Flirting with Those Who are "Taken"

[Vinny]

Yeppers

I RL I always loved the challenge and went for the ladies that were off limits. Now on here, I don't know many people and stay on the down low. I do flirt with several here but to a respectful degree towards their partner unless they tell me otherwise.

 

[lobito]

Lobito,

Don't play, I'm the only one that matters.

Sorry babe, you just do NOT complete me... You're just one in my stable which is now just a bit more select. You're lucky to be in with the others honey. Trust me on that one.

 

[luv2tvl69]

Juicylips

I guess I just took my explanation into the next step. I am a long-winded writer/talker...sorry.

I guess what I am trying to convey is as long as it is in the open and not secretive, not hurting your significant others feelings, agreed upon...then whatever a couple does would be ok.

But most everyone has a limit to what is acceptable. Know your significant others "line", respect your significant other and I think if you pay attention to your significant other and dont get more into your online flirting than your online or RL S/O there should be no hurt feelings. And I think that there is nothing wrong with a little flirting.

I think it keeps Dryfus and my relationship on an interesting level. We share our board time, and our Lit friends, and its pretty well known we are a couple. (RL and on the boards). When we do have the time to be on the boards, we have fun with it. Its a place of fun, entertainment and pleasure. We have mostly been doing alot of reading of the boards as been busy....well, with each other and not a whole lot of posting time. . (yippee for me!)

 

[juicylips]

Re: Juicylips

I guess I just took my explanation into the next step. I am a long-winded writer/talker...sorry.

I guess what I am trying to convey is as long as it is in the open and not secretive, not hurting your significant others feelings, agreed upon...then whatever a couple does would be ok.

Don't apologize!! I always enjoy your responses to my threads. You bring up valid points and express yourself very well.

I happen to agree with the statements you made. Always feel free to post as much as you like.

Cassidy

 

[Summery]

Sorry babe, you just do NOT complete me... You're just one in my stable which is now just a bit more select. You're lucky to be in with the others honey. Trust me on that one.

This disturbs me.....................................

 

[lovetoread]

I no longer flirt the way I did.

Now thats an understatement.

He doesnt like it when I flirt too much,but an occasional one is okay.

However,no one flirts back <with the exception of you JL> anymore.

 

[perks]

1. I haven't seen the list of takers and takees.
2. I am an equal opportunity flirter.
3. I fuck who I want, but this is a flirting question.
4. I'm fucking you, if I want you.
5. If I'm flirting with you, doesn't mean I want to fuck you.


god that sounds quite arrogant

 

[juicylips]

I no longer flirt the way I did.

Now thats an understatement.

He doesnt like it when I flirt too much,but an occasional one is okay.

However,no one flirts back <with the exception of you JL> anymore.

Awwww....ltr....I will flirt with you till Tiger starts growling too loudly at me.....

This is what I was wanting opinions on. If you had noticed a difference in flirting since beginning an online relationship. Whew...thanks for seeing that..lol

Cassidy

 

[ToddHwrd]

Awwww....ltr....I will flirt with you till Tiger starts growling too loudly at me.....

This is what I was wanting opinions on. If you had noticed a difference in flirting since beginning an online relationship. Whew...thanks for seeing that..lol

Cassidy

I'll flirt with both of you sexy ladies...........
Actually I think flirting is fine as long as there is an understanding between you and your SO, and also between the people you flirt with. You don't want them getting the wrong impression

Now back to the other thing Cassidy, LTR how bout a hug

 

[plasticman33]

Awwww....ltr....I will flirt with you till Tiger starts growling too loudly at me.....

This is what I was wanting opinions on. If you had noticed a difference in flirting since beginning an online relationship. Whew...thanks for seeing that..lol

Cassidy

I'll flirt with you, anytime you want Cass!

(Not that I haven't been anyway)

 

[JaymesBlond007]

I enjoy watching all of you flirt with each other. And some of you only flirt with those that are in a certian "comfort-zone". Since it's difficult to try and guess where those lines are, I generally just sit back and play the voyeur. If someone flirts with me, I'll return it, but in phases as not to over step any bounderies.

I'm the same way in the RW. When I'm at the bar or at a club and I see girls smile at me, I automatically assume their being courtieous. I know that many of the women there just want to go out and have a nice time with their friends, and not be bothered by every walking hard-on that steps through the door. Just trying to respect peoples bounderies.

 

[juicylips]

I'll flirt with you, anytime you want Cass!

(Not that I haven't been anyway)

Gee!!!

Is THAT what you have been doing to me all day

You TEASE!!

Cassidy

 

[plasticman33]

Gee!!!

Is THAT what you have been doing to me all day

You TEASE!!

Cassidy

Cass! I'm hurt, I've been totally serious!! Would I tease??? You know you can trust me! Have I ever lied to you?

(Honey I wasn't flirting with Cass! *SMACK* Ow! Honest! *SMACK*)

 

[lobito]

This disturbs me.....................................

Oh good, now let's be honest, anything else that you find disturbing about me lil miss? Go ahead, I'm a man I can take it!

