For anonymous

[UnderYourSpell]

Those who have to hide behind 'anonymous' and haven't got the guts to put their name deserve to end up the same place I put your email ...... in the recycling bin. I've never been a bully, as you so kindly put it, but I suspect you have in your oh so many different disguises that fool nobody. Now I realise the mods may delete this thread and I don't blame them if they do, but I just wanted you to know that you wasted your time because in my book 'anonymous' means shit stirrer and are the lowest of the low.

 

[Tzara]

I actually like Anonymous as a commenter (commentor?), as I think that the anonymity allows people to let go and tell me exactly what they really think—about a poem, about me, whatever, without the fear of any consequences.

That can result in something quite personally nasty, of course. I have been made quite upset by Anonymous comments, but not particularly because of the personal attacks, as much as that I wrote something so upsetting to someone that they wanted to attack me, rather than what I wrote. But that's kind of the cost of living in a free speech world, I think.

In any case, m'dear, it isn't something you can fix by advertising the fact that whatever they did bothered you. That just tells them they succeeded. I know it's hard to put into practice, but if you just ignore them, they will eventually go away. It's called extinction.

Trust me. I really did work on that in grad school.

 

[EroticOrogeny]

I actually like Anonymous as a commenter (commentor?), as I think that the anonymity allows people to let go and tell me exactly what they really think—about a poem, about me, whatever, without the fear of any consequences.

That can result in something quite personally nasty, of course. I have been made quite upset by Anonymous comments, but not particularly because of the personal attacks, as much as that I wrote something so upsetting to someone that they wanted to attack me, rather than what I wrote. But that's kind of the cost of living in a free speech world, I think.

In any case, m'dear, it isn't something you can fix by advertising the fact that whatever they did bothered you. That just tells them they succeeded. I know it's hard to put into practice, but if you just ignore them, they will eventually go away. It's called extinction.

Trust me. I really did work on that in grad school.

I think the tougher problem is extinction of one's own thoughts and feelings on some subject. Its so easy to replay 'old tapes' and reinforce some aspect which maybe should be forgotten.
At least that's my experience.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

Attacking my poetry is one thing but personal attacks via email is another although it proves that the person knows nothing about me. I've always been the one who has felt they are not quite good enough, the way I was brought up of course and I realise that, so I have to push myself just that little bit harder. Or perhaps they do know me and are striking at where they think I am most vunerable which is typical of a bastard and no you didn't hurt me so tough shit
I fought tooth and nail to keep this place going but now there are others around I have backed off quite a bit so i don't see that I've been around enough to be bullying anyone. I hold to what I said though this Anon is a twat with less guts than a snake
BTW I've tried to turn the email enable off numerous times but still they get through so if anyone has any ideas on the subject I'd be grateful

 

[butters]

Attacking my poetry is one thing but personal attacks via email is another although it proves that the person knows nothing about me. I've always been the one who has felt they are not quite good enough, the way I was brought up of course and I realise that, so I have to push myself just that little bit harder. Or perhaps they do know me and are striking at where they think I am most vunerable which is typical of a bastard and no you didn't hurt me so tough shit
I fought tooth and nail to keep this place going but now there are others around I have backed off quite a bit so i don't see that I've been around enough to be bullying anyone. I hold to what I said though this Anon is a twat with less guts than a snake
BTW I've tried to turn the email enable off numerous times but still they get through so if anyone has any ideas on the subject I'd be grateful

Have you tried your buddy list, annie? it's a bit of a pain having to go through adding people to it, but it ought to prevent anyone not on it from mailing you

 

[UnderYourSpell]

Have you tried your buddy list, annie? it's a bit of a pain having to go through adding people to it, but it ought to prevent anyone not on it from mailing you

I'll give that a go sometime thanks ..... will it also stop me getting personal messages saying ' I am well hung and 21 how about it?' !!

 

[vrosej10]

I'll give that a go sometime thanks ..... will it also stop me getting personal messages saying ' I am well hung and 21 how about it?' !!

I am sorry to hear you are having a hard time. People can be enormous tools.

 

[butters]

I'll give that a go sometime thanks ..... will it also stop me getting personal messages saying ' I am well hung and 21 how about it?' !!

...i'm afraid so, unless you've already added them to your buddy list

i get a fair few of those, too, annie. they never fail to surprise me... i'm left thinking 'why???? what's going on in their heads to want to pm me?' *colour me confused*

 

[UnderYourSpell]

I am sorry to hear you are having a hard time. People can be enormous tools.

Thank you I'd maybe pay more attention to their comment if they had the guts to put their name so going at it anonymously is a waste of their time ....... all I think is was a useless prat

...i'm afraid so, unless you've already added them to your buddy list

i get a fair few of those, too, annie. they never fail to surprise me... i'm left thinking 'why???? what's going on in their heads to want to pm me?' *colour me confused*

chancers all lol the thought goes through my head that they can't have a very satisfactory sex life if they have to go round begging for it!

 

[bronzeage]

Attacking my poetry is one thing but personal attacks via email is another although it proves that the person knows nothing about me. I've always been the one who has felt they are not quite good enough, the way I was brought up of course and I realise that, so I have to push myself just that little bit harder. Or perhaps they do know me and are striking at where they think I am most vunerable which is typical of a bastard and no you didn't hurt me so tough shit
I fought tooth and nail to keep this place going but now there are others around I have backed off quite a bit so i don't see that I've been around enough to be bullying anyone. I hold to what I said though this Anon is a twat with less guts than a snake
BTW I've tried to turn the email enable off numerous times but still they get through so if anyone has any ideas on the subject I'd be grateful

Here's an idea. Tell them to go fuck themselves.

One thing I learned a long time ago, no one cares about poetry except poets, and poets as a group are crazy. There is no explaining why they do what they do.

Just be thankful you do not have the carry the psychic burden that has made anonymous the bitter little two legged spider they have become.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

How true and good advice, never have I ever been so spineless that I've sunk to the depths of hiding behind anonimity ..... so Anon either speak out or fuck off!

 

[twelveoone]

...as much as that I wrote something so upsetting to someone that they wanted to attack me, rather than what I wrote

...and I try so hard for that Rite of Spring effect

Seriously, I gotta see it.