fisting

[catalina_francisco]

I'm actually not sure what to think of that argument. I've used it in the past myself, bbut someone pointed out to me that a woman's body goes through physical changes during pregnancy and childbirth. So I don't know if it really makes sense or not. If one is trying to convince one's partner to try harder/again, it's wort bringing up, but in reality I don't know how accurate it is.

I have been at the point of feeling every bone would have to break, but patience and working toward a common goal, and a lot of relaxation helped. Quite often if you have medical problems, a doctor will open a woman up with a speculum to the size of a fist + without difficulty, so I imagine it is possible, just not maybe without a little work from both.

Catalina

 

[FurryFury]

Thanks Etoile and Catalina!

Both of you give me food for thought. I keep some latex gloves around and we shall revisit this sometime, for sure!

Why do I keep latex gloves around? LOL!

Because when two of the fingers are punctured and it is filled with fluids you can simulate milking a cows udders. The kids love that when I tell "Farm" stories.

*giggles*

Anyway, nope, we are not done with, The Way of the Fist.

*L*

Fury

 

[brioche]

Thanks Etoile and Catalina!

Both of you give me food for thought. I keep some latex gloves around and we shall revisit this sometime, for sure!

Why do I keep latex gloves around? LOL!

Because when two of the fingers are punctured and it is filled with fluids you can simulate milking a cows udders. The kids love that when I tell "Farm" stories.

*giggles*

Anyway, nope, we are not done with, The Way of the Fist.

*L*

Fury

I've always wondered about that - latex gloves.

I'm allergic to latex. It's a mild allergy, and the main thing, at the moment, is to keep it from getting worse. I had to go through my products and make sure that there was no latex in them, because every exposure to latex will make it get worse. I was really disappointed, for example, when I saw these awesome foam letters at a conference because it turned out there were small amounts of latex in them. The amount doesn't matter, if the protein is there it can make an allergy worse.

Latex allergy used to be seen almost exclusively in health care workers and kids with conditions like spina bifida who undergo repeated operations. The explanation was that the repeated exposure caused it.

But I am neither a health care worker nor a person who underwent such operations, so why I'm allergic shouldn't be exposure. The only latex other than erasers and balloons that I was regularly exposed to was the latex gloves I used to colour my hair and the rubber gloves I used to use to clean the bathroom.

We have disposable vinyl gloves for that now.

Anyway, given that people use latex gloves and latex condoms, I've always wondered if that kind of exposure to a mucous membrane, which genitalia are, counts as exposure. Could it possibly cause someone to develop an allergy?

Sorry for the mini-hijack, but I've always wondered.

 

[FurryFury]

I don't know that much about latex allergies though I am aware they exist.

I'd have to actually walk my ass down to the basement to see what my box of thin gloves is really made out of.

*thinks about it, looks at lap cat*

Maybe later.

Fury

 

[Etoile]

I have been at the point of feeling every bone would have to break, but patience and working toward a common goal, and a lot of relaxation helped. Quite often if you have medical problems, a doctor will open a woman up with a speculum to the size of a fist + without difficulty, so I imagine it is possible, just not maybe without a little work from both.

Catalina

Oh, I definitely agree. I do think it's possible for most women to take a fist with enough patience and effort. I'm just not sure that the size a baby has anything to do with it.

Here's the only thing I could find in A Hand in the Bush:

Do I have to have a baby before I can be fisted?
Nope. There are physiological differences between bodies that have given birth and those that haven't, but fisting isn't dependent upon those differences. Fisting may be easier for those who have given vaginal birth, but many who haven't can also enjoy it.

And also from that book:

I have fairly large hands; how big is too big?
For the most part, size doesn't matter. I have really big hands - I can't ever buy women's gloves off the rack, and I take a large in men's gloves. I've had no difficulty fisting any of my partners. I've fisted women who haven't had kids, and women who have; I've fisted women who couldn't even use a small dildo because it was too big and hurt them. Small hands are not the key to fisting; the secrets are patience, patience, patience and lube, lube, lube, lube, lube.

If your hand is too big to fit all the way in on the first attempt, stop, and try it again some other time. Don't be disappointed; it can take several tries to make it all the way in, especially if she's young, small, and hasn't given birth or been fisted before. If, after several tries, your hand still won't fit, then your hand may be too large for that particular cunt. Some women are simply too narrow through the pelvis to take almost any fist.

So that's some stuff to think about.

 

[FurryFury]

Oh, I definitely agree. I do think it's possible for most women to take a fist with enough patience and effort. I'm just not sure that the size a baby has anything to do with it.

Here's the only thing I could find in A Hand in the Bush:


And also from that book:

So that's some stuff to think about.

Cool!

I'll be cuttin pastin and sending it to my guy.

Thanks!

Fury

 

[caela]

Anyway, given that people use latex gloves and latex condoms, I've always wondered if that kind of exposure to a mucous membrane, which genitalia are, counts as exposure. Could it possibly cause someone to develop an allergy?

Sorry for the mini-hijack, but I've always wondered.

I'd love to know who told you you have to be exposed to latex to have a latex allergy. It's gotta be one of the silliest things I've ever heard. You of course have to be exposed to it to have a reaction but not to have the allergy. That's like saying you have to be exposed to cats to be allergic...just not true. You won't know about the allergy until you are exposed because you won't react until then but the sensitivity was likely always there although some allergies can develop as you get older as well.

Like nearly all allergies however they were right that repeated exposures can make the reactions worse and yeah I hate to say it but latex gloves and condoms count. Be glad you actually had to ask instead of learning that the hard way like a friend of mine did. She had a nasty reaction the very first time she had sex because her bf of the time was a good responsible boy and used a condom...she didn't know until then she had a latex allergy. OOPS.