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

I no longer flirt the way I did.

Now thats an understatement.

He doesnt like it when I flirt too much,but an occasional one is okay.

However,no one flirts back <with the exception of you JL> anymore.

Out of respect for the Tiger perchance? Or knowing your heart wouldn't be in it because you've given it to him? Or maybe you're just hanging with the wrong crowd ...lol

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I flirt very little with people who I [/i]know[/i] are "taken" - for the obvious reasons; they are "taken" and I don't want any misunderstandings.

If I do flirt with a "taken" then it is fairly mild, short-lived, and more of a flattering kind of flirting; I think every woman, "taken" or not, deserves to know she is desireable, and telling a woman she is sexy and/or pretty does little harm if I don't pursue it.

 

[privy2u]

Hell of a question. I'm not sure if I am flirting or not now!
I have never met anyone on here I haven't been perfectly honest with. I have never lied or pretended to be something I'm not. That includes telling the truth about my age, wheter or not I am married, ...etc...etc. For me flirting is much more fun when every word spoken is trusted to be honest.
I may be the most boring motherfucker here! But if I flirt with someone they know I ain't feeding them a line of bullshit.
Brutal honesty is a bitch!


Privy

 

[MissTaken]

OMG! This thread just screamed for an entrance by MissTaken!



Seriously, I am not selective about my flirting, but I always ask if someone is attached and discuss the marraige/relationship.

It only matters to me in that it may color how I flirt and my approach. Someone who is "taken" needs a bit of thought in that I would never want to do anything to disrupt a relationship, even inadvertantly.

I, too, am brutally honest and agree that this honesty only enhances the quality of my online friendships and yes, flirting.

When taken, I still flirt as it has no impact on my real life relationship.

 

[TigerClaw]

Originally posted by juicylips
Do you flirt as much with people who you know are in relationship on the boards, or do you back off and not feel comfortable with doing that?
Yes, I used to. I tried to flirt with only single women. But I did find out one or two were attached so I backed off. Why? I have been on the hunt so long I only developed the hunt flirting skills over time.

How about those of you who are taken, do you have any problems watching your partner flirt? Is there an imaginary line you two draw as to how far you will something go with another person?
Yes. Well, I enjoy when she flirts, but I dont like it. Ha, now is that a double standard or what. I chose to stop flirting. Why? Because of the above I am in the process of trying to reinvent myself on the bb's. Do I flirt or not flirt. Well, she has already told me I can not flirt, yet I have told her she can. Another double standard. Ha. As for drawing lines. She and I had clearly defined boundary lines and look at where it got us. Hopelessly in Love. So, how do you develop friendships without flirting.

Just curious, as usual
Cassidy Answered by: TigernNJ

 

[Juspar Emvan]

I'll flirt with anything that breathes. The thing that'll guide me is not their relationship status, but thier responsiveness. There's no point flirting with someone like Sexygirl, regardless of how sexy they are, just not interested. But I've flirted with singles, married and those in on-line relationships with equaly vigour. I try not to say anything that I wouldn't back up in RL, which means right now I don't suggest I'd actaully hook up, but the innuendo's and sexual banter are just plain fun.

 

[Cath!]

I'll flirt with anything that breathes. The thing that'll guide me is not their relationship status, but thier responsiveness.

Just don't allow him to dance with you...that is an experience one can never recover from.

 

[crystalhunting]

I'll flirt with anything that breathes. The thing that'll guide me is not their relationship status, but thier responsiveness. There's no point flirting with someone like Sexygirl, regardless of how sexy they are, just not interested. But I've flirted with singles, married and those in on-line relationships with equaly vigour. I try not to say anything that I wouldn't back up in RL, which means right now I don't suggest I'd actaully hook up, but the innuendo's and sexual banter are just plain fun.

I second this.



CH

 

[Debbie]

I am a flirty tease! Seriously I am. And I am attached. MY SO is a member but he rarely posts. We have no secrets. He can read my posts at any time. We often chat about Lit and some of the interesting threads on here.
He has no problem with me flirting.
I flirt with people here on Lit once I get to know them. (Attached or not) Juspar said it so well, innuendo and sexual banter. Good fun, no harm done. I am honest and open about saying I am married.
I also respect people. Some, I don't flirt with but can have a very interesting conversation with, others I am just downright silly with. All in good fun. I would never take any of my banter off the board and into my R/l.

 

[fallon2]

sexy

Flirting is sexy and if it makes both people feel good . . .that is a very cool thing indeed.

 

[Jaded1]

To flirt or not to flirt? That is the question!

I think any one that knows me knows that I'm a flirt. I have always felt that each of us as individuals are responsible for are actions. I feel that each person has his or her identity before any commitement. I believe it is health to feel desireable. I do not have a problem with a lover flirting with another man. Perhaps, it makes me work a little hard to remain at the top of her list If I fall from grace in her eyes it's my fault Keeping her extremely satified can be so much dam fun Any questions

Jaded1, CT

Oh, and Debbiexxx you look sensual as ever tonight......