world that can compare to the feeling of a wet and willing pussy....one that is doing as much of the fucking as he is.

My first time was a real surprise. My little dick had never had anything wrapped around it that felt that good. I still remember that feeling, too, after thirty something years. Nothing I can think of could have prepared me for that. And I doubt I could have handled anything more than just basic intercourse.

 

[deadlock32]

My first time was not what I expected, but the reasons behind it arn't exactly a mystery. Simply put, it sucked. It was horrible. At least I know why though. I was absolutly wasted and so was the girl I was with. We had no relationship and it was just a spur of the moment thing at a frat party. I was numb from the booze, it was a "golf party", so there was alot of booze, and then the condom made it ridiculous. I couldn't feel my teeth, much less my dick. There was almost no point. Plus my partner wasn't exactly a virgin. I felt dissapointed that that was my first time, but I hope to find a girl who I can have a relationship with and who wants to have some good "porno" sex.
PS I didn't tell the girl it was my first time.

 

[thickspear]

it met my expectations which were: to not be a virgin anymore...

she was in my high school and a year older than i...some of the guys had had sex and many of the others just said they did and teased the rest of us....so i really wanted to get it done...

the girl was cute, slender, blonde..and that's one of the first things i noticed..blonde on top, light brown below...i had already gone down on her but she was sorta reluctant and i didn't persist...

then one day at school she told me she wanted to go all the way...i acted cool but inside i was woowooing like daffy duck...

so we did it when my parents were out of town...she was tight and i had no real idea of how things worked but we got it done...soon she wanted it a lot...a way lot...it was a very nice experience and these many years later she still keeps in touch...

 

[ntp]

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[BTK51]

Expectations Met and More

I wasn’t prepared for my first time. It was with my girlfriend who had previously said that she wasn’t ready to go all the way even though she wasn’t a virgin. She had recently ended a relationship. She knew that I was a virgin. I wasn’t shocked at the way that she responded, because she was very sexy and very sensual. I knew that the porno stuff was not reality. I do specifically remember enjoying what I was able to make her feel, though to be truthful, I was more focused on how far I was going to get. That night, she never stopped me or even slowed me down.

My first time was a great experience even though I was obviously not very competent. I remember that I didn’t take her pants all the way off and had to fumble around a little getting everything off (never saw that happen in a porn movie). I went into it looking for a new experience and knowing that I had a lot to learn. I never expected my first time to be one of those standing on the head experiences. When I was finally inside her I was able to enjoy the warmth and sensations that were going through my lower body and the excitement of “Yes! I’m in!!”

I don’t remember it lasting that long but she came first so the big fear that I had of being too quick saved me that embarrassment Her bucking during her orgasm was something that I didn't expect and was what put me over the top. I thought that all I would get is a hand job or a grind that night. If I knew that I was going to get laid I probably wouldn’t have lasted two strokes. I also probably wouldn't have gotten laid again for a while lol. Probably my not thinking I was getting lucky that night made me go slower and allowed me to get her worked up. I guess I really did get lucky in more ways than one.

For her part, she knew that eventually we were going to go all the way. She had emotionally made the switch from her old boyfriend to me. She didn’t plan on it happening that night either but said that she did it because she was so worked up and wanted it badly. After it was all over she said that she didn't believe that I was a virgin. Truthful or not, that was exactly what I needed to hear.

 

[ozbloke1980]

No it wasn't shocking for me at all. The thing is I knew exactly what to do and I was doing it with a woman who knew what she was doing too so she was able to give the the right pointers.

 

[lancewannabe]

Horrible first time

My first time was in high school with my g/f. I had NO IDEA what I was doing. We had been dating for 3 or 4 months, and had done some manual self stimulation, but I knew nothing about foreplay. The condom slipped off, I pulled her hair, stepped on her feet, was so nervous I couldn't breathe.
Sure wish I had known then what I do now. I'd probably still be with her.... She was HOT.
Of course I'd not be with my wife, and that would be sad, cause she's HOTTER, and a much better lover.