 

[graceanne]

Oh, I definitely agree. I do think it's possible for most women to take a fist with enough patience and effort. I'm just not sure that the size a baby has anything to do with it.

Here's the only thing I could find in A Hand in the Bush:


And also from that book:

So that's some stuff to think about.

That was interesting. See, K's tried several times, and had to stop - he's hurting my hips. I have a very narrow pelvis, it's one of the reasons I had cesarians. Nothing was fitting through there. I've wondered if that might be the problem.

 

[Kierae]

I too had c sections and have a narrow pelvis but have been fisted. It takes alot of patience, lube and stretching (He used several large dildos to help work up to it). I know that I couldn't take someone with a very large hand/knuckle span vaginally. Personally have fisted and handballed for years though - same concept applies to the anal fisting except more patience involved and it WILL take whatever you give it (so hand size means nothing). It is a trip to be up to your elbow in someone.

 

[FurryFury]

*shrugs*

I've had one C and one Vaginal birth. There is a LOT of bone right there though. I'm just trying to learn.

Fury

 

[sexychik69]

Thanks for posting this... it was extremely interesting reading because I'm new to the BDSM world, and as of right now, fisting is only a fantasy for me.

It was really cool to read the different things... techniques, emotions, safety, etc. because it made me think of all the ways and reasons why fisting is so arousing and now I understand it better why I want to try it. Anyway, thanks again.

 

[Etoile]

Thanks for posting this... it was extremely interesting reading because I'm new to the BDSM world, and as of right now, fisting is only a fantasy for me.

It was really cool to read the different things... techniques, emotions, safety, etc. because it made me think of all the ways and reasons why fisting is so arousing and now I understand it better why I want to try it. Anyway, thanks again.

Feel free to ask any questions you have, too.

 

[Mamid]

wow... I go away for a while and... oh my.. not only is this topic active, but.. wow.. body memories.... major ones... I'm flushed.

The only thing I can compare fisting to is giving birth. Litterally. I've had a child without any anesthetic and since this was a home birth, I was allowed to do what I needed to birth the child. The pressure of the birthing head on all of the sensitive endorphin producing parts of my nethers is what the fist replicates when I am being fisted. It hits the same spots and is very much the same feeling - overwhelming endorphin rush.

Once fisted, the worst thing to do to a fistee is to leave them. They are very vulnerable because it is a very spiritual place that they go to during the fisting. Stay with them. Stroke them. Tell them sweetnesses. But don't leave them. The worst thing that can be done is to leave them alone.

 

[Mamid]

ooooo Found Penalt's and mine original posts on fisting...

 

[Etoile]

Once fisted, the worst thing to do to a fistee is to leave them. They are very vulnerable because it is a very spiritual place that they go to during the fisting. Stay with them. Stroke them. Tell them sweetnesses. But don't leave them. The worst thing that can be done is to leave them alone.

I'm a little confused - how could you leave someone while you were fisting them? Or did you mean in the sense of mentally not paying attention?

I've never found fisting to be particularly spiritual, but I'm not a spiritual person by any means. I guess because it ends up happening 90% of the time my wife and I have sex, it's more an erotic thing for me than it is spiritual.

 

[Mamid]

I'm a little confused - how could you leave someone while you were fisting them? Or did you mean in the sense of mentally not paying attention?

the actual physical act of leaving the fistee after the act of fisting. Not a good idea.

I hope that clears that out.

 

[Xelebes]

So I tried fisting myself in the ass. I realised it would be futile as my hands are much larger than most guys but it was worth a shot - see how many fingers I could get in and stuff. I found flexibility and the positioning of the torso quite important to get anywhere. That said, I managed to get 4 fingers in up to the 2nd knuckle and tried getting in the thumb. The thumb is harder because then it became a contest with my body's flexibility.

Prolly something I need working on, lol.

 

[Etoile]

the actual physical act of leaving the fistee after the act of fisting. Not a good idea.

I hope that clears that out.

Ah, I now understand what you meant, though I'm not sure I agree with the concept.

 

[James G 5]

Ah, I now understand what you meant, though I'm not sure I agree with the concept.

I see you kept making trouble after I left...you still around?

 

[misspihla]

This was interesting thread to read... I think we will try fisting me with my girlfriend in near future. So far we have been in too much hurry to actually take it slowly and try. And I guess fisting is something you wont do just spontaneously.

 

[James G 5]

This was interesting thread to read... I think we will try fisting me with my girlfriend in near future. So far we have been in too much hurry to actually take it slowly and try. And I guess fisting is something you wont do just spontaneously.

Not usually in a HEALTHY fashion, no

 

[Quint]

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[Etoile]

I see you kept making trouble after I left...you still around?

Yes indeed, and it's very good to see you. I was thinking about you just a week or two ago, I'm glad to see your name again.
Moi? A troublemaker?

 

[James G 5]

Yes indeed, and it's very good to see you. I was thinking about you just a week or two ago, I'm glad to see your name again.
Moi? A troublemaker?

Naughty thoughts, I hope!
I hadn't seen you on any of my Messengers in ages so I wondered what you were up to

 

[Andraste]

this thread made me throb...

i never tried fisting until after i'd given birth.
after an 11lb baby, fisting isn't ever a struggle.

the feeling?
it's like the whole world centres in my cunt.
also i love/hate the vulnerability...it's him invading my body in a far more extreme way than regular sex.

what fisting does to my state of mind...read my title